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I don't deserve friends
17/f
I feel a way I shouldn't: my friends are annoying and boring. Perhaps I don't deserve to have friends if I continue thinking like this. I have really had enough of them though. I enjoy being a leader but they have really begun to follow my every move and I cannot get away from them. How do I fix this? Thanks.
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You probably think that way because they are. I would just get some new friends in that case. First I would tell them how you feel that you and why you find them annoying and boring. And yes, them following everything you do would be annoying. Tell them you want them to be there selves. You like them for them.
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dottie4
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Everyone "deserves" friends. I think the problem here is not you, nor them, but just change. Everyone changes in their teenage years, so naturally, everyone "grows out of" their friends and gets new ones. That's just part of life. I think you should just talk to them about copying. I have a friend who used to copy every move I make. It was like I thought for her. Eventually, I got sick of it and said "Look, if I'm going to make your decisions for you, maybe we're better off not being friends." After about 2 weeks of our break, she had finally learned to be herself, and now we are best friends :) So, if you want them to stop copying you, just tell them straight out. But if you don't feel comfortable being so blunt, maybe you could hint things that they do that are "very similar" to things that you do. For example, if one of them decides she likes to draw (or whatever your hobby is) like you do, you could just say "Really? Hm....you never seemed that interested in it before... I wonder why you're so interested now". :) That one's funny because sometimes they start stuttering and making up stuff xD well, hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
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Your problem isn't that you don't deserve friends. I believe that everyone deserves to have someone with whom they can have fun and share things. Maybe the friends you have just don't share the same interests as you or do things that bother you. If they follow you around and do everything you do, that can easily get on anyone's nerves. It isn't your fault if you feel that way and it certainly doesn't mean that you don't deserve friends.
If you feel like you can't get away from them and you need some alone time, tell them you have family obligations or just really need to catch up on some homework. Everyone needs time to themselves. Wanting this doesn't mean that you are a loner or don't deserve friends. It shows that you are normal. Also, maybe you could try expanding your social circle a little bit so you can meet some new people that don't get on your nerves quite so much.
Good luck!
Hannah
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