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Hey, I am 16 and I am pretty good at advice. My friends say I am pretty good. I love to help people out in every situation.
I play basketball and tennis and I go to a catholic school in Mass.
If you have any questions, DO NOT be afriad to ask.

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theres this guy that ive liked for a while now. and he did something in the past that hurt me really bad and out of the blue he calls me and i feel like im being a push over and taking him back. all my friends say not to take him back but its like i cant. how can i not be a 'push-over'?

Well I can relate. This happened to a guy (who is now my boyfriend) that I liked way back in March. I had basketball, work, drivers ed, and school that I had to deal with so i NEVER got a day off. Him and I could only see each other at work and we never had the chance to get together.
I end up going away for April vacation and come back to find that he got a girlfriend while I was away. A few months go by and I still really like him although he totally went behind my back and betrayed me. I gave him a second chance because everyone deserves a second chance. Everyone makes mistakes. He has never hurt me since then nor will he and I think giving him a second chance was totally worth it.
Its up to you whether or not you would like to give him a second chance. Ive also been called a push-over for giving him a second chance since I was hurt by what he did. Theres nothing you can do to change the past though.
Hope I somewhat helped!
Steph

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Okay last night I kissed this guy and obviously I wasnt that bad because he wants to again but at the same time I am really self concious about it. What would you say makes up a good kisser?

go to www.myjellybean.com
then go to flirting guide

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how do i get over a guy and like someone new with the old guy still being my friend¿

Actually, I am trying to figure out the same. I've liked this guy for quite a few months. He liked me back and still does but only a little bit and he has a girlfriend.
A way to like a new guy is to hang out with your guyfriends or even meet new guys within them. Ask them to get together more and you just might see some traits in them that you haven't seen before=)
Hope all goes well,
Any more questions, send it to my inbox.
Steph

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whats sometime really cute you can say to a guy you like
not sometime cheezy
but just cute
that will make him smile
and fall for you even more?

Just flirt with him more. Like when he says something funny or cute, say something flirty like ohh you're too cute=)

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Well i onyl have one friend, yeah imagine how odl i am and ot of my whole life i got ONE friend. Well we always talk to each other on the computer and now she rarely tlaks to me and tlaks to other people and it makes me feel sad and alone and i can't make friends easily. What should I do? Please give your advice nicely I'm really sensitive about this

You have to start to be a bit more friendly to people. I was always the shy kind of girl until I got a job and I was basically forced to talk to strangers (at work). You sort of remind me of my younger sister. She has one friend that she is really attached to but sometimes her friend doesn't always want to hang out with her so she gets upset. I think maybe you should join a sports team or get involved more and be really outgoing. Just talk to people more and get to know more about them and I'm sure you will have more friends=)
Hope all goes well, If not, ask me and I will help more=)
Steph

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how do i show this guy that i like from school that i like him but i wont ask him out..at least not just yet. how can i at least lead him on that i like him...but the thing is that i think he likes me back well thats what lots of people think..but i need ways to flirt with him and show that i really do like him....thanks alot [ :

check this website out,
you'll love it=)

www.myjellybean.com

On that website, It gives you ways to flirt with guys. Like the basic ways and the intermediate ways=)
hope I helped=-)

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Can anyone tell me what the "popular crowd" in highschool is usually like?

Half of the time they are just a bunch of jack***es that pick on those who are not popular.
Who knows, Its not a big deal to me so I don't worry about it.

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I know this sounds quite weird haha but.. when i go to the bathroom, basically at school where there are like 2 stalls, i like can't pee if there is someone else in the bathroom. like i CAN pee if im going to like explode, but i just cant pee. i dont know why its like i am ashamed of it. its a mental thing and i dont know. whatss up with this it annoys me so much because sometimes i really have to pee.

hahaaa sorry if this is weird

Yeah I know what you mean, I don't feel comfortable with it either but one thing that I do to take my mind off of it is to flush before I go so no one can hear:)

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ok so my boyfriend an i have been going out for about a yr and a half but on and off... we are going out for the 4th time now for like 3 months and well his friend told me that he said that he sometimes doesnt like me at all and then at other times he likes me alot... i know im going to like ask him about it and all but im just really confused on what i should do.. any advice is appreciated thanks..oh im 15/f by the way

I can kind of relate to your relationship with your boyfriend so I can say I am in the same position only the guy that I am talking about is a friend but he has a girlfriend.
It annoys me also that he likes me somedays and it shows then other days he ignores me completly. I don't know how to deal with it so I really don't know what to tell you.
But just confront your boyfriend about it.
Tell him that someone brought it up and you are concerned about it.
Hope all goes well!

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OK so theres this boy..my best friend actually.Well i really really really like him(i missed like thousands of reallys btw)..and he says he likes me too and that im the love of his life.but he has a gf.What should I do?..I REALLY LIKE HIM IM GETTING CRAZY...and im 99% i means it when he says he like me too.please help!

I think you should ask him what is going on with his girlfriend and why he is dating her if he feels so strongly about you. The only way to find out is to tell him how you feel exactly and ask him how he feels about you and his girlfriend.
Hope all goes well!
Steph

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So, I have been going out with this guy, for a little over three weeks. He told me that he can't see us in the long-term having a relationship because I'm an atheist and he's a catholic. Like, when we get married - everything will just be screwed up. He said he still wants to be friends with benefits, the thing is. I can't understand why he would want to be that, you know?

What would you do?

