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being scared to like again
im a 15 yr old female.
Ok so theres this guy I met at my school.
and weve been talking and everything and he seems like a really nice guy and everything, but im scared of liking him to much or giving him a chance cause i dont want to get hurt. With pretty much all my last relationships the guys have fucked me over pretty bad, and im tired of it. I just want to be with a good guy who wont hurt me. But how do I know if this guys any different?
Help please?
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you don't know if he is or not unless you give him a chance, try not to get too attached untill you know he is a good guy and if he isn't move on until you find the right guy you always wanted.
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ok what is it bout guys treating gurls or their gfs bad i'm getting sick of it well all i have to say is that i'm still looking for that guy to and right now i'm with this really sensitive guy and all you have to do is put trust in him just not to much trust and hope it will turn out good
sorry i don't really have any other advice see what he would do when he's around his friends when you two r together and things will hopefully progress from there
sincerely
Katie
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find out about him w/o being to stalker-ish. talk to his friends and his ex-girlfriends. become great friends with him w/o being like a sister to him (because then he'll say your too much like a sisiter to him)or ask him out but ask if he will ever hurt you. get emotional when you say it. if he cries the he definately wont hurt you. if he laughs and makes jokes about it then maybe he just isnt the guy for you. just dont act hurt or ask why.
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As the old saying goes, "It's better to have lost and loved, than never to have loved at all."
Don't assume the new guys that come into your life are like the old guys that treated you like dirt. Just use your past experiences as learning experiences. You know what an asshole is- most all of them carry similar behavior patterns, so you can keep your eyes and ears open and have a general idea of what to be on the lookout for to notice if he is an asshole or not. The thing about it is, the best way of finding this out is to give the guy a chance.
You have to be willing to risk your heart in order to find someone who will cherish it. You never know, this guy you speak of may just be the one to cherish your heart. You will never know if you don't take the risk.
I have dated some jerks, and even a major asshole, but if I would have been afraid to take that risk, I would have never found my husband, who is the sweetest man in the whole world. Finding that one special guy is worth all of the previous heartbreaks.
Don't be afraid of getting your heart broken. Yah, it hurts, but our hearts are WAY tougher than we give them credit for.
ygs-29/f
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At first dont let yourself have strings attached.
Just play by play and see how it goes. Then you can let your self develop feelings for him if you think he is good for you or not. Or maybe you should consider taking a break. Just leave the guys alone and instead of always wanting to have a boyfriend...just chill and hang out with the girls and keep your mind off guys until you think you know what you want. Then write it down on paper. Make a checklist or something and when a guy comes along that you really like, see if he fits all of your qualities.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*
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You know that this guy won't hurt you by the way he treats you.I cant give you a promise that this guy won't hurt you because that would just be unrealistic, but in a way-this is what relationships are all about...TRUST. Sometimes you have to "put yourself out there" and believe that things will work out. However, you are only 15 years old so you have plenty of time to find the good guy who you'll love and so on. But right now, I recommend taking things slowly. Pay attention to the little things he does around you and how he makes you feel, because that can tell whether hes a pretty good guy or not. For example, if you hang out together, does he hold the door open for you or does he talk to you with respect? Does he try to push things on you? Like making out or being physical or does he just like hanging out with you? Would he bring you around his friends or let you meet his family? In answering these questions, you might be able to have some idea on whether or not this guy is "REAL"...but dont worry too much and always have fun because every guy is like a book waiting to be opened and an adventure ready to be completed...
Good Luck. Hope this helps and if you have any more questions....I'll do my best to help! :)
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Ive been in the same situation. My past relationships all crushed me and i was very scared of getting hurt again so i would put off any serious relationship with anyone. but then after a while i realised you have to take risks and whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger.so now im with this guy who is absolutely adorable and im makng sure that im not falling for him too quickly and im going to be more in control than i have been in the past to protect myself more. the thing is you cant expect relationships at such a young age to be the fairy-tale-type or even very long lasting. everybody gets hurt through love dont let it ruin your life so young, give this guy a chance.try to figure him out slowly.
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