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feeling alone?
Well i onyl have one friend, yeah imagine how odl i am and ot of my whole life i got ONE friend. Well we always talk to each other on the computer and now she rarely tlaks to me and tlaks to other people and it makes me feel sad and alone and i can't make friends easily. What should I do? Please give your advice nicely I'm really sensitive about this
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well you could be experiencing some friend jealousy. (dont be upset we all have them at some point) talk to her let her know that your uncomfortable with the situation. make plans to go places with her. dont make her think that your starting to be a little boring. really i think you should try making new friends. it could be scary. butim sure your a nice person and alot of people will be your friend if you just hang out with others. but if you want to look at your friends point of view, maybe she wants to have more friends. she still like you, but she just wants to be more active. so tell her that you understand and are willing to make the relationship work.
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You have to start to be a bit more friendly to people. I was always the shy kind of girl until I got a job and I was basically forced to talk to strangers (at work). You sort of remind me of my younger sister. She has one friend that she is really attached to but sometimes her friend doesn't always want to hang out with her so she gets upset. I think maybe you should join a sports team or get involved more and be really outgoing. Just talk to people more and get to know more about them and I'm sure you will have more friends=)
Hope all goes well, If not, ask me and I will help more=)
Steph
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You have to start believing the truth about yourself. You are a great person, interesting, fun to be around and as worthy of friends as anyone else is.
The problem is your confidence in yourself and this truth is way down for some reason or other. People are picking up on how you feel about yourself inside and noticing something's not quite right there and backing off.
The one person who you are friends with obviously likes you but has other friends and cannot always be there for you. She's still your friend but needs a bit of space.
Unfortunately, she may see you as a bit clingy at times and I'm only saying this because it could actually be what she thinks. Back off a bit, give her space and she'll come around again.
What I think you should do is see a therapist or psychologist and work with that person on your social skills, how you come across to others, skills for making friends, building your confidence and accepting yourself as the wonderful person you are.
This could make a major difference in your life as they can help pinpoint areas you are weak in and give you the tools to fix it and make friends. Don't just shrug this idea off as I know it works wonders.
In the meantime at school be friendly and helpful towards your classmates including those who don't know you or you think don't like you. Gravitate towards people who sit alone at lunch or don't have pals as they'll make long-lasting friends. Talk to people, get to know them etc. Host a party some time and invite people you really want as friends.
Show your classmates that you are fun and can enjoy yourself. Above all don't take yourself, them or anything anyone says too seriously. Always consider the source. You're going to do just fine.
You should the next time you talk to your friend ask her help in meeting new people and ask her honestly what bothers her about you and what she think turns off other people and ask for her honesty and to be candid. Get her to help you overcome weaknesses and meet people and do well. But definitely seek professional help and advice on this as I suggested.
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be outgoing also try joining sports or clubs any thing your good at and if not anything in particular try some thing new (swim &track are both really fun and good for you) hope this helps
Peace out
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