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I thought I was a virgin, but I am not. How do I tell my mom?
I'm 15 years old, and still thought i was a virgin it' hurts me to read other people's stuff saying they thought they were too but it turned out that im not one , i've been with that guy 1 year and about to be 3 months. .. and right now.. i dont know what to do or think... My mom is like a bestfriend, how should i tell her how things happend'? that im not, and what me n him were doing . it breaks my heart lying to her :'( i neeed advice . ALOT.
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how can someone not know if theyre a virgin? maybe you're over reacting and you are still a virgin?.
theres no easy way to say this to your mom but trust me she might feel sad at first but then she's gonna be SO greatful that ure being honest with her cause trust me lots of girls are not with theyre mothers about this issue even if they have a "good " relationship , id be so lucky to think of my mom as my best friend . i think i would say something like this ..
mom i dont know how to say this and i dont know how youre gonna take this ...but i lost my virginity to ____ not long ago. and i dont feel good not being opened about this with you (dont say you feel bad for having sex cause she will feel sad you probably regreat it or something or feel guilty) i wanna be honest with you and im sorry i didnt told you sooner, also you must know you have nothing to worry about cause we were safe (in case you were...and if you werent and u didnt turned out pregnant tell her you were to ease her mind and be safe from now on !!! her biggest 'dissapointment' would be you turn out pregnant...) so mom im sorry i didnt say it sooner and i wanna have a good relationship with you u're my best friend and i thought you should know about what happened since you're the best one to ask for advice cause i know you care about my well being.
she's probably gonna be more overwhelmed about the fact you told her mom i was safe and you were my best friend and im trusting you by telling you this (mom's LOVE to feel theyre their daughters best friends so shes gonna feel lucky and hopefuly wont get upset about it )
if she does get upset it will be only for a little while you have to understand that for a mother is hard to accept her girl is growing up and she might be very worried about you making mistakes ,
dont worry too much, if your mom gets upset or whatever her reaction is is only because she loves you more than anyone and she will be happy you shared this with her, she will probably give you advice on it and if u dont regreat having sex and you feel good about it , let her know because she will be VERY worried about oh no i hope she doestn regreat it later :( !!! so saying mom i did this and i was safe i dont regreat it and i am being mature about this will make her feel she has raised you well
dont feel bad for having sex, i think you are a bit young to be honest but if you were mature enough about the issue and you're mature enough to have sex and accept the consequences and be safe about it then its fine, the most iportant thing for you and for your mom is to know you were ready for it . this will ease her mind
and btw not to offend with the comment about moms dissapointment about being pregnant, its just that ive seen it myself and for a mom is very hard to see that their kids life are about to change big time for not being cautious enough, its just very hard on them when they have high expectations for their kids.
make sure you're being safe and to be open with your mom, don't miss on this great opportunity you have, the opportunity to have a very close relationship with your mom, you both are lucky.
good luck
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There is no easy way to tell your mom about it, but there is the fact that she's your mom and she's your best friend, and no matter what you do, a mother's love is unconditional and she will always love you. Even if she gets really mad at you at first, and maybe even stop talking to you for a while, and that's usually, because she'll be hit by the fact that you've grown up, and how soon that happened, because parent's usually always see their children as children, as the little babies they once were, but they always expect that one day you'll grow up and move past this stage, but it differs when you grow up too soon or too late. This is what hurts them the most, growing up too soon, it's like time has passed and you've already had sex and lost your virginity. Your mom will be hurt at first, but she'll accept the fact soon enough, and she'll be there for you.
And believe me telling her is better than not telling her, and like you said, she's like a best friend to you, and tell her that, tell her that you are so close to each other and that you never want to lie to her or keep secrets from her, so you are being honest with her and telling her that you lost your virginity, she will respect that and love that you opened up to her and trusted her and was honest with her, even if she'll be upset at first.
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