Wow, that is a really strange situation.
Maybe he's racist? Or he just doesn't care for those who are atheist.
Even if you do really want to go out with him for a long term relationship, don't go so far as to change your beliefs just to make the guy happy because then you're lying to yourself and thats not right. Just simply ask him why he doesn't like the idea of you being atheist.
Thats basically the only way you will find out the real answer.

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so apparently $50 Hollister jeans cant hold up, because now right on corner of my back pocket, a hole which started and used to be small has now stretched to literally the size of a quarter or bigger.

ive been puttin duct tape on the inside to cover it when i go to school & work.. but it looks kinda retarded.

wut can i use to cover it?
someone said patches.. but unless im stupid that would be like a patch over the outside right? which would look pretty dumb on my butt.

any ideas?
btw, nothing expensive =]

oh & no sewing machine access.

You know what you could do?
Here's something my mom did when hers were starting to rip.
She went to Wal-Mart, bought a patch and I believe she brought them to the dry cleaners and had them sew it in. Or another simple thing to do is to just bring them back and tell them that they ripped. Unless they are older, then you cant.
Maybe you could duct tape the patch on the inside of your jeans.

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im 14 and im a freshman. so 4 years ago in fifth grade there was this guy. he was really cool although we never really talked. we've been in all the same classes since then and ive liked him ever sice. but he just kinda ignores me like im part of the background. maybe cause weve known eachother so long. what can i do to make him notice me??!
thanks

Well, all I can really suggest is to talk to him more. Just casually talk to him and ask him questions: for example what the homework was or have him explain it to you.
Do you have his screen name or myspace or whatever? if so, then just casually say hi or ask him about sports or whatever. Even if you do know the homework, ask anyway. This is what I did to this one guy I used to like that I barely knew but we went to the same school for a year.
I just started talking to him more online and in person. Then later on, ask him to hang out with you=)
Hope all goes well,
Steph

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I can not stop eating.
I lost 5 pounds last month,but all of as sudden now my body is going insane. it's like I NEED TO EAT, even when I don't feel hungry like today for example, I've had
a pudding, chocolate bar, jo louie, a sandwhich, bag of peanuts and smarties, grilled cheese, mac and cheese, crackers and cheese, oatmeal, chcolate eggs, big chocolate bunny, yogos, coffee, fruit-to-go.
And it's only 1 in the afternoon.
My stomach is HUGE, and hurts, but I still want to eat.
What can I do to get this under control?
I'm madly craving sweets.

How old are you? If you are a preteen, meaning you just hit puburty, this is the reason why. If you are bored and you are watching TV while you are eating, then this could be another reason why you are so hungry. Most of these foods that you have eaten are all carbs. You need protien. Eat something like yogurt and you'll be full for quite a while or a cheese stick and drink water right after you eat it. Start eating healthier and your diet will be healthier.
Also another thing is to excersize or find something else to do. Don't eat and read a magazine or watch tv at the same time. Always have your meals or snacks at a table because you are most likely to eat less when you are sitting there doing nothing.
Hope I helped.

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I want help picking out a new display name. Something not weird. Something minimal. Maybe something from a song, or just a weird word. But I definitley want my name in it - Sarah. Not really 'emo' but sort of. Thanks.

hmm.. something like beautiful letdown
beautiful disaster
hmm...anything kinda emo

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I hate having to worry bout my period starting while I'm at a friends. I was wondering how can find out the date of when your period is supposed to start? also how do you know when your ovulating?

Keep a calander of when you get it. mark the day it starts and when it ends. Then after a couple of times you get it, you will know when the next expected day might be.

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ok
so i talked to this guy on myspace
and he seems really nice
well he is
and hes really beutiful
and he goes to my school
but hes downstairs
and im upstairs
or whatever
but i like never see him
and i dont know what to do
i have seen him once because he has my lunch
and we like eachother
but im to afraid to talk to him because hes so gorgeous and popular
but hangs out with the preps
and im scared of preps
PLEASE HELP
i rate 5 for trying

Wow. Im sorry but the way you say that you're scared of preps is stereotyping. They are people like you too. And thanks because I am a prep and theres nothing to be afriad of. Set up a day to have him sit with you and some friends at lunch or something.

yeah? well dont judge.

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ok im a and i want to know how to shave your....ya know...thing lol. like my hair right now is like and 1 inch long and if i just shave it with a razor it will hurt. how do i get rid of it? please help ill rate 5's!

You should trim it with scissors. And then shave it.

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Ok, There is this Boy that I like in My acting Class. and I think he likes me but I'm not sure.
Like I catch him starring at me alot and even when I look at him he is still staring but somtimes then he just looks away. Ok, and we talk alot. And he never arugued with me like he did with the other kids. Ok,
and This time I was smilling at him B/c we had 2 put on costums and I laughed he smiled too, what? he asked I said nothing, and he said what again, and I turned away and walked away laughing and he followed me kept saying what what what? laughing then my friends showd up and said "OMG (his name)!" he annoyed them I only laughed and he was wearing a hat so I pulled it over his face! was that flirting? does he like me? I dont even know what I am asking. so what?

Haha its alright hunn. I know what you mean and what you're trying to ask. I think you should tell him to name a couple of people that he likes. Tell him you will give him clues of who you like. And yes, what you did was flirting.

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hey i got a myspace today and i was wondering where to go to put the url for the layout in?

you can put it anywhere. in like..the about me part or something. like...click on edit profile and you can put it anywhere..

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