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Hi everyone! My pen name is Hannah and I am a 17-year-old girl. I like languages, friends, cats, and many other things. I really love giving advice, and I am studying psychology now. My favorite questions have to do with mental health. As I said above, I am taking psychology classes now, but I also do a lot of outside research, so chances are that if you say something to me about a disorder or anything like that, I will know what you are talking about. Although I am not a licensed psychologist, I hope to someday be one and I would love to get some practice here.

Also, if you ever have a problem and you like my advice and would like to talk with me, I have many messenger services so I would be more than happy to set up a time to talk with you about whatever you need.

I hope to here from you soon!

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For the past year, I have been having really bad mood swings. I am a girl, but I don't think that they have anything to do with my mentrual cycle. Once or twice a month, for between 3 and 7 days, I feel horrible. I feel guilty about nothing, really sad, hopeless, helpless, and like it won't go away. I just generally hate myself. Sometimes I feel like cutting. A few times I have thought of death. One time, I thought of death and then three days later I was absolutely back to normal. I have a mood chart now to track my emotions, so I am hoping this will help. I have been on other sites, and they said that I am probably bipolar, but I don't agree. Bipolar involves manic states, and I don't have that. When I don't feel really bad, I just feel normal. I don't feel over-the-top happiness. I know that most of you aren't professionals and that you can't technically diagnose me with anything, but if you could give me your opinion that would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Hey love, it's 31-year-old you.

I've been thinking of you a lot lately. I am living your dream of being a therapist for teens, and lately some of my sessions have been triggering some emotions about high school experiences, and the helplessness and anger that you feel.

I want to tell you that you are right; so many of the adults in your world truly don't have a clue -- you don't just think that because you are a "dumb teenager." You don't have all the answers but you have more than people give you credit for, and I agree with you more than you might have thought I would.

I know things are so confusing now, and it's hard to know where your feelings are coming from and what you are reacting to. You will figure it out. In the meantime, it's okay to just do what you can to get through high school. As I tell my clients, the "rules" change when you graduate. The things that teachers and others pick on you for now, the things you've learned to hate about yourself, are the things people bring up the most to me now as something they really value about me. You're going to be okay, and you don't have to change a thing.

Don't feel pressured to fit into high school; it is truly overrated. When you're older and get to work with teens, you'll see that every single one you meet who struggles to find friends is someone that you would love to sit with at lunch. There is nothing wrong with you for struggling with this. Things in high school are so strange and sometimes it feels like there's no reason for things at all. But it's okay; remember you're going to graduate and high school will just be a four-year-long bad memory.

I know that you won't believe me. You're going to think that you're unlikable, that everyone else knows something you don't, and there's something wrong with the way you are. It's okay. This is all your life has shown you so far, so why would you think it could be any different? But please try to hold on to the possibility that you can be valued, have fun, and not feel so out-of-place. You just need to find your people. And you will.

So keep studying, try not to harm your body too much, and be okay with the level of friendships that you have even though they're not what you want for yourself. This isn't forever.

And by the way, I know you are worried that I would be mad at you for not going to prom, and I want you to know that I totally get it and I'm not mad in the least. I'm actually really glad that you did what you wanted to do, rather than what you feel like you should do. I know prom isn't something that you would have been able to enjoy; you feel forced to do so many things -- don't make yourself do any more. I totally hear you and support you. Again, high school is over-rated. I know you are doing your best. It would be nice to look back on positive memories, but the lack of them is not your fault. Looking back, I don't think there's anything I would really do differently. Some things can't be solved and it's not your fault.

And you are exactly who you need to be. Don't believe anyone who says otherwise.

Sending lots of love through time and space.

xoxo,
31-year-old you

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I am a 17 year old girl who is questioning my past. I have heard about people who were abused and forget the entire thing, and was wondering if this was a possibility for me. I am extremely afraid of sex and have anxiety about men. I hate hearing footsteps behind me because it scares me. I am also afraid at night that there is someone in my room. I sometimes have dreams about groups of men chasing me. I used to self-mutilate a few years ago and I also had an eating disorder.

