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Is my friend a liar?
I have this firend of mine whom i've known since grade school. We are now 22 years old. When we were about 16 years old he told me that his sister had a baby and that he was left to take care of it. I found it strange because the baby was not his responsibility. He then told me that his sister took the baby to live across town.
We got out of touch with each other since high school. And met up again in College. It was a year or so when he decided to confide in me and tell me that he had a son when he was 17. He then told me that his son died due to medical reasons. I was his shoulder to lean on.
Recently i met another old high school freind of mine who said that she sees him all the time and he showed her pictures oh his son. I told her that i knew all about his son and i was sorry about what happened. She looked at me with questioning eyes and asked what happened to his son. I told her that his son died. She laughed and said no his so is not dead. She told me that the last time she saw him he told her that he had to buy some books for his son because he is starting school.
I was shocked. I could not belive it. I knew she was not lying she had no reason to lie. And it sounds like his son is no longer a baby. A baby does not need books. It sounds more like a first grader. As if the child was 7 years old. It was seven years ago when we were 16 and he had to take care of his sister's baby.
Could it be that my friend is a cold blooded liar? And if so why does he feel the need to lie to me. The person who was there for him through his so call suffering. And why would he tell me htat his son is dead when the opposite is true?
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hun! talk to him about it..ask him why he lied to you.. Hopefully i helped XOXO CHellie <3 ps:if u ever neeed anything *ASK*
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You just need to confront this whole thing, and tell him that you want the truth, and if he still tells you his son died, say that you know he is not because somebody who sees him all the time has told you, and if he still does NOT own up to it, just say "I don't know why you feel the need to lie to me, but I would really like to know, because I do not like being lied to, I have always respected you as my friend and I have been your shoulder to cry on, and I feel as if I am getting lied to for being that person." If he STILL won't, hes really not worth it, trust me, the last person you want to befriend are liars.
-TheTeenGirl
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Woah, that's definatly a werid situation, and a disturbing one. I really don't know what would trigger people to lie about such a thing. One, he might not want you to be ashamed of him, and therefore put in some sympathy line to possibly make you not be so upset about him lying all those years. Another reason MAYBE, is that he feels he lacks attention and needed someone to listen to him complain, so he could feel loved and not alone. Other than that I can't think of any reasons why someone would make up such a horrid lie like that. If I were you, I'd confront him, try not to make it too confrentational, and then go on with my life without him. If he's going to lie about something like that, who knows what other lies he could make up.
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Because you manage to pick out the lying bunch. Confront him, tell him you hate liars and hes one of them. Tell him to spill the beans or your friendship is over.
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