I love helping people out and I feel great giving advice to people out there I don't even know. It gives me great personal satisfaction knowing that the answers I give are pretty damn good. I have a cheery personality and I like art and music. I am not religious, but have a clear view of spirituality. I will never grow up completely, I clearly remember what it's like to be a teen, but now I have a much better perspective on how to get through it all because let me tell you, I have BEEN through it all. Glad to help any way I can...
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ok so there is this friend, she used to be my best friend. we were like the best of best friends and did everything together. talked on the phone for hours got our nails done went places nd everything. just recently i went on a trip and i came home to find my "best friend" annoyed with me. i wasnt even home. she told my other really good friend that she realized she had other friends and now does stuff with them all the time and not with me anymore...at all. she told one of my other friends that she didnt want me to go somewhere everyone was going for no reason. now we hardly talk and she seems to avoid me...but whenever i ask her.."everything is fine" PLEASE HELP! I NEED MY BEST FRIEND :( (link)
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Yeah, this can be sad, but friendship can be like love, sometimes it grows old and it sounds like it grew old for your friend, even though you're still "into it." Just try to keep being yourself and make sure you have other friends too, even if their not your BEST friend. You may find yourselves back in your friendship later down the road, but for now maybe she just needs a break from you. Just try to keep busy with your life and still be there as a friend for her even if she is being mean, you'll never look like the bad guy just stay neutral.
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I have a huge problem. I'm always worrying about something. Like I worry about school, my friends, if I have enough money to buy a gift, a test coming, etc. I never have a moment where I'm not worried. It sucks!!!! Please help me. Thank you. (link)
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Worries never go away, there will always be a string of things to worry about, it's all about how you manage your life and your time. Be organized, do one thing at a time, and don't forget to breathe.
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ok there is this guy i like named Chris, and i love him so much, and we have talked a lot and all. but i asked him out and he said "no". but i got so attached to him, that when he turned me down i started to take razors and cut my arm, and i still do. and i want to stop but it helps to controll pain. how do i stop?Note:i am 14/female. i rate 5 to anyone who answers! (link)
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You are just dealing with your emotions in the wrong way. Try doing something else instead. Do what you like to do. I know what cutting is like, I used to do it. It does relieve pain, but other things can too, and other things like drawing and painting, playing an insturment or a sport, or writing in a journal and listening to music. You have to set your mind to do the things that are much more rewarding in the long run.
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my boyfriend and i have benn going out for 11 months and he is always saying how much he loves me and stuff but then he hurts me so bad sometimes and he thinks he can like other ppl but im not allowed and i cry almost everytime we get into a fight and he thinks i dont care about him and the person i would think understand this bc shes been with him b4 said i need to move on but i guess thats really not what i wanna hear because i love him so much!!! but i dont think i can trust him cheating on my and playing with my mind but i love him so much!!
What should i do :/ (link)
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You can forgive him again and again and things will seem okay for a while over and over but that's all it's going to be is a never ending pattern. If you are prepared to be hurt over and over then stay with him, but if you want to be strong and respect yourself then leave him. It's a tough decision, I know how the love feels, you just want to keep him, I know. It all depends on how much you can take, and your heart will let you know when it can't take anymore. It's a hard lesson and it sucks, but you will be a stronger person in the end if you don't put up with it forever.