I am asking this question because I heard that these are things that abused people do, and because people in my support group for eating disorders have asked if I was abused after I talked about some things. Is there any way to find out, or any other clues I can look for? Thanks =]

Hi 17-year-old me, this is 28-year-old me.

I so wish that I could really travel back in time and sit with you, speak to you, and hug you. But this is the best I can do.

You are so young, and have gone through so much. Unfortunately, I have to tell you that your struggles with cutting and eating disorders are far from over. In fact, over the next couple of years they are going to get worse. But you also are going to have a great therapist and be at the college that you want to go to (and yes, you will have friends there).

You've had a sense for a long time that you were sexually abused, and not just because of the cutting, anxiety, etc.

It's so amazing how you can know about your sexual abuse experiences while also really not knowing about them. You're too young and in too much of a vulnerable position to deal with the memories now, but in a few years they will start coming back, and it will simultaneously be the worst and best (?) experiences of your life. The memories and flashbacks are so painful, but finding out the truth about yourself and even confronting others about it is so healing, even if those people react badly. But you'll finally know, and those things will finally be over, even if you don't get all of the closure you wanted, or all of the memories back.

I wish that I could really be there with you and for you, and help to guide you through the next few years. They are going to be so difficult. But you also will really enjoy college and meet a few amazing people that I am still friends with today.

I also wanted you to know that despite all of your anxiety and other difficulties, you will reach your dream of being a therapist, and that you will really enjoy working with teens. The experiences you are having now are so challenging but will help you so much as you work with these people who in your world are just in preschool right now.

Keep going; don't give up. Trust people that are trustworthy and never forget where you came from. Always remember what you are learning about people and emotions. They are things you need to learn and they'll help you everyday in your future profession.

Sending you so much love through time and space,

Love,
28-year-old me

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what age did you lose your virginity and how should I be. Don't worry I am not an judge mental person.I am a female and 12 about to be 13 on may 21.

I'm almost 22 and still have not, and am totally fine with that!

Twelve or thirteen is too young, in my opinion.

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I seriously need some help.
Ok, so 2 weeks ago... at the start of the school holidays, my boyfriend and I attended this party, everyone was piss wasted, and I was so out of it...
I don't remember a lot, but...

My boyfriend told me to make out with this really hot chick, so I did... Then this random dude was like, ALL over me... and He was kissing me and feeling me and shit.

And... my boyfriend saw and he was being all emo the rest of the night, I tried to make it up to him, but he wouldn't talk to me, like at all.

The next morning, I went to another state and went to another suburb... (like for the holidays)
I haven't seen him in two weeks, and just recently he's been talking to me online, asking me "if this is really working" and "if you wana break up, just say so."
-Does that mean he want's to breakup with me, but he doesn't want to do it? Like he wants me to dump him?


He says he doesn't trust me.
What can I do to gain his trust?
Probably nothing huh?

I just, hate this!
He makes me feel so shit about myself, all the
time. Like even before all this shit happened...
If he only know how much he was hurting me.

What should I do?
P L E A S E !
I'm so desperate.

Ok. Honey. Look at your last paragraph: "He makes me feel so shit about myself, all the time. Like even before all this shit happened." Are you sure it is a good idea to try to get him back? It could be different if this was a one time thing, and maybe the two of you were just having an issue right now. But it seems that this is the general pattern of this relationship, at least as far as the feelings go.

I don't know what he means when he says all those things to you. Maybe he thinks you want to break up with him and he wants you to just do it and get it over with. He sounds frustrated, but I am not so sure in what this stems from.

When the guy at the party was "all over you" were you all over him in return or were you really out of it? Because if you weren't even reciprocating his actions, your boyfriend shouldn't really be mad at you.

I would suggest drinking less at these parties. You know all the reasons people tell you, but in addition to that, you don't want to do something that you might regret. You don't want to be with another guy and have your boyfriend see and be upset about it. Stay in a mental state that will allow you to make clear judgments and be able to stop someone from doing something to you that isn't in your best interests.

