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Death and God
Hey, my dad past away May 2004. This past year has been the hardest year of my life. I'm worried about myself because i was a hard core christian before my dad died and now i feel like im loosing faith because im mad at God for taking my dad from me! In youth last wednesday, our minister said that god is there through all your problems, im just really confused because he is the reason i have this problem! I know God does everything for a reason but i still cant seem to forgive and i feel like im going far away from him when i need him the most! What can i do to get back my awesome relationship with God?
Thanx!!!
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read the Bible, just talk to Him. Pray. Go to Church. He'll always forgive you, and help you!!
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I know that it is hard to lose a loved one. This summer I lost my Grandma. I know that she probably wasn't as close to me as you were with your dad but I have a small grasp of wut u mean. What I did, was I made some really good friends at my church. I could talk to them with my doubts. At a youth group get together last sunday, my youth minister said that it is ok to doubt God, or his exsistence, or his role in your life. I know you will tire of hearing this but He does everything for a reason. I can't tell you why he let your Father die, but maybe he was saving him from something else that was going to happen. Maybe, it was just his time. Your Dad is watching you along with God, and I'm sure that they both don't want this to make your relationship suffer. Just make some small steps to get back to where you were. God took your Father away from you so I'm sure that he has a plan to get you back to him.
I hope everything works out! Luv ya sweetie!
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Getting back to God starts with prayer. Read the Bible, so you can hear him answer you. I really suggest you read both Job and Psalms.
On a more practical matter, go to church whether you want to or not for a little while. I know this is really hard for you. Ask your fellow Christians to pray for you. The first time you lose someone really close to you, it makes it hard sometimes to talk to God. It is part of grieving sometimes. Everything happens for a reason that God only knows.
Talk to your minister or youth group leader about having lunch or spending some time talking about your father's recent death. There is no reason to face this alone. Hopefully you will come out of this a stronger Christian than you were before.
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I recommend this book to you, "The Purpose Driven Life" by: Rick Warren. It is a very easy to read book for teens and up and tells you why you exist and what you are supposed to do. I think it's a really good book. Er, it's Christian by the way ^^
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you could think of all the good times god helped you have with your dad and then make it like your dad is still there and live normally im sooooo sry about your dad!!!!!!!!!!!
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talk to the minister about it personaly and privately and she what he says.. he'll probably help you more than anyone of us could online
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my brother passed away and for a while there my parents didnt go to church or anything.. but after a while you realize you will be with them again and alot more happier, your never going to get used to the fact you losing your dad, that pain will never go away.. but you can be happy still about life, your dad would want you to have a awesome relationship with god again and enjoy your life he wouldnt want you to be unhappy. good luck sweety *kay*
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Well you're right because this is a time when you need Him the most. I know that you're angry at God for taking your dad and I know that it must be really hard to deal with this but you have to know in your heart that God didn't do this to hurt you. He needed your dad with Him and now your dad is in the best place imaginable. Please hold on to your faith and even when you feel yourself losing faith, always know that God loves you.
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sry 2 hear about that... maybe you dont kno the reason now but will find out later in life. my dad died in 2003 and even if he hadnt died he would have died from cancer which he didnt know he had
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Your beliefs are really up to you, though think over the whole situation, people die because it is their fate, we all end up experincing a passing away at one point. My closest friend lost his dad, though he is still strong, and I have to say he was in shock. You really just need to remember one thing, your father is always with you in your heart and he is in a better place. If you ever feel like you need him most, remember all the good times and pray to him. He is in good hands for certain, and the Lord will watch over him no matter what. Hope life brightens up a bit for you, dear.
- Kai -
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The only thing that I think you can do is talk to Him. I know you probably have already tried that.. and this may sound cheesy, but I mean tell Him that you're angry. God does do everything for a reason, and He has a great plan for your father up in heaven. He doesn't want you to lose faith, this should bring you closer to him... if it were me, I would honestly probably lose faith too. Be totally honest with him, and when you pray, don't hold your anger that you have for Him back, because he already knows how you're feeling. Also, if your church is having a camp or something like that soon, that will DEFINATLY help. I too, was losing my faith in God for various troubles I couldn't seem to get past or understand why I was being put through them. The only thing I can tell you is to be totally far out honest with Him when you pray. And if by chance there is a church camp type of thing coming up, I promise you that will help you a lot. Keep reading the bible, and working to keep your faith. It probably won't happen anytime too soon, but if you work to re-build your relationship with God, it'll come back soon enough. I'm really sorry to hear about your dad, and you're in my prayers.
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remember- your beliefs are up to you!
religion is a personal thing, and you have absolutely no reason to feel at blame for bad things that happen... for instance, millions of jewish, christian, MANY innocent people died without reason in the holocaust, and g-d certainly didn't make that happen for a reason. it would take a long time to heal from trauma, but slowly you can heal your relationship with g-d.
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