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My friend is taking all my stuff!
I'm 13/f.My friend is 13/f too.Here's what happened:
I bought some new clothes for school.I showed my friend while she was at my house.She said my clothes were ugly.She then proceeded to go to my closet.Needless to say,she got my into giving her some pants,a nice leather jacket,a hat,and some make-up.I don't know how she does it!She just begs me for it.So,when I ask to borrow her lipgloss,she says no.I give her all this stuff(unwillingly),and she won't even let me borrow her lipgloss.and,she insults me too.She says I have no style.I want to start out fresh next year.So:Should I dump her because of this,or still be her friend?
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well like some of the previous answers said it seems like you have good fashion. it also seems like your good at sharing and are helpful to your friends. you're a good friend to have.
this seems greedy and mean. even though you let her have all of that stuff she won't even let you borrow her lipgloss? come on. sorry but i think a person like you deserves a way better friend.
by reading this i think their are many people out there who would love to be your friend and treat you alot better.
good luck =)
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She sounds like a deedeedee. Forget her ass and find a real friend. If she wants your stuff then I guess you gotta pretty good fashion sense. I'm sure there is some girl that would absolutely love to be your friend. You seem kind and are good at sharing if you gave away your clothes to some girl. Good luck!!!
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Wait b4 you dump her find a friend first then dump.
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Okay. 1st of all, you probably have greaat fashion sense. She is most likely jelouse, just like my sister usually is when i get cool clothes. I would dump her, because of the fact that it seems that she is using you. Also, she may be jealous because her family might be going through a hard time, and she can't afford the clothes. But anyway, I say dump her because she is using you, and no good friend insults you.
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-Camille
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i would dump her. obviously she wants to borrow your stuff because she likes them. maybe what you could do is ask her why is she saying that she has no style if she says that your clothes are ugly. then also you would have a point, so she is jelosous of you. that is why she borrows your stuff and says your clothes are ugly. i hope i helped. If you have anymore questions or need more advice, ask me in my column. Don't forget to leave feedback.
~NeedAdvice21
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Before you decide to dump her or keep letting her do this to you, I think you should try talking to her. Tell her how you feel about everything and that you don't like when she says something of yours is ugly yet she still asks to borrow it. If she understands where you're coming from, then you should keep her as a friend. If she doesn't get what you're saying and keeps doing what she's doing, then feel free to dump her. You don't deserve to have a friend that seems to be using you. Hope I helped you.
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Maybe you should talk to her about how you feel. It isn't right that she takes all of your stuff and then doesn't let you borrow some of your stuff. Maybe she is not aware that she is doing this stuff to you. But if she is doing it deliberatley then I think you should not be her friend anymore. She shouldn't make fun of you either because that is just very hurtful sometimes and she might be doing it as a joke but it could still hurt. Like I said before you should definately confront her about how you feel and if she like doesn't care then you should definately drop her as a friend and try to make some new ones. Maybe things will work out with you guys and I hope it does. Good luck with your friendship problems.
Alli
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honestly i dont think you should be friends with her. she seems as if she is using you for other stuff. if you give her all of that stuff & she cant let you borrow "just" lipgloss then shes a bitch. sorry but you really should leave her and not be friends with her thats simply what i would do.
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Sounds to me like she's jelous of you..if you had bad style she wouldn't ask you for all these clothes. She obviously wants to be the one on top, the friend with the best style. She wants to be the one having people beg her for her lipgloss or her clothes. What you should do is check out some great fashion magazine's, find a store with the clothes you LOVE and just buy some more. Also, get the kind of lip gloss she has OR get an awesome new kind. That way you don't have to ask her anymore. When she asks you for clothes or make up, tell her that your not willing to give her anything if she's not going to return the favor. She might try to trick you with "Okay i'll let you borrow stuff"..but then when you ask she might say no..so be carefull. You might just want to keep your stuff to yourself.
Good luck :)
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WhaT ThE HeLl?? its YOUR stuff your giving away and when YOU ask for a frikin lipgloss she says no....no offence but she smarter than you....cuz she knows how to take care of her stuff.tell her NO,NO and NO do i need to repeat that? you have to i mean its your stuff tell her to go get her own and dont worry bout hurting her feelings
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thats so rude. ask her if u have such BAD style then why does she want your clothes. thats scummy
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You should totally stop being her friend! Shes using you just so she can have your stuff. If you want to start fresh you should just tell her you dont want to be friends anymore but dont be too rude because then a lot of drama could occur and that sucks! Its her own fault she cant see what a great friend and person you are and that is her loss. Dont let this girl be pulling you down and stomping all over your ego just so she can feel better... its totally low-life! I think its a good idea to find new friends, you totally capable!Hope you find my advice helpful!
~Camilian247
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eww that is absolutely RUDE of her! i would ask for everything back and not talk to her again b/c that is so dumb! if you have "no style" she can go buy her own damn things! dang i want to slap her... and i don't even know her. she's not your friend... start out fresh and make some good friends. <3
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omg YES! you don;t need friends that beg you for stuff and take stuff fromy uo , then inSULT you, the insults themselves should be enough to drop her. tehre are plenty of opther friends you could have and you seirosuly dont want to be wasting your valuable time on her. and you can tell her if you have "such a bad style" then why does seh borrow your clothes and stuff all the time? tell her if this doesn't stop soon, shell be long gone very soon
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If she was a real friend she would be just as nice to you as you are to her. In this situation it sounds like your "friend" is using you for the stuff you have. Next year you should try and start off fresh and get some new friends.
Hope it all works out. <3
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Leave her. Obviosly she is not your friend and is trying to get things from you. You will be better off without her.
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#1. Write with spaces! #2. No way! Don't be friends with her. I had a friend like that but I got out of it soon enough! Find a new friend, and hang out with her and eventually she will get tired of it. Really, don't hang out with her.. she'll get your self-esteem down. <33
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Well no offence to you but you need to stop being so giving to her. You need to learn to say no. And if she gets mad, she isnt worth it. She isnt a good friend if she is basically using you to get free stuff. Talk to her. Maybe if you stil wanna be friend say "you can borrow it but i want it back" or something. Talk it out with her.
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She doesn't seem like such a nice friend..
If she asks for something next time and you don't want her to have it, say "if I supposedly have no style, why do you want it?" Don't let this girl walk all over you.
If you don't mind her borrowing your stuff but would like some in return, next time she asks for something, say "yes, but only if you let me borrow *insert whatever here*"
If she's still being rude to you, simply tell her to stop. and if she doesn't, forget her.
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oh yea you should get rid of her fast dont even wait for the year to star this girl is nothing but 70% user and 29% anoygin and 1%water seriously im sorry to say she is using you she isnt a true friend she just takes your stuff and assume you dont care because you let her you have to be mean and agressive mentally tell her to pis off if she ever asks for anything again or for you ok well bye
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First of all stop letting her take your stuff. Simply tell her no.
Say things like:
"If I can't borrow your stuff what makes you think it's ok to borrow mine?"
Or next time she wants to borrow some clothes say, "I thought I didn't have any style?"
She's obviously jealous of you. I wouldn't just dump her, but I would start taking a little more control in the friendship. If she doesn't like it then it's time to ditch her.
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Talk to her about it, tell her that you dont like her doing this to you and it makes you feel bad about yourself. If she really doesnt care when you tell her this, then i wouldnt pay her much attention.
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