Need advice about life in general? I shall do my best to help you in whatever way I can through my own experinces or anothers that I know of, and will even try my best to help by putting myself in your situation. You may want to check back just incase if I ask a question or something along those lines so I can see more of the situation and possibly get a better solution than the one I previously had. I shall do whatever I can to help out, and if anything I say confuses you, just e-mail me and I shall try to explain it a different way so you can understand ^^;
E-mail: Veliande@hotmail.com
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Age: 16
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13/f. OH MY GAWD. K so like I just have a 5 person orgy. (we usd condums) but the guy I was doing at the time has an std and he wore a condom but it broke and he spermed in me. And then I had sex with 2 other guys and rubbed my vagina on a chick. We all might be in danger. Today my vagina was bleeding! What do I do? I might be pregnant and have an std, and Im apposed to have sex again today with a different guy! Wut do I do?!?!?! help me!!
xoxo
P.S. Dont call me a slut cause im not! (link)
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Was your period due sometime soon? Possibilities are it is just your period(coming early, for the first time, late, etc.) and since it was ready for your period to just come and the sperm just did effect the egg or it was just too late. Though I would still get it checked out for your safety and future others as well. Good luck.
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i have a guy friend that i am really close to we cant go out 1) bc of distance 2) bc he has a gf right now. anyways his gf is always a bitch to me. i think it is bc she jealous bc i am so close to him and that he cares about another girl(me) and she says shit that he will never do me and that i shouldnt be wastin my time and callin me a skank and trash.... and she says all of this to my best friend well she says shit when she doesnt even noe who the fuck i am and idk what do bc he is a great person and i dont wnat to lose him over s stupid bitch like her? (link)
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I can relate with you directly on this one, trust me, I have a really close guy friend who went out with my worst enemy and she began pushing us away from each other. What I would have to say is speak with him right away and let him know what is going on. If he cares about you as a good friend like my guy friend did, he'll speak with his girlfriend. Also try to ignore her the best you can and don't let her comments get to you, knowing they are will only satisfy her and make her want to put you down so she can ruin your friendship. You DO NOT want to get in the condition I was in(I was having a mental breakdown because I always believe I can handle things myself and never ask for help), so tell him and let him know as I said before. The sooner you can get her to stop being mean and possibly have him able to defend you, the better. I hope this really works out, I don't want another girl to suffer as much pain as I did. If he is a true friend... he'll be there for you, no matter what. Good luck, dear.
- Kai -
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I'm a teen, and after changing schools and being away for a few years, I moved back to my hometown this summer. I have a guy friend that I was best friends with before I left, and I'm starting to like him as more then a friend. But, I don't know if he likes me back. We're in English together and over the past couple of weeks I'm noticed him glancing my way out of the corner of my eye and he comes over to my desk 'just to talk' all the time. He's started sitting at my table at lunch and other things also. Do you think he likes me, and if so, what do you think I should do about it? (link)
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Hmm... I think he may like you, though I for now take it easy. I have a guy friend as well who seems to act that way(it's been a little over a year now too) and he still has those habits and never asked me out yet and hasn't told anyone up until now that he likes me(either that or they are keeping it completely silent, good for them). Just get to know each other even better and watch out for signs of flirting(if he isn't a flirter at heart like my guy friend) or possibly that 'look' in his eyes. If he is a flirter, it will be harder to tell, though if he seems a little more flirty or just doesn't flirt at all, it may be a sign. Just have patience, and something good may come out of it! I hope things will work out for you, if you have any questions or anything along those lines, feel free to contact me and I'll try to help out the best I can ^^;
- Kai -
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Well, i have this friend and she thinks i am annoying and said it behind my back to one of her guy friends. I asked her to sit with me that day and she came over. We talked about normal stuff and i didn't find me annoying at all. I was really sad becuase my friend and i are really close and she is ALWAYS taling behind my back. Does a real friend do that...talk behind your back. And what should i do cuz i don't think i am annoying?? SHould i hang out with other ppl that don't think i am annoying? (link)
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You should ask her about it, possibly one day when you are talking about her pop in the question and ask 'am I annoying you somehow?' or something along those lines and see if she responds. Though if she is always talking about you behind your back, don't tell her any secrets and you might, as much as I would hate to say it, have to leave her behind and move on. It happens often, everything in life is a drama, we just have to learn with ways to deal with it. Certainly look to other friends and try to get newer ones, you never know where a true friend can be hiding.