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i want to be a writer, and go to a literature school of some sort that majors in all that good stuff.
unfortunately, i dont really have anything that interesting that i could put on my college application. i dont stay after school, i dont do community service, i dont do sports (mainly because i just hate them). im not on the school newspaper (i think i missed my interview time...), and nothing will make me stand out for college.
anything i could do that would help me out here?

Have you done any volunteering at all, even something that was just one time? Did you belong to a church group? Did you ever help organize a school event?

Even if you just did things once, you can put them there. That is what a lot of my community service was.

It still isn't too late to join clubs. Join a few this year, and then in your essay you could write about how you finally found things that you wanted to do, and now you are really passionate about them. What college wouldn't want someone who not only tries new things, but has already found something that he/she really likes?

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Okay, I'm 14, and I received the 3rd and final Gardasil shot on August 5, 2009. I know it's suppose to help prevent me from getting some of the HPV strains but not all of them. Before I started the vaccinations I didn't read up on the Gardasil itself.

I've now read many stories about all these girls having these life-threatening problems, and even death in some cases. I know these things are serious because I had read them on reliable sites. My problem is that I can't remember the sites I had gone to that had this information on it.

I want to show my mom that she and my little sister shouldn't get the vaccination because of the serious side effects associated with Gardasil. Could someone send me some reliable links so I can show them to my mom so she can avoid these sorts of problems? Please and thank you

I am an 18 year old girl and I actually made my own website that has links to a lot of other websites that are reliable. I can show you that one. Even though I'm not a doctor, all of my information is from reliable sources and you can go to them on my links page.

I was one of the girls that received a bad reaction. I would be happy to talk to anyone who wants to know about the effects because I have done extensive research on them and why they might occur. So if you want to know something else, or you know someone that might want to come talk to me, my contact information is on my website.

Basically I had a seizure and a whole bunch of other things. The website doesn't look very professional. When I did it I was very ill, but the information is all good. I just feel like it isn't articulated in a good way. There is too much on there for me to change it around now.

What I have on that website is the claims about it, common side effects, my personal story, problems with talking to doctors, the contents of the vaccine and their possible effects, statistics, links to videos and articles, and a news blog about new warnings and general news about the vaccine. This section is updated regularly.

The severe reactions are pretty rare. I am suspicious of the vaccine, but I also don't think that everyone who takes it is going to get the same reaction is I did. Mine was so bad that I didn't even take all three. I took one and decided not to take the others. But the majority of the people, like you, will experience very little. The most common side effects are really just pain, redness, and some bruising at the injection site. Most likely if you got anything you would get that.

One thing that I am worried about, though, is that there can't be any tests done on the long-term side effects since it hasn't been around long enough.

So anyway, if you want to contact me, or have your parents contact me, I would be more than happy to talk to anyone and answer any of your questions.

My website is located at:
oneless.webs.com

Do NOT put www or it probably won't work.

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I've read a book about psychology and it says that there are psychologist trying to convert homosexuals. Is that true? Do people learning psychology consider homosexual as a problem?

If I were to say that people learning psychology consider homosexuals as a problem, that would be a huge generalization. It would still be a generalization if I said the opposite were true. Psychologists are people, and as people they have their own individual views on things. Homosexuality used to actually be treated like a mental illness, but now it doesn't count as mental illness anymore. They don't consider it dysfunctional. Therefore, you wouldn't find a lot of psychologists who would try to "convert" homosexuals. They might try to help you feel better about discrimination and prejudice, but they probably wouldn't try to change you.

There has been a lot of research done and apparently trying to convert homosexuals can be very damaging to them. This was something that they didn't know in the past. But now that the knowledge is getting out there, this is becoming vastly uncommon.

Even if there is some prejudice among psychologists, if they are good at what they do they will put it aside and treat you as an individual. That said, if you do notice discrimination or feel like you or your psychologist is uncomfortable, you can always find another one.

I know that a lot of parents bring their homosexual children to psychologists in order to convert them. However, most psychologists refuse to do this. Instead, they might try family therapy to get the parents to understand and interact well with the child. For the homosexual, they might help them with dealing with stress about who they are and other people's reactions.

