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i need a way to get somewhere far away
hi, im fourteen and i need to go to illinios to see the girl of my dreams and i need to no the easiest way to do it....i take all suggestions and i have tried to get family to take me but they wont so help me plz
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Edited answer: When a minor leaves home without parental permission; depending on circumstances, the can be considered a runaway. This is why those of us that answered you used the term runaway.
If you have your parents permission and you have a safe way to travel, such as by bus, train or plane, you would probably not encounter any problems. To be on the safe side if you do get to travel to see your girlfriend and are traveling by bus or train have a letter form your parents with you with all of their contact information should the police want to verify you have permission to travel alone.
Zane is right; Running away is not going to solve your problems. All it will do is cause you a whole lot of new ones for what in my day was called "Puppy Love" or "First Love".
Lets start with how are you going to get there? You need money for a bus ticket. You are to young to get a job. It doesn't sound like your going to get the money from your parents, so what's left. Hitchhiking is way to dangerous, you could end up dead.
Once you leave home your a runaway. Your parents file a missing persons report. An amber alert goes out. It is doubtful if you get past the first point where you have to change buses. Then you are in Police custody and placed in detention until either the police arrange for transportation home or your parents come for you. Once home you have to deal with family services and juvenile courts. You have to trust me here but no matter how strict your parents may be family services can be more strict.
For what it is worth the odds are against you getting to your girlfriends. If you do you can expect the police to be waiting for you. So that gives you a zero chance of spending anytime with her. Frankly I don't see an upside to running away to see her.
Instead communicate by Email and phone calls. Come next summer maybe your two parents can come to an agreement whereby the two of you can spend some time with each other by visiting one another. This is something you both have the entire winter and spring to discuss with each other and your parents.
My plan has a much higher chance of success than your plan of running away. Try talking to your parents instead of taking a hot headed approach that has no plan of success but a 100% chance of ruining your life.
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Running away is not going to solve your problems, It is not going to make your wishes to be with this girl come true.
You are a minor, If you runaway you will be in a load of trouble. Likewise, Your parents will file a missing person report and the police will be out searching for you. If found you could possibly put in Juvenile Detention Facility. Running away is not a smart way to go. If you want to talk to this girl, I suggest using another alternative.
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i kinda am in the same situation but
1-my girlfriend is in the same state im in
2-i already ran away
but my advice is do what you believe is right , thats what i did
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You want to run away? That's wrong. Did your family allow you to go see her on your own? I doubt that.
Running away to see her is not the right way to be with her. You can contact her in many other ways. You can talk online via video chat or talk on the phone, or even visit each other but on holidays and occasions. But you can't run away and leave your life and family behind to be with her. Besides, why isn't SHE running away to be with you? Why isn't she thinking the same? You think it's because you are the guy, so you are the one who should run away to be with her? That's not necessarily, if she was inlove with you as much as you were in love with her, you would be running away together, and not only you running to her.
You are still fourteen, you are not IN love, you are only overwhelmed by a sensation of admiration and excitement, a new feeling that you feel, but it's not love, you don't know love yet, and you may not believe me, but whether you continue to be with her or not, one day you WILL be in love, and you'll know that what you felt now was nothing in comparison.
So for now, don't rush things, be with her, but in a long distance relationship, till after a couple of years, when you join college, maybe you could move to illinois and go to college there, and then you could be with her, and if she's the same age as you, maybe you could even join the same university. This is how things work, but it's not by you running away and leaving your family and education and life and going all the way there, just so you'd realize that you have no money or place there, and it's not like she'll take you into her home and her family would agree. What are you going to do then? How would you support yourself? Are you going to get a job at 14 years, you won't find a job at your age.
So always in life, when you want to do something, you have to put out a plan, and see if it'll work, you have to plan ahead and work out all the different possibilities for your plan, but right now, for your plan, there is 0 success that it will work.
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