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I'm 13 and female. Ok, my best guy friend is startin to act all wierd. I mean, he used to be so nice and sweet to me and give me all sorts of advice on guys. That was before he got with his girlfriend. Then he got with is girlfriend and he was still just as sweet and kind, but then they broke up and now he's so different. It's hard to explain. He's not as sweet as he used to be and he doesn't give advice, he just says,"ur screwed then" and he's always talking to his ex-girlfriend. I don't mean to be jealous, but I do get jealous easily. He really has changed. I know he says I'm his best female friend, because he told me. I don't know how to ask him what's up with out sounding totally bitchy or jealous. Please help. I'm an advice comlumnist,too and I guess everyone needs help once in a while.
~K~ (link)
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Yes, we all get stuck, I know because even I cannot think of a way out of situations even if I know what to do I just freeze up. What I would do it talk to him normally then bring up the question to see if anything is bothering him, though try to do it while you two are alone so if anything is, he can tell you and you only without worrying about others. If he refuses to give in and say something is wrong, let him know that you are always there if he needs someone to talk to if something IS bothering him. I know that break-ups can cause it, since sometimes it affects them, or the person they were with just seems to get changed all together, you just need to help them out and get them back on track ^^;. I hope this helped you at least a bit.
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theres this guy.. i'm in grade 8 now and i've known him since grade 3.. hes really great and i like him really much... i started liking him as a crush in grade 6.. buh then i was a gayass in grade 6 so then i acted really immature and he hated me until now.. yet i've heard that he liked me last year but doesn't anymore.. i wanna tell him that i'm sorry and ask him if we can start over.. buh every time i walk up to him no words cum out and i look like an idiot.. i'm scared of how he'd react cuz i'm really sensitive and emotional and i mite start crying infront of him and that'll be embaressing.. its like i'm scared of him and i can't go and talk to him... do you have any advice on how i can get rid of this fear of rejection and maybe have enough courage to express my feelings to him? *excuse the grammer plz* (link)
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This is where you really need courage, dear, I can understand fully. I like this guy and I just can't tell him mostly because of my fear of rejection and all. I would just say to pratice it, try to get words into your head, or write him a note. Anything you can do to just get it out and tell him the truth and all, you should try. Even if in the end if it doesn't work out, you can at least see that you tried and had both the strength AND courage to risk it all. Good luck, dear.
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I was wondering what kind of shoes people wear to go "clubbin" in, lol. Last time i asked a question i asked what people wear and i was answered jeans + nice tank top/ tube top shirt but noone said what kind of shoes people wear. Me and my friend are both tall so if you say heels, then there will be a problem for us. LOL thanks i'll rate =) (link)
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I'm... not that good with fashion, though I can try to help out a bit. It really depends on what you are wearing, if it's something classy, try to get a nice pair of shoes and something actually comfortable you can move around in. It's the comfort and matching that matters in my opinion, really. Hope I helped a bit.
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Please don't delete this question, because I am actually very curious about this. Why do people join this website who aren't even serious about helping people or receiving help? People who need help come here and some ignorant people joke around and even insult these people in need. Don't you think it's time we suspend or expel these rude people? I'm sick of it myself. (link)
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-Sighs.- I am afraid there are just cruel people in the world who just want to make themselves better by putting the others who ask for the advice down. They are just the type who can't see how much these people possibly need this since they just are too afraid to admit it to anyone in the real world, and on the internet it is given with ease, since it is like writing(I know through experince, I write whenever I am really down and all that). I believe the people who are cruel and all should be stopped, since it might be hurting others feelings, and it just isn't right.
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I have a crush who likes me a little bit. I love talking in person sometimes but the phone is harder for me to talk with someone. Especially my crush! Im supposed to call him in about an hour but i have no idea what to talk about im scared that i might have an akward moment and not talk, then what will he think of me? Does anyone have any ideas about what i should say or do if theirs an akward yet scilent moment? Please help and thank you! (link)
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I would say to start off with simple questions, like what some of their favorite things are(color, animal, etc.) and what they enjoy to do, stuff like that. Just think of questions that you two could talk about to get you two to know each other better. If it seems to go well, try to focus on a certain subject, and if he isn't interested, see what he wants to talk about. Good luck!
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Hey, my dad past away May 2004. This past year has been the hardest year of my life. I'm worried about myself because i was a hard core christian before my dad died and now i feel like im loosing faith because im mad at God for taking my dad from me! In youth last wednesday, our minister said that god is there through all your problems, im just really confused because he is the reason i have this problem! I know God does everything for a reason but i still cant seem to forgive and i feel like im going far away from him when i need him the most! What can i do to get back my awesome relationship with God?
