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what are some excercising tips/eating tips of how to get a flat stomach? (link)
you should do exercise thats for your abs it helps you lose weight alot

do alot of sit ups and exercising that has to do dealing with your stomach


My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. The first few months we started dating, he asked me the usual "virginity" questions and things like that.. I told him everything, BUT I added and took away things to make me sound ok. I still wasn't comfortable telling him everything.

After the drama of me being a "liar", I prayed, and realized that if I want this relationship to be the way it needs to, then I need to let him know EVERYTHING about me. Nothing should be hidden. So, at 4am (what a great time) I let him know.

8 months later, he has moved to my city for me, we'll be going to school together.. basically starting a new chapter. Everything is PERFECT.

I live in a VERY small town where everyone knows everyone and everyone likes to have something to say bad about someone. A guy that comes into my boyfriends store often came in to tell my boyfriend a handful of LIES about me. The things he said didn't derive from any truth.. they were literally made up off of the top of his head. My boyfriend knew this guy lies about a lot of things, but then someone I had never met before that was friends with the liar backed him up.

The liar is someone I went to highschool with, but never knew. I knew of him. The other guy I have yet to have ever met him, nor have seen in my entire life. Plus.. both guys kept saying to my boyfriend "don't tell her we said this.." That's pretty obvious to me that those were all lies.

I want to confront the liars without making a scene.

I feel like I'm 15 again.

Why can't people grow up, and why can't my boyfriend believe me??? I have been truthful to him since the one and only incident before.

I'm way past this nonsense drama. I'm ready for a future and I can't have this future here with people like that. I'm tired of people that I don't even KNOW stepping into my relationship and causing problems.

...I'm clueless.. Hopefully this will blow over. (link)
in my opinion I think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him I really love you but I dont want to be in a relationship with you were you going to be believing others and not me

where theres no trust there's no love


just be straight to him and tell him everything you feel



hope I helped


Hi :) what are the best kind of shampoos/conditioners you could get for weak/fine hair? what kinds of shampoos/conditioners are bad for your hair? (link)
the best shampoos conditioners are thermasilk there are really good trust me


be prepared, its a bit long.


my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months. he's amazing. it was actually one of those best friends for life, turned love, things er whatever. but the thing is: he has jealousy issues like no other. he always tells me that guys are flirting with me, and he doesn't like it. i admit, i do flirt with guys, but its my nature. i grew up with guys. and i dont see flirting like most people do. i know its bad, but i cant seem to get it through my boyfriend's head that i only like him. and not anyone else. i try to explain i dont mean to flirt. but he just says 'okay' in that sarcastic, i know he's lying sort of way. and to top it all off. he 'flirts' with other girls too. if he wants to say that i do. but i know he doesnt mean it.

[bt the way, "flirting" in the sense. would be me pushing a guy. or pretending to throw him in the water. or the definition of childish flirting. i'm not even talking about like, kissing other guys or anything]

..and i definitly don't want to screw things up with the one guy that i dont have any problems with [well, besdies this].


so, im asking.
could anyone give advice on how i could possibly.
try to stop "flirting" with people.
or how to get it through his head, that i dont mean to.
because i think he only partially believes me. (link)
in my opinion I think you should stop flirting with boys since your boyfriend does not like that. Im telling you this because I went through the same thing until I told myself I would not like my men to be flirting with girls so I should stop flirting with guys.

ALso A way to stop flirting with guys is by hang out more with your boyfriend or any of your friends that are girls