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ok so i met these 2 guys over the summer. lets just say their names are nick and bob. well i was at this camp and they were in my group and they were friends of my cousins and so they were like hey how are you yada yada. and when the camp was over we still stayed in touch by talking online.they live an hour away from me. but while we were at the camp i started to like nick alot. and bob started to like me and he still does but i dont like him that way.we have met up a couple of times( all three of us) and just hung out. i finally stopped liking nick but i am not sure i really got over him ( he liked me but he also liked this other girl and then he finally just started liking the other girl and not me)so i saw him this weekend along with bob and i danced with him a little and hung out with both of them and i still like nick alot and i can't seem to get over him. bob still likes me and i don't really like him back. how do i stop liking nick? and how do i be friends with bob without it feeling awkward? sorry if this didn't make any sense. (link)
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So do you just wish everyone could just be friends? because you want to stop liking Nick that way, and still wanna be friends with BOb, I hope I am understanding you correctly...well you can't just stop liking Nick, even if you want to, the feelings are gonna go at your heart's pace. Just don't tell him or do anything about it if you don't want to start awkwardness between you three. I had a similar problem before, and I know that it CAN get awkard if not cause a lot of problems. Someone could get singled out and hurt. Just don't give BOb any reason to think you like him back. And I know it's hard, but at the same time you gotta try not to hurt Bob by "going out" with Nick. Basically, for now just stay neutral and just be a friend to both guys, until you can figure out a comfortable point to do whatever it is you choose to do. That's all you CAN do for now. Hope everything works out :)
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Im a 15 yr old girl, and im in love with one of my best friends and i dont know what to do or how to go about talking to him about it. for a while he liked me back but we didnt know that we liked eachother. now he has a girlfriend. i heard that they're not the happiest couple but they've been together for almost 3 months. i just found out the other day that he had feeling for me but i think its a little too late to do anything about it because he may have completely moved on. Should i talk to him anyway and see how it goes or should i wait until hes single again and then make my move? (link)
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Well, yeah, if you heard that he had feelings for you, it wouldn't hurt to talk to him about it. He's your best friend, right? You guys should be able to talk even if it's not taken anywhere. At least you'll know what the true deal is right now, how he's feeling now and everything. You can even find out if he's happy by talking to him.
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i have alot of friends and stuff, but iv just started to realize that they might not be as true as i thought. i love them but i hate them, they just seem not to care anymore. i also have people calling me a whore and a slut and stuff like that wenever i walk by because my "friends" tell them stuff thats not true. how do i avoid something like that..and how do i know if my friends are true? (link)
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Guess what, sweetie, here's the story: You go to school without a friend in the world. Then all through the years you make like a billion friends. Then you find yourself walking out of high school with like a friend or two that you might stay in touch with through college. It sucks. I used to have so many friends and now I am 6 years out of high school and I only talk to like 1. and barely. It's just the sad facts of life. And you're right: most of your "friends" are probably not very good friends. They will lie, cheat, and steel and they laugh with fingers pointed in your face. The important thing is, and my advice is to stay true to yourself, make sure YOU are being a good friend and will be sure you will be remembered that way. :)
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omg.. ok there was this whole rumor going around at school that all of me and my friends are lesbians... well they only think that because a couple of my friends told them what we did at partys.. Its true what we did but its not true we are lesbians.. what should I do????? (link)
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You can't do anything about it. You did something at parties, now you gotta own up to the outcome. People are going to talk. I suggest doing whatever you do in private with your other chicky friends if it really really bothers you that others gotta talk. Don't do it where others can see. They probably think that you want the attention and are looking for the lesbian label for attention. So don't ask for the attention. It's up to you.
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Well out of the blue, starting after winter vacation, my old best friend is coming back to my school. We were best friends growing up till third grade when she lefty for a Catholic school well now she's comign to my public school and she was nervous and called me up for the first time in 4 years. NOw that I am the only one she knows it means that sjhe gets to "shadow" me for her first week till she learnes where everything is. I kinda don't want her around anynmore though, she immature and I have outgrown her and made new friends. Yet i feel stuck becuase her mom called my mom and said how excited she was and stuff and i can't just bum her off on someone.... What can i DO? (link)
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Just be there for her. Maybe she's not so immature anymore like you think. It could turn out to be kinda fun. Try looking at it under a more positive light. Your new friends will see what a great caring person you are to take this on. Then as time goes on, your old friend will also find new friends like you did, and you can watch with a smile as your little chic makes her way into the waters.
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ok there is this guy I really like and he really likes me we talk sometimes but only over the internet because I live in wisconsin and he lives in new jersey... I really like him and I asked him to come visit me for the summer.. he said he would love to and he will plan on it... I really like him but is this bad??
I am 14
He is 18 (link)
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Well, you're just at the legal line there. This should be up to your parents especially if online is where you "met" him. Do not do anything behind your parents backs because you could find yourself in a lot of trouble, not by them, but you shouldn't trust just some dude from the internet even if you've seen his picture. But if you're talking about someone you already know but online is your way of communication, then yeah, it's still up to your parents. Be careful, anyone can take on any kind of personality in internet world. Just be cool, use caution, and make sure you're not doing anything behind your parents backs.
