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Friend or bf???????????????
Ok here's the deal, My friend and my bf can't stand eachother. Now my bf doesn't care if I hang out with my friend he just says while I'm with her he won't be around. My friend doesn't want me going out with him. She told me to dump him because she "Just doesn't like him." Should I try talking to her again or get rid of her or what? i've been friends with her for awhile but I don't know what to do.
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Hi, good question. The answer has a lot of possibilities, so you will have to sort through them based on your relationships with your boyfriend and you friend and how they normally act.
If it is true that your friend really wants you to dumb your boyfriend because she just doesn't like him, then unless there is a problem between you and your boyfriend, you shouldn't dump him. She might just not get along with him, or she might be jealous. Either way, you are the one who has the boyfriend, so it isn't her business.
However, she could be saying this because she knows something you don't know about your boyfriend. Maybe he is cheating on you or is known to cheat on girls. Or maybe he is doing something else like that. Don't rule out the possiblility yet because a lot of times when we fall in love, it is harder to see the bad sides of people. Since your friend isn't in love with your boyfriend, she is able to see those things.
I don't think you should get rid of your friend or your boyfriend until you talk to both again, especially your friend. Tell her that you really need to know what is going on and why she doesn't like your boyfriend. There could be a deeper issue than you know. Tell her that you value her opinion and that you want her to tell you the truth.
Good luck with this, and if you need anymore help, feel free to write back. :)
Best wishes,
Hannah
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Well that sucks. Guys dont really care about girl problems they just go with the flow on everything. You know what it really doesnt matter what your friend thinks of him, she could hate him or even worse more stuff she doesnt want you to be with him. The point is you are the one with the feelings for him. Not your friend. And if she did then that would be a different story. You aren't doing anything wrong. It's just your friend, and your bf. They must get along...have them talk it out and maybe have a deep talk with the 2 of them. That is totally immature and stupid how they hate each other. They need to stop this. Its annoying and tell them to look on your point of view. Dont get rid of your friend, help her out with this, but if she just will not do what you say then I do suggest it. But you guys have been friends for a long time, so stay strong! Dont worry this mess will end sometime soon. Stay true to your heart, and expalain that this is ridiculous so everyone can get along!
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Date who you wanna date. It's your life, not your friends. She has NO reason not to like him. "Because I just don't" is not a legitimate reason. Tell your friend you're going to be with him & that's that.
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You should explore your options.
See whose reasons are legitiment and whose suck.
Think about what will benefit you more in life.
Think about what will mean more to you.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*
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