I don't know what book you are reading or what exactly it said, but perhaps it is outdated or very biased. There are a few instances where this might happen, but those are the exception and not the rule.

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how does one get diagnosed/evaluated for things like maybe dysthymia? what steps do i take? i don't know anything. thanks in advance.

You would have to see a psychologist. But first you should see a physician to rule out any physical causes for your symptoms. Then when you go to the psychologist you might fill out a questionnaire or answer some questions orally, basically telling the therapist why you are there. Then eventually after the therapist understands your situation, she would come up with a diagnosis and be able to help you.

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I had a really bad day..my mom took me to the doctor and i was barely told that the shot i was taking was Gardasil. I told my mom about the bad things i'd heard about it but she wouldn't listen to me! She asked the doctors and of course they told us that the media was lying to me. When i got in the nurses room, i seriously began to cry. There was some old bitch there telling me that later in life i'll thank my mom, whatever, I googled it and i read there are serious issues with the vaccine.

http://ppjg.wordpress.com/2008/04/24/whats-in-your-gardasil/

Really? How bad is this? I also read it was FDA approved and other good crap about it so now i'm kind of feeling guilty of what i told my mom, but i'm just really confused and really concern with my health. My arm has been hurting where i got the shot but apparently thats natural..

I too heard some things. And actually I experienced them. The severe adverse reactions only occur in about 1% of the population so you should be fine. If you have already had one dose and have only experienced pain or itchiness at the injection site you should be fine and I think you could continue.

Since I was among that 1%, I have done a lot of research and compiled my findings into a website. It is mostly the negatives and I don't know if you want to hear anymore of that, but if you are interested I would love it if you could check it out. It might help you.

oneless.webs.com

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I was having a really hard time two months ago and my mom took me to see a psychiatrist. He diagnosed me with a mood disorder NOS (not otherwise specified). My mom took me to have some blood drawn to check if maybe the way I was feeling was because my hormones were out of balance. We got the results back and the doctor said it was all entirely hormonal (mainly thyroid). So I really don't want what the psychiatrist wrote down on my report or record or whatever it's called to stay there for the rest of my life. Should I call him and tell him what was really wrong so I can get that off my record or will it just go away if I stop seeing him? Will anyone else ever be able to see what he wrote down(like whenever I go to apply for a job or something)?

I am not an expert, but I really think that those things are confidential. I highly doubt that when you apply for a job they will see it. The only time that confidentiality is not honored is if you are a threat to yourself or others. For safety reasons, they would tell parents, authorities, etc. depending on the situation. But for this, no, people probably wouldn't know unless you tell them.

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Any one know where i can buy Evanescence's album Origin in stores, in Johnston Pa? or if they are sold where you are in nation stretched stores, like Walmart, best but ect.?

This is an old album. You can't buy it in stores anymore. The best way to get the songs is to go to their website and download them. This is legal as they want you to do this. It is free. If you can't download it, you can always look for it on Ebay.

http://evanescencereference.info/music/

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so my younger sister never spends any time (out of school) with her friends. she is in 8th grade, and i would think that at least some girls her age are hanging out on weekends, i mean i remember having sleepovers with my friends when i was that age. anyways, i was wondering if this was normal? the last time she did anything with her friends was when she went to the movies one time in the summer...

she's not in fights with any of them either...

I am a shy person, and although I do have friends, I don't generally spend time outside of school with them. I sometimes worry that they don't want to spend time outside of school with me or that it would seem weird. It doesn't make sense, but fears generally don't, right? Maybe this is true for your sister. Or, maybe she just likes the solitude. A lot of people aren't socialites and would much rather spend time alone. This is just a difference in personality types. Unless you are noticing other problems then I wouldn't worry.