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Ok there is this guy and he is 25 and i am 14 we were together for a while but then we had to break up because my mom called the police on him.. we still talk but last weekend I lied to him and he started yelling at me about how I can't stop lying to him... I have written him emails saying I am sorry.. But in an email he sent back to me he said he didnt want ne thing to do with me.. he wrote me back saying that maybe he would be with me.. but not for a while.. should I just give up on him or should I still be friends????
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I don't know, he sounds pretty immature for a 25 year old. At least if you were to date a 25 year old, be sure that it's the real deal. But usually those guys dating younger girls aren't anything to rant and rave about. They can turn out to be deceiving, abusive, lying, immature people. Just a head's up. If he started yelling at you, that's not a good sign. You can be friends with him if you want, but that could still be a danger zone. I would steer clear if I were you, but it's up to you. Real, good friends are the people your own age that you grow with, learn with, experience life with, and later there will be one that you fall in love with. My advice would be to forget that old scary guy and pay close attention to the people who are at your eye level that care about you. Your mom called the cops for a reason. Older guys dating really younger girls are just bad news. Give up before you develop any strong, attaching feelings for him, it could be a big mess. Hope you do the right thing, good luck!! :)
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Since its winter time my face is getting very dry , does anyone know any good daily face moisturizers. Thanks (link)
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L'Oreal Paris Plentitude Future E moisturizer
A daily dose of Pure vitamin e. It's always worked best for me. It has SPF 15 - UVA/UVB protection in it too.
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im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be?? (link)
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Age is irrelevent, let your heart decide.
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Alright, this might take a minute, I have this really good friend Jake. He tells me he's "in love with me", and is planning on asking me out this friday. We have went out once before for a short time, and broke up because I had alot going on and didnt really want to deal with a boyfriend. He got really upset and hurt himself. He knows that I'm not so sure if i want to go out with him or not, but still, his hopes are high. I do like him sometimes, but it's weird and when i'm in certain moods i just dont like him like that at all.
Then, I really really like this other friend (Nick) of mine. He is alot older than me, and at our age difference right now nothing would happen. But I still do like him and he's one of my good friends. I have no idea if he likes me like that, but sometimes he does give me weird signals.
Anyway, I am not sure if I want to go out with Jake or not. I am in a few classes where there is Nick and Jake and (they are friends, but nobody knows I like Nick except my best friend.) I know that it would be weird, Nick wouldnt say anything but I know he would be kind of disappointed in me. Either way, if i say yes or no, i know that I am going to be unhappy with my answer. if i say yes i'll wish i said no and if i say no i'll wish i said yes. I don't really know what Im getting at, but this is my problem and i need to know soon.
Thanks for the help. (link)
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Well, since Jake's feelings are at stake, you need to be as selfless as possible in your decision making. Don't go out with him just to go out with him when you're feelings for him are not stable. Tell him you think he's a great person and enjoy being friends with him but want to save him the heartache because say that you just don't want to hurt him over your preoccupation with school and everything going on. You might feel bad about it but remember that he could be hurt worse if you said yes and then chose to dump him again. Tell him you don't want to take that chance in case things get real busy again in your life. As for Nick, don't put him in the position to do that to his friend. At least wait until Jake gets over you. Just try to enjoy being friends with him, go ahead and flirt or whatever, just be careful because Jake seems sensitive and you need to be considerate of him. Just my opinion, I'm afraid it's all up to you!! Good luck with your choices :)
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ok well see the thing is i dont have a boyfriend and all of my friends do and all of my guy friends have girlfriends so i feel so extremely left out its like this ok so they have their couples nights and everything so they go out to the movies or hang out at someones house and everything and they always neglect to invite me because yeah im the only person that is single. what should i do? (link)
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Well, if you have a single friend that is either male or female either will work as a "date" or just a "buddy" someone you can pair up with. If you know of someone but are not close to them yet, make some friends that are single. Start working your way into a friendship with someone you know is single. Sorry if that sounded repetitive, but that's what you should do. It's really all you can do. Also, your friends should not exclude you in things just because you don't have a date. Tell them you're living the single life and lovin' every minute of it and tell them they are all still your friends and you want to hang out. Say that you're on the prowl to meet someone when you guys go out. But if it is really bothering you that you don't have anyone at your side then do what I said before: Befriend someone single either male or female. Good Luck!!
