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Boyfriend or no?
Okay I was with the guy for over a year. On and off. And this is our third try. I'm pretty sure he liked some other chick.. but couldn't get with her and then asked me out. I feel stupid and yeah.. I don't know what to do.. because he doesn't really call me. He talks to his other friends on the phone and puts me on hold. :\ And he doesn't really show or tell me that he likes me or that he's happy with me.. or anything like that. So i really don't know what's going on. It's just.. "BYE" and I feel like he likes the other girl...and not me anymore. I don't know what to do because I'm not really sure I'm right.
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You need to just ask him if you are what he wants or not. Just straight out. If he likes another girl, then obviously this romance is not right for you! You deserve better! And if you arehaving hazy feelings about him, you might as well want to get out of it because if you aren't 100% sure of what you are feeling then someone's heart is going to break.
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You could ask him in a subtle way. "hey baby, I was just wondering if you are happy with us being together?"
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omg woman you are being used and played with like hell.how can you accept this to happen to yourself??your a FEMALE and FEMALES desserve to be treated with all respect!!!! he only asked you out cuz he knows you desperatley like him and will agree at any cost so hes like FiNe since that other hot chick didnt go out with me imma try to piss of the hot chick by showing her i go out with other girls!!he doesnt LIKE you hes playing around with you!!you dump this guy now and get a life!!you need a guy that desserves you and loves you and treats you like total royalty the way every female desserves to be treated!
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I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I think you should break it off w/him. He isn't treating w/respect and you deserve better than this. I'm not telling you to close yourself off completely w/him, but he, right now, is taking you for granted. You have to take a stand on how you want to be treated in a relationship or a guy will always do what he's always done. He will think it is acceptable to you. If you break it off w/him it will be a total shock to him. He thinks he has you where he wants you that you are his lap dog, so to speak. There's a well known secret that women don't want to follow when they like someone and that's MEN LIKE TO DO THE CHASING. Men like the thrill of the chase and the tougher it is for them the more they want it. That is probably what is going on more w/this other girl than a true emotional attachment. He can't have her so of course he wants her. So, breaking up w/him may give him a little of that interaction w/you. Start seeing other guys right away. You never know, you may find someone who will admire you and treat you the way you deserve. Dating is the arena where you go out w/people to determine what kind of person you can life the rest of your life with. You need to get out there and see what else is out there for you. In your present situation you are setting yourself up to being accepting of this type of behavior for a lifetime. You have to ask yourself; "Do I want my partner in life to treat me this way?" If your present boyfriend truly wants to be w/you, let him chase you for a little. Let him put forth a little effort in getting you back. If he has to work for you, I've found, he appreciates you more and is thankful for having you in his life. This is what you deserve. I don't suggest talking to him first because that may end up w/him doing that to you and wouldn't you rather be the one in control? It rarely happens, when they break up w/you, that they see what they are loosing. If they do the breaking up they think, "thank God I'm out of that. I should have done that a long time ago." But if you do it they go, "what just happened. I thought we had something....". I know this is a tough situation to be in and I feel for you. I've been there too. Whatever you choose to do I hope that all your dreams come true.
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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Guys shouldn't treat you like that no matter what. He should want to be with you, not just kinda sorta want you to be his girlfriend. It sounds like you can do alot better than some guy, who you are pretty sure likes somebody else. It's not worth it. You should spend your time and energy on somebody who you really like and likes you back and wants to call you and spend all his time with you. I hope I helped at all. Good luck! I love feedback good and bad!
Love,
Molly
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I would talk to him about it.Tell him how you feel about this.If he assures you that everything is fine,then it is.He just may be one of those guys who just doesn't show affection very much.Just talk to him,he should know it's bugging you.
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I think you should confront him about it. Don't really like accuse him of anything but say something about it to him. If you still feel the way you do maybe he is just not the right guy for you. Good luck
Alli<3
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maybe you should ask him about it.
don't accuse him. but just ask.
if you don't get any answers.
then try to be in the same place with him & friends.
maybe even the other girl.
that way you can see if he blows you off for her
or for his friends.
i agree that he may just be using you.
to say he has a girlfriend, or to get the other girl jealous.
and id he is, you should end it soon.
hope i helped. :D
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I think that he is using you. Try talking to him first. If he sounds nervous and doesn't look at you when you guys are talking, something might be going on. Look him in the eyes, and ask him "Have you been cheating on me?" or, "Do you really want to pursue a relationship?". He could be using you just for the status, so he can tell all of his 'buddies' about how he has a girlfriend. Don't make jokes or start laughing when you're talking to him. You have to show him that you are very serious.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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