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ok so... i'm not like a perfect kid or anything but I'm not a bad one either. I'm 18 years old and I don't drink, do drugs, have sex, nothing. I never have and I don't plan on it. My 15 year old sister on the other hand has been mixed up in just about everything. She even got a tattoo and tried hiding it forever. My mom used to get on her so hard when she knew she was getting high and stuff. It took a huge turn at some point and I just don't know where. She keeps everything about my sister from my dad and it makes me so frustrated. My sister has this 19 year old boyfriend we'll call Dustin. Dustin in 19 years old and a loser. He doesn't have a job or anything. My sister would say she was staying and then go to his house instead.. at first my mom cared and then she just like stopped. she would tell me and my dad she was at her friends when I knew the truth... and thennnn she had the audacity to let him stay here at our house. Well... about 2 weeks later guess who's pregnant.. yep.. my sister. They think they're ready to "have a family".. how can they have a family when neither one has a job or any source of support besides my parents. Dustin is in and out of jail and it disgusts me. My dad goes to sleep every night at about 8:30 and around 945 or so my mom goes to get her from Dustins and guess who has been coming with her every single night?! I know it shouldn't be my problem but it is. I don't feel comfortable in my own house an I get so stressed from having to keep it from my dad. Whenever I try to tell my mom how I feel it turns into how "I think i'm so perfect and how I build off of her screw ups" My mom always makes it sound like i'm a bad kid and i'm tired of it. I am such a good kid compared to her.. and not because I want to be better than her, it's because I respect myself...... please help me, I would appreicate it so much .

Maybe your mom just doesn't want to face what is really happening. If she is keeping it from so many people it is also telling me that she is in a way trying to keep it from herself as well. Being a parent, it is hard to watch your kid do things that you'd hoped they'd never do. But no matter what your mother says or how she makes you feel, it really is your business. If you live in that house, you are affected by what goes on, especially the guests that are invited there. If you don't feel comfortable in your own home, that is a problem that certainly affects you and you have every right to voice your opinion and have your wishes considered and met.

I know how hard it is to have to keep things from a parent because of what another parent says. It always seems like a useful thing to do to talk to the other parent when you are having problems with one or another member of the family. Are you sure you can't talk to your dad? Your mom may not like it, but unless they are divorced and he is out of the picture, he has a right to know what is going on with his own children. Your family can't ignore the fact that your sister is pregnant. Maybe something will come out of this. Maybe you or your mom will be forced to tell your dad and things will come out in the open. Although this doesn't always happen, maybe your sister might learn a lesson.

My mother also makes me sound like a bad kid, although I seem much like you. The important thing is to remember that what your mom is saying isn't really about you. She is very stressed and deep down I'm sure she knows you are a good person. Of course, this doesn't give her an excuse, just a reason. Try to keep that in mind the next time she says something to you and don't just be silent. Make sure she knows how you feel, in a respectful way of course. And know that no matter what anyone says, you are still the great person that you always were.

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i was going through questions and i saw somewhere you wrote that you had/have/are getting over an eating disorder

about a month and a half ago i was just discharged from a hospital's eating disorder unit because i reached 90% of my ideal weight

lately idk though, ive just been having a lot of problems with it, im still restricting what i eat, and for weigh ins i put weights in my pockets to make it seem higher. and im struggling to figure out if recovery is what i really want, or if its just what everyone else wants for me


basically i dont think this is really a question, but i find it pretty inspiring to hear other people's stories. like how old they were when they got it, what they think was the cause, what kind of treatment, do they still get the thoughts, how long it took them to fully recover, how others around you dealt with it, if you told your friends, etc.

if you wouldnt mind sharing id love to hear whatever youd have to say

I would love to talk with you about my eating disorder. You are welcome to write back if you want to, as well.

It started when I was 16 years old, although I can remember always being really body conscious and thinking I was fat. Something just must have triggered it then, although I don't exactly know what. Anyway, I started by really restricting and losing weight, then I started purging as well. I never binged, but when I ate normal amounts I would feel guilty and try to purge it.

I still get the thoughts that I used to, but I try to put them out of my mind and now they are coming back less and less. I try to think about other things, kind of making a compromise with my body. I used to think that being really thin would make me happy, but looking back the ED messed everything up. Really, when I think about it, I just wanted to be happy with my body and how I looked. I thought being thin would do that. However, I have found that just generally loving yourself and being at peace with yourself is the only true way to accomplish it.

