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He wants to "downgrade"
So, I have been going out with this guy, for a little over three weeks. He told me that he can't see us in the long-term having a relationship because I'm an atheist and he's a catholic. Like, when we get married - everything will just be screwed up. He said he still wants to be friends with benefits, the thing is. I can't understand why he would want to be that, you know?
What would you do?
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In my opinion, you should just say no to the whole friends with benefits scenario he suggested and find someone who is actually worth your time.
It seems to me that your so-called boyfriend just doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. He wants to be connected physically but not emotionally.
I don't really think his ending your relationship has anything at all to do with your religious beliefs. If it did, then why did he ever start a relationship with you to begin with? He just needed and easy out so you wouldn't be pissed at him forever.
Save yourself the heartache, he's not worth your body if he doesn't think you mean anything more than a good blowjob. Tell him to get lost.
Hope this helps!
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Aw, this really stinks.
Honestly, I'd probably just stay away from him. If he's not dedicated enough to stay in a relationship, he shouldn't deserve you just for the physical stuff.
I'd honestly say just to respect YOURSELF, and just be friends. It would keep things easier, because chances are, you'll end up liking him again, and he'll not feel the same way or something.
XOXO
KAT
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What Russ says is it exactly. He wants to continue
having all the "benefits" of whatever kind of relationship you have now. However, he is telling
you he will never marry you. Basically, this is a dead end relationship.
People who have very strong religious feelings
will never marry an atheist. To them, what you believe is wrong and they want future children brought up to believe as they do.
I'm not saying what you believe is right or wrong,
but that is how this particular boy feels.
In a way, while it may hurt you now, it was good that he told you now instead of waiting longer.
I think the best thing for you to do is to find
another guy. Don't let this one have the benefits best reserved for someone who cares about you regardless of religious beliefs. :)
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Wow, that is a really strange situation.
Maybe he's racist? Or he just doesn't care for those who are atheist.
Even if you do really want to go out with him for a long term relationship, don't go so far as to change your beliefs just to make the guy happy because then you're lying to yourself and thats not right. Just simply ask him why he doesn't like the idea of you being atheist.
Thats basically the only way you will find out the real answer.
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well he stil wants to be with you even if its not technically a boy-friend/girl-friend situation. i get what your saying now
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just laugh, and tell him that he is a hypocrite because the Bible says to respect women in other words to be pure in heart. Tell him to go and read the Bible.
May be u should read it too!!!!!1
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Wow. Sounds to me like he is the one who is all screwed up. He is just using you for sex and making up excuses to keep your feelings from getting hurt. If atheism is your thing then remember that no matter what religion no one should judge you b/c of your preference. Personally I think that you should leave him alone and forget about him. 3 weeks is too soon to be even thinking about marriage anyways.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*
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Dump him. Plain and simple.
Why waste your time on someone who doesn't want to have a relationship with you?
By being friends with benefits, he's a single guy with someone he can have on the side for sex. He's wanting to have his cake and eat it to. No way. You deserve better than that by a far stretch. You are not some guy's "Ol' Reliable". For a guy so worried about the whole belief thing, he sure isn't being very Christian, there...
Find a guy who respects you. This one is a pig.
ygs-29/f
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