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What should I do?
I'm not a person that opens up to people usually. There is an acquaintance that I've had in my life for over 6 years that recently started becoming my best friend. We would spend every waking hour together for about 6 months. It was so great. She did get annoying sometimes, but that happens with all consistancy I believe. She had two good friends before her and I really became good friends.
Here's a little background about us. She is more into the fashion scene, while I'm more into the music scene. Somewhere we meet in the middle. I usually dislike people who are into fashion and showing themselves. But she is different. She has some kind of hippy-like quality inside her.
One of her friends was moving, so she moved in with that girl for about a month, to help her packup. We almost didn't talk at all after constantly being together for 6 months. After a month had gone by, she said she was going to drive across the country with them and help them unpack. After about 2 weeks of that, she decided to move in with them 3,000 miles away.
[[Her reason is to get away from her parents and grow up. But she's moving in with people that are 2 years younger than her and way too wild to let her mature into an adult and not a partying adolescent wanna-be adult]]
I'm moving into the country soon, so my chances of making new friends are going to be even more slim. Her family is moving about 5 minutes away from me though. She's leaving behind her childhood friend and myself to follow dreams I know she is still too immature to accomplish.
She has come back for a month to get her stuff and say goodbye. Should I release her back to the fashion-hungered, immature group that she was in before? ... Or do I fight to keep her here and keep the best friend that I came to know and love?
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You can only do so much. She has to go out and make her own mistakes. But you can still try. Sit down and talk to her. Basically tell her what you wrote ^. good luck!
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I know most said this already, though I must agree with them... you should certainly tell her about how you feel with the situation and let her know that you care about her safety. You could point out the positives and negatives to both of the choices she has if you want to, though it is as one person said, her choice in the end. Though I believe she really shouldn't move away from her parents with those who are younger than her unless she is older than I am imagining she is. Hope everything does work out, and always be there for her no matter what the decision!
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i know it'll be hard, but sometimes you just have to let her make her own decision. i understand you are being a great friend, but you can't stop her from moving with the girls if that's what she really wants. just be there for her and if she ever needs you, help her! maybe later on she will decide to move back, and you will be there to keep her company! you can talk to her about this to change her mind, but if she doesn't, there's nothing you can do about it. sorry.. :/
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If she is your friend fight for what you believe in and tell her how you feel that you love her and you are looking out for her.
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ooh.. i believe you should definitely try to tell her whats on your mind. I don't blame you for wanting her to stay. This is not a case of friends growing apart.
Fight with all you have, because she might be making a mistake if she hasn't thought about it good enough.
Hope things work out.
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