Many people with eating disorders are perfectionists. Sometimes we say that if we made a mistake, it would be okay, but when we actually do make the mistake we are really disappointed in ourselves. What I have been working on now is just trying to forgive myself for making mistakes. And also it is important to recognize what is a mistake and what isn't. Not doing perfectly well on something isn't a mistake.

Writing this I feel slightly hypocritical because I still get disappointed in myself when I don't do something exactly as I wanted to, but like I said I am working on it. I am not completely recovered yet. I think that the important thing is to have perseverance. That will come in handy a lot more than a thin body or doing something perfectly. Being willing to work to get healed will be something that will help you throughout life and will get your through anything.

It is hard to recover from eating disorders because everyone is different and there can be so many different causes in just one person. One of my struggles is seeing people who are thinner than me. It is hard to make myself believe that it is okay and healthy to be above their weight. I try to avoid that and other triggers, although it is sometimes impossible. Most people with eating disorders still struggle with the thoughts long after they recover. The important thing is not to act on them and to find things to like about yourself. When you are truly at peace with yourself you no longer feel the need to do things that will hurt yourself.

You mentioned that you don't know if recovery is what you really want. You really need to want it for yourself, otherwise you will just go through the motions only to slip back later. You are imprisoned by your eating disorder, by restricting, by constantly thinking about what you look like. Ask yourself if you want to be free.

Here is a support site that I go on everyday for many different things. Everyone is really supportive and I highly suggest that you check it out: dailystrength.org

This is really getting long now, so I'm going to stop. However, I welcome you to write back anytime you want. :) Take care.

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I feel a way I shouldn't: my friends are annoying and boring. Perhaps I don't deserve to have friends if I continue thinking like this. I have really had enough of them though. I enjoy being a leader but they have really begun to follow my every move and I cannot get away from them. How do I fix this? Thanks.

Your problem isn't that you don't deserve friends. I believe that everyone deserves to have someone with whom they can have fun and share things. Maybe the friends you have just don't share the same interests as you or do things that bother you. If they follow you around and do everything you do, that can easily get on anyone's nerves. It isn't your fault if you feel that way and it certainly doesn't mean that you don't deserve friends.

If you feel like you can't get away from them and you need some alone time, tell them you have family obligations or just really need to catch up on some homework. Everyone needs time to themselves. Wanting this doesn't mean that you are a loner or don't deserve friends. It shows that you are normal. Also, maybe you could try expanding your social circle a little bit so you can meet some new people that don't get on your nerves quite so much.

Good luck!
Hannah

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http://franekchrzonszcz.deviantart.com/art/Agata-No-35-104639947


Is it possible for everyone to get that thin?

And how do you train your bangs to do that?

Thanks!

I know virtually nothing about hair, so I am only going to answer the first question. Yes, it is possible to be that thin. Ever seen an anorexic? The girl looks like she is underweight and to purposely do that is eating disordered.

I know you think that being that thin would make you happier, and honestly I can't stop you from thinking that. But take it from someone who was eating disordered. It is pure hell. I thought being thin would be nice. And I will admit, it was nice to see the numbers on the scale go down for a while. However, people who are not eating disordered do not see the other things we face. All they see is the weight loss, which is only a small cause and effect of the disorder. It becomes an obsession, and when you don't make your goal, you feel even worse about yourself than before. You feel like you are being stifled and dragged into a dark pit, with no visible way out. You feel helpless because there isn't anyone to understand. That is how it feels to be that thin.

I am slowly but surely getting past my eating disorder now. I have gained more self-confidence than I had before and have learned to appreciate my body for the things it can do, not just what it looks like. I am learning how to eat properly and focus on the things that really matter. You should try that too. And get this: I am slightly heavier than my eating disordered days, and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. I am not as thin as the model in your picture, but I have a lot to offer in the world, and I am sure that you do too. You just need to find it. I know it's there. But if you keep looking at your body and weight you can't look in other places. Then you can't find it.