I hope I helped


i love my best friend to death and I REALLY dont want to disobey her trust. see a while ago she told me all this stuff about how she has another world she can escape 2 and sometimes she feels like she doesnt know who she is. she sometimes even, she says, forgets her name. shes already tried talking to her parents and a therapist, and her parents have tried giving her pills. all of it, she says, just make her feel worse, like shes insane. she has a lot of friends, gets good grades, in whole leads a very normal life and acts perfectly normal. we didn't mention this for a while, but over the weekend i went down with her family to the beach. saturday night she started randomly dancing in the sand, running and spazzing randomly all over the place, inchined way to close to the firework display just so, as she put it, she could be close to the sea, and wrote the name's of random people we no in the sand. all of this is very unlike her, and i at the time half-jokingly asked her "if she was here as herself" she wudnt answer me for a while and then very quietly said "who else would i be" and then wouldnt answer any more questions. later that night i asked what was going on and she wouldnt tell me. one of our other friends was there, who doesnt no everything i no and said shes fine stop overreacting. iasked her if she "promised" she was fine (promise is our trust word) and she wouldnt promise. i tried talking her into talking to me cuz i just wanted to help, I didnt want her to go through whatever it was alone. she wouldnt say anything. the next morning everything was back to normal. i dont know what to do and i cant tell anyone because i REALLY REALLY REALLY cant betray her trust like that. please help. (link)
in my opinion I know its a hard situation but you as being her best friend you should sit down talk to her and tell her that its not that you want to lose her trust by telling someone her problem but that you care alot for her and you really want to take her to a therapist or a doctor to find out whats going on with her because your afraid that something dangerous its going on with her.

the whole point is telling her how you feel and why you want to take her somewhere where they could help her.

I hope I helped


Ok my ex and i broke up about a month ago, and now were just friends. well the other day i was talking to his brother who is 2 years younger than him and he told me he was going to ask me out the first time he met me, when me and my ex weren't going out. I guess my ex told his brother to back off and told him that I was his (my ex's). Well the other day the brother asked me out, but i said no because i went out with his brother. lately i've been thinking about him, did i do the right thing? What should I do? (link)
hi in my opinion i think that it doesnt matter if you went out with he's brother. Now if you dont have no more feeling for your ex and you now have for hes brother you have the right to go out with him if he likes you as well.But if you stll have feling for your ex I think you should not go out with your ex boyfriends brother.


Its all up to you I hope I helped


hey! well im 15/f
and allright so ive been having boy troubles lately..i was kinda crushin a little bit on this guy and we were flirtin alot until i find out he just got a girlfriend so that went down then drain and now i feel like i cant flirt with him anymore. so i just sit there but he kinda still flirts with me! i mean i spilt somethin on my shorts lol and so i was changin into my boxer shorts in my friends room and i guess he told my friends sister to open the door and pull down the towel i had because supposively he wanted to see my ass and i dont know i didnt start flirting with him because i backed off since i found out he had a girlfriend but he still kinda flirts with me! he is so adorable and sweet and we can have such good talks and i was talkin to him on AIM and hes like jokin around sayin ohh didnt this boy look sexy today and i was like haha real funny! and hes like just kidding but we'll find you a boy dont worry. hes just sooo sweet!! but he really likes this girl and i guess has liked her for awhile but then why does he do this with me?! and like for stuff on AIM or whatever hes always like i love you lindsey?!
soo im just so confused... (link)
in my opinion i think you hould stop flirting with him since he has a girlfriend and he knoews that you know and since you still flirt with him he may think that to you it does not matter that he has a girlfriend. he may think you will always be going after him trying to flirt..

I advice you to stop flirting with him.


ok well me and my b/f we at this dance thing and we were dancing then out of nowhere another girl comes up to us and was like hey ur hott to my b/f then right there he just lefted (i thought he saw one of his friends or somthing)well moments later me and my friends were walking around then when a slow song came up i saw my b/f dancing with the girl that called him hott i really didnt mind at first but then later he came up to me and broke up with me for the other girl.so then right after he broke up with me he asked that girl out butt she said no because she already had a bf but he wasnt there soo she had no 1 to dance wiht soo she just asked a random person to dance with her(my b/f) well then my b/f came up to me again and asked me out again but all my friends told me not to go back out wiht himm but i honestly still love himm but i dont no wut to do??plzz help (link)
hi in my opinion even though you love im I think you should first think before you go back out with him.to me I think he does not really love you because a true boy that has a girlfriend would not brake up with for a nother girl and then ask his girl to go back out with him just becuase the other girl told him that she has a boyfriend i think you should talk to him and tell him how you felt or feel about what he did to you




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