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A bully? =/
Ok well this year was perfect til thsi new student showed up and he hates my guts! Everytime he sees me he would whisper I'LL KILL YOU just for me to hear only and makes his hand into a imaginary gun and "shoots me"..
He keeps saying YOU BULLIED ME IN KINDERGARDEN! (I'm a girl) and I'm guessing that's the big reason he hates me?
Frankly i don't care very much cuz this guy is the weirdest one in my class and everyone thinks he's crazy or mental since he says the weirdest random things out of no where liek if noones talking.
I had an accident about 3 years ago so i wouldn't remember if i bullied him or not and so I'm not aploligizing to him even though maybe it'll stop it. But if I did it was a long time go, KINDERGARDEN! He should suck it up and forget about it! Even I got grudges and some have to do with a person in my class but everytime I see her I don't go YOU HURT MY FEELINGS or give her this hating sign with my hands!
I don't like him very much by the way he's acting to me. I just pretend I never remembered him at all when he mention's it and act normal.
He's so stupid! Like he's trying to make everyone hate me because one time he told that to the WHOLE class! "Oh she bullied me in kindergarden" "WHAT?! Man, but she's the nicest girl in class!" And he tells the whole story to the class while IM RIGHT THERE! i don't tell people my issues with this girl and she's in the classroom!
But i feel so sad that someone hates me SO MUCH for something a long time ago..I'm a nice girl..high grades..everyone likes me and bullies bully people in my class for fun but thye don't tease me or whack me and I'm the weakest girl in the class. I even tried to talk to him a few times nicely and randomly offered him things like this snack i didn't like but maybe he did.
But I can literally feel the hate coming out of him which is like hurting me. Like come on..if it was kindergarden and I did bully him, I'm pretty sure it wouldnt' be bad since it's kindergarden and I've been so skinney my whole life! You shouldn't be going crazy for one thing.
As far as I remember, it was grade one. One day we had activities center and there can be up to only 3 people in a station and after a certain time, we rotate or go to different stations. I was the third person to go into a group til he came in and I said "you know there can onyl be three people in a group?" he made this rude face and said "SO?!" and kept playing. So I just went to the teacher to just tell her nicely about it but I guess he thought i was going to her so she could yell at me so he started crying and they phoned hsi parents cuz he wouldn't shut up about it.
Man..what a baby.
But I feel so bad that someone hates me so much like he's making a big deal about it so I hate him too but I don't go aorund doign what he does and tell it to other people. Like if it's something going on with the both of us, he should be talking to me.
What should I do?
I know you would say get alone with him and tlak but remember that i said that he's mental, crazy and different? I can't even explain what he's do but yeah..=S
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woooooow.But you didnt meantion what grade your in now.ANYWAYA i think you should talk to him and apologize(just to get him to stop hating you)tell him it was an accident and it was years ago and you were a kid and all kids make mistakes.If he dont forget still i think you should talk to the school nurse about it or to your parents.He might need a psycologist.
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I agree - report it! It's absolutely not healthy to nurse a grudge from kindergarten for so long, no matter how he remembers it. On top of that, it's not okay for any one to tell anyone else he's going to kill her. You need to do something about this!
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Obviously this guy has some problems. You never know, he could be dangerous. I think it would be in your best interest to try to patch things up with him. Even though you don't feel like you have anything to apologize about, it might save you from getting hurt.
Write him a note and say something like: "I just want you to know that I feel really bad about hurting your feelings in Kindergarten. I was a stupid little kid then and I didn't know how to act. I'm a different person now and I would never want to do anything to make you feel bad. I hope you will accept my apology."
Just keep it simple like that. Don't make it sound like you think he's crazy, or that he's silly for being upset about something like that, or that he's wrong for holding a grudge. Just acknowledge that you hurt him and that you are sorry about it.
Whatever happened in Kindergarten or grade one obviously hurt him a lot (even tho you didnt mean to) since he still remembers it. Hopefully apologizing will make him feel better, and save you from his bullying or worse.
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It sounds as though this person has some serious mental issues. You really are not safe around someone like him as you have seen recently on the news.
If anyone told me repeatedly they wanted to kill me and made a motion like a gun I would far from overlook it. I would tell every last adult in that school, the principal, fellow students and your parents.
You cannot take chances and only an absolute idiot would joke about such things in a school and direct the comments at a fellow student with all the tragedy that has occured. He is a head case and you nailed that on the head.
What you need to do is document the threats on paper when they were said, how long its been going on and tell them that he wants payback for something you did in kindergarten and you have no recollection of him or it.
Let the principal and your parents teacher know exactly what you showed us in your note (print it out actually) and allow them to deal with it. They can have him removed from the school and assessed.
This isn't a laughing matter and you know that much is true. Definitely start talking to the authorities about it. They'll take care of it. In this case I would also file a police report (I'm deadly serious here) about threats to your safety, outline everything in this e-mail you sent us and file official harassment charges against him. You need to do that and also have your school in on all of this.
It's a tough position for anyone to be in and I don't envy you but as you learned as a young child if something is icky, frightening, not safe or shouldn't be kept secret divulge it to any and all adults you trust and know who will listen and can do something to protect you.
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Report it, seriously.
If he's mental, he CAN kill you!
I would apologize.
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I really hate to be this way with you, but you absolutely without a doubt HAVE GOT TO report this to the teachers, counselors, and principal at your school. With Virginia Tech, Columbine, and other incidents of kids having such deep hurt and pain that they lose it and take it out on others there is no way you cannot let this go.
You're his target. For whatever reason, real or imagined, this kid has it out for you. He threatened you, what he's doing is illegal, most schools have a zero tolerance for bullying.
You need to tell your parents, you need to tell someone at school, and they need to contact the police.
It is so embarassing and scary for you to do this, but your life could be in danger. Even if he's just joking, there is something very real that you cannot fix. He needs help, you need to be careful and save your life and possibly the lives of your friends and report this. Do it now!
If I knew where you lived and went to school I would do it for you. Please help this kid get help.
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