On a side note, I know you know that those pictures are photoshopped, but here is a short video showing what exactly is done to those photos (and that is only the girl's head). Please take a look. (Click on "Evolution.")

http://www.dove.us/#/features/videos/default.aspx[cp-documentid=7049578]/

I think the one thing you need is a self-esteem boost. If you really love yourself, you will take care of yourself and won't want to do things that could hurt your body for the sake of "looking better."

Take care,
Hannah

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Okay so i finger knit and its always soooo skinny! Any way that i could make it wider???

Thank you!!!!

I'm not an expert on finger knitting, however I have done it a few times to make cords. Try to go loosely when you do it. You don't have to pull it really tight. You also might want to try thicker yarn, although the most important thing is how tightly you pull it.

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Okay so i've been deppresed for the past couple weeks, not anything like suicide, but I am always sad.
I know this sounds stupid but recently i just finished reading the twilight series and i love how they are in love. But I think i'll never find some one like edward. I will never have a true love :( I will end up being lonley. I am only 14.


Does anyone know a website, or somthing where you can receive counseling or anything for free.

Keep in mind that there are so many people who feel the same way as you do. Edward is irrationally perfect and flawless, and although it is impossible to find someone exactly like him, there are sweet and considerate guys out there. You are fourteen years old. Girls often mature faster than guys at this age. It may seem like a while, but in a few years or so, guys will catch up and some of them will be incredibly nice and sweet. Good things come to those who wait.

I don't know what you mean when you say you have been depressed. Depression involves more than just sadness. It involves feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, guilt, change in eating and sleeping habits, and more depending on the person. I have also looked for free online counseling for myself for another reason. What I found is that it is nearly impossible to get this. Therapy is a two-way street. It is extremely rare to find someone who will provide their services for free. I still haven't found someone yet, and it seems like forever since I first started looking.

One thing I will tell you, though, is that there are ways to get therapy online, just not for free. Online therapy is sometimes good for people who don't want to or can't, for whatever reason, attend therapy sessions in "real life." The people who provide it are trained professionals. Basically, it is emailing back and forth. You write the email as long as you want, and however often you want. In most cases, you are charged by how many emails you send. The good thing about this is that unlike traditional therapy, you have a chance to think about what you want to say and what you want to ask before you write back to the therapist. Below is a site that talks about all this and what places are best, depending on your needs:

http://www.metanoia.org/imhs/

Even if you decide not to use it now, it is nice information to have around, just in case. Take care.

Hannah

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Heyy,

I'm having a New Year's party and I have NO idea what we should do. Its going to be a girl/boy party & we are all 9th graders & there are going to be 2 juniors. we don't want to play 7 minutes in heaven or anything like that, just like other fun games. Thanks! :)

Good for you for not playing things like 7 minutes in heaven. I know the person above me said drinking games, but that probably isn't much better, honestly. Try to think of some things that will make everyone feel comfortable (no truth-or-dare...). Don't make it stressful. What you do specifically depends on how many people are there and what their personalities are like. Mine aren't too exciting, but we just have a tray with cut up cheese, veggies, and dip. We play video games, watch movies, think of New Years resolutions that we know we won't keep ;), and count down to the New Year. Maybe if you have some inside jokes you could do something that would throw those in there too. I know I gave you more ideas on what not to do that what to do, but here are some interesting game ideas:

http://www.partygamecentral.com/pgcstandard/gametmpstd.asp?gn=ANIMAL+KISSES

This one is good at night:
http://www.partygamecentral.com/pgcstandard/gametmpstd.asp?gn=ARE+YOU+AFRAID+OF+THE+DARK

http://www.partygamecentral.com/pgcstandard/gametmpstd.asp?gn=I+NEVER

http://www.partygamecentral.com/pgcstandard/gametmpstd.asp?gn=NEVER+DONE+THAT

Have fun. Happy New Year!

Hannah

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I was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on the following schools (like reputation, experience, or anythuing like that)
lynchburg, roanoke, salisbury, endicott, siena, western new england, susquahanna, and saint michaels.
Any advice you can give me would be great! Thanks!

I have a site for you that will help with all your questions. It is great because actual students say if they would go there again if they had to repeat the college selection process. They also write about negatives, positives, and advice on getting in.

www.studentsreview.com

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