Thanx!!! (link)
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Your beliefs are really up to you, though think over the whole situation, people die because it is their fate, we all end up experincing a passing away at one point. My closest friend lost his dad, though he is still strong, and I have to say he was in shock. You really just need to remember one thing, your father is always with you in your heart and he is in a better place. If you ever feel like you need him most, remember all the good times and pray to him. He is in good hands for certain, and the Lord will watch over him no matter what. Hope life brightens up a bit for you, dear.
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I'm not a person that opens up to people usually. There is an acquaintance that I've had in my life for over 6 years that recently started becoming my best friend. We would spend every waking hour together for about 6 months. It was so great. She did get annoying sometimes, but that happens with all consistancy I believe. She had two good friends before her and I really became good friends.
Here's a little background about us. She is more into the fashion scene, while I'm more into the music scene. Somewhere we meet in the middle. I usually dislike people who are into fashion and showing themselves. But she is different. She has some kind of hippy-like quality inside her.
One of her friends was moving, so she moved in with that girl for about a month, to help her packup. We almost didn't talk at all after constantly being together for 6 months. After a month had gone by, she said she was going to drive across the country with them and help them unpack. After about 2 weeks of that, she decided to move in with them 3,000 miles away.
[[Her reason is to get away from her parents and grow up. But she's moving in with people that are 2 years younger than her and way too wild to let her mature into an adult and not a partying adolescent wanna-be adult]]
I'm moving into the country soon, so my chances of making new friends are going to be even more slim. Her family is moving about 5 minutes away from me though. She's leaving behind her childhood friend and myself to follow dreams I know she is still too immature to accomplish.
She has come back for a month to get her stuff and say goodbye. Should I release her back to the fashion-hungered, immature group that she was in before? ... Or do I fight to keep her here and keep the best friend that I came to know and love? (link)
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I know most said this already, though I must agree with them... you should certainly tell her about how you feel with the situation and let her know that you care about her safety. You could point out the positives and negatives to both of the choices she has if you want to, though it is as one person said, her choice in the end. Though I believe she really shouldn't move away from her parents with those who are younger than her unless she is older than I am imagining she is. Hope everything does work out, and always be there for her no matter what the decision!
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I think I'm beginning to bore my boyfriend a little, which is very scary because I really want it to last for a long time. See, we just started officially "going out" not too long ago. At first, the conversation on the phone was awesome....Everything was great. But I think you eventually come to a point where you've gotten to know the person well enough and you run out of questions to ask...random childhood stories to tell...And then there's nothing to talk about other than stuff that happened to the two of you that particular day and junk like that. Because lately, our phone conversations have been reallly dead, and it seems like our relationship is beginning to become more and more of a "sexual" rather than mental relationship. What can I do about this?????? How can I think of interesting stuff to talk about on the phone and not bore him to death? (link)
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I have to agree with the advice some people have given here, actually. You should try to go out with him more often one-on-one or with a friend or two joining. Hanging out is often better than the phone, since there is a bit more to do and there is always something you can talk about. Just be careful of what happens, watch yourself, and things should go fine. And trust me, there is ALWAYS something you don't know, even my closest friend and I are still learning things about each other that we never knew. All I can really say is this and look to the bright side, if things aren't working out, tell him the truth and just see what his opinion is. Good luck.
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So yesterday this girl and i were standing and talking and lunch and she sees the guy I like walking over with his friend, so she runs over and starts asking him why he randomly danced with another girl right after he had stopped dancing with me and had told me he wanted to find his friends. I hadn't wanted her to mention anything because it did bother me but i knew that he probably didn't like me but i didn't want to make a big deal out of it. So after she talked to him she came over and she's like yea sorry he likes the other girl he danced with. Now i am afraid that he thinks that I told her to go over and ask him stuff about the dance, when I didn't. His friend says that he is really mad now, and i don't know if its at me or my friend or what. I just wanna be his friend now, even if he doesn't like me. What should i do? it also seems like he is avoding me but i don't really know. -Sorry this is long.. (link)
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Take a deep breath and relax a bit, look over the situation carefully. Your friend was a bit concerned and I could understand her doing that, though in truth she really shouldn't of. If he seems to be avoiding you, let him cool off a bit and see if he gets better, if not I would suggest trying to talk to him about it. If he figured out you like him and doesn't like that and can't accept it, your a little stuck, though a true friend should be able to deal with it. I just really hope things will work out for you.
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