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i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!* (link)
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Just make sure you're using those good products that come in the 3 or 4 step process and they're semi-expensive, but worth it. They tend to last a while too. Right now I am using AcneFree I got it at wal mart it runs at like $14-$18 and it's a 3 step thing. It can take either days or weeks to work, but if you keep using it correctly it WILL work. Good luck!!
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well me and my boyfriend have been together 9 months now and everything is great i guess we hang out alot and everything and the first 4 months of our relationship we just talked on the phone alot and hung out a little now we hang out more and were talking on the phoen the same but its kinda like everytime we get on the phone we sit and listen to eachother breath!!! he complains about it alot but i just cant think of anything to talk to him about! i mean i love him alot and i dont want things to end but is this soposto be telling me somthing? do you have anything to tell me? talk topics? anything? (link)
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No, it's not trying to tell you anything. I used to do the same thing with my boyfriend. We would "talk" on the phone for hours, but really we'd just sit there while one is watching t.v. and the other has a friend over or something. Sometimes it got really boring and annoying, but I think it was kinda like being in each other's presence when we couldn't be. But if your boyfriend is complaining so much about it then tell him either he needs to think of something to say or get off the phone with you, tell him because you don't want to be pissing him off, just say "sorry, but I like feeling like you're right there with me, it doesn't bother me that we don't say much. But if it bothers you, honey, then just only call me when you have something to say I guess." Something like that, but yeah, if it bothers him, then you need to hang up with him so he can still get those feelings of looking forward to talking to you on the phone, and not dreading it. Hope this was helpful for ya.
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my friend is beinng really rude & saying mean stuff about me what should i do? (link)
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I'll tell you what to do, if you're generally a nice person, be nice to her face, but never ever ever trust this person. I've had way too many of these kinds of friends. I finally learned my lesson with one just today after 10 years with her lying ass. Trust me this advice may sound dumb but trust me on this one. Just never tell her any secrets or anything...don't do anything you wouldn't do to someone you don't trust.
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I have a problem: some part of me wants my older sister's approval so much, yet I am nothing like her. She is a good and decent person, if not a little conservative and practical. She is a good role model, but I am not her. I am intellectual, studious and questioning. When I ask her the big questions, she thinks I make a big deal out of little things. But I think she never asks herself the big questions in life or is afraid to.
Why do I want her approval so much? She is a good person and I love her, but why don't I have the fortitude to be my own person? (link)
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You sound like a very smart girl with plenty of intellect. Don't take that for granted, go ahead and be proud of that. Also, it's okay to look up to your older sister and desire her approval. You obviously have some differences which is okay, too, that's what makes each of you your own person. I am sure there are some things about you that she wishes she was more like even if she'll never admit it. Maybe she just feels intimadated when you ask her the big questions that she seems to not think to ask herself. You sound like you have a great sister relationship...be happy for that. I don't know if I helped too much, but I hope I made you think on a level or two.
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my boyfriend of 7 months and i just broke up a couple of a days ago, and i broke up with him because he was rude, we fight all the time its just like were abusive to eachother, but i love him so much and we both want eachother back but we said we will take a break, but i am dieng without him you have no idea i miss him so much, i wanna kiss a diffrent guy (ive had him in mind for a while) but im so scared if my ex finds out and never wants to get back with me what should i do i love my ex but im lonely and want someone for now so i wanna kiss the diffrent guy should i? (link)
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Don't kiss the other guy until you've decided to move on. You are on a "break" from a stressful relationship, give that time to yourself to regroup and stuff. Also, you're confusing yourself, you are missing your ex so much but want to kiss someone else? Take some time to think about what you're doing first. If I could tell you what to do, I would tell you to keep working on getting over the ex, take some time out for yourself and concentrate on your life's priorities and/or on things you like to do. Then go ahead and kiss that other guy when you feel ready. You would feel new, refreshed, and like a girl with a healthy self-esteem.
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