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Ahhh. Help please.
Alright, this might take a minute, I have this really good friend Jake. He tells me he's "in love with me", and is planning on asking me out this friday. We have went out once before for a short time, and broke up because I had alot going on and didnt really want to deal with a boyfriend. He got really upset and hurt himself. He knows that I'm not so sure if i want to go out with him or not, but still, his hopes are high. I do like him sometimes, but it's weird and when i'm in certain moods i just dont like him like that at all.
Then, I really really like this other friend (Nick) of mine. He is alot older than me, and at our age difference right now nothing would happen. But I still do like him and he's one of my good friends. I have no idea if he likes me like that, but sometimes he does give me weird signals.
Anyway, I am not sure if I want to go out with Jake or not. I am in a few classes where there is Nick and Jake and (they are friends, but nobody knows I like Nick except my best friend.) I know that it would be weird, Nick wouldnt say anything but I know he would be kind of disappointed in me. Either way, if i say yes or no, i know that I am going to be unhappy with my answer. if i say yes i'll wish i said no and if i say no i'll wish i said yes. I don't really know what Im getting at, but this is my problem and i need to know soon.
Thanks for the help.
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lay out the pros and cons for saying yes or no. age does not matter right now. i know hearts get broken and i would turn jake down but softly. go for nick and see how things go. hope this kinda helped *ara*
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I don't think you should. Tell him you really don't need a boyfriend at this part of your life. Bring up the fact that last time you guys went out things were just a little too crazy for you, and that it might not be that much of a great idea. ~*AmAnDa*~
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Well, since Jake's feelings are at stake, you need to be as selfless as possible in your decision making. Don't go out with him just to go out with him when you're feelings for him are not stable. Tell him you think he's a great person and enjoy being friends with him but want to save him the heartache because say that you just don't want to hurt him over your preoccupation with school and everything going on. You might feel bad about it but remember that he could be hurt worse if you said yes and then chose to dump him again. Tell him you don't want to take that chance in case things get real busy again in your life. As for Nick, don't put him in the position to do that to his friend. At least wait until Jake gets over you. Just try to enjoy being friends with him, go ahead and flirt or whatever, just be careful because Jake seems sensitive and you need to be considerate of him. Just my opinion, I'm afraid it's all up to you!! Good luck with your choices :)
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you know what you should do? tell Jake that you aren't sure at the moment if you are reall into dating him or anyone else for that matter. your not saying yes and your not saying no. and then no one's feelings are hurt. hope i helped
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I recamend that you say yes if it doesnt work then it doesnt work. Nick mite be to old for you and its not a good idea now. Jake might be a good bf if you try. And Im sure Nick Will like you when you get older and the age difrence isnt that bad at an age. Hope I helped. And if jake hurts himself again talk to his parents about it or your mom to talk to his parents. <3 American girl
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Hey Hunny,I have been in that situation before.And I had to just take a second and think "If i was to date "Jake" how would I feel and if i wasn't going to date "Jake" how would you feel.And if you end up saying no break it to him somthing like this..."Jake I like you in all but I just don't want to ruin what we have now it's hard to find friends as great as you and i wanna keep it that way" hope i helped xoxo NiCoLe
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