What is love? this is not a quest. but an anwer in my opinion:
To whom this concerns...many people wonder how to tell if one is in love..love is never sellfish, love is never conceited nor boastful, love is considerate and inexplicable, love has no interest in rewards or benefits of any sort, love is giving, love is comfort,love is praising and acknowledging,love is accepting-- without critisism, love is not jealous nor recentful,love is forgiving, love is sincere and truthful regardless of the reactions and surroundings,love is everlasting--even after death or part. If you seriously take a moment to ponder, everyone is sellfish in their own way, the day you place another person before yourself, (their wants and needs), that is love...the day another person's requests are not a challenge to your being and your actions are unconditional, that is love..the day your pride is no longer overwhelming and ego is not an issue, that is love..the day there are no longer any more fish in the sea, that is love..the day you would rather the opposing person's presence and company over anything else, that is love..the day you are in love , it will be something so rare, you will know..
ps.. if you have any additional thought please feel free to express yourself to the fullest without fear of recieving judgement or objection.. im here to listen..
sincerelly yours, a wise bystander
Member Since: December 26, 2005
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How do you know that you're in love. I've liked this guy since the beginning of the school year and my friends think he likes me back. He's had several girlfriends but the "dating time" never really lasts long. Lately I've been thinking about him a lot and everytime a hear a song...I automatically think of him. What is love? And how do you know that you're in it? (link)
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What is love? this is not a quest. but an anwer in my opinion:
To whom this concerns...many people wonder how to tell if one is in love..love is never sellfish, love is never conceited nor boastful, love is considerate and inexplicable, love has no interest in rewards or benefits of any sort, love is giving, love is comfort,love is praising and acknowledging,love is accepting-- without critisism, love is not jealous nor recentful,love is forgiving,love is sincere and truthful regardless of the reactions and surroundings,love is everlasting--even after death or part. If you seriously take a moment to ponder, everyone is sellfish in their own way, the day you place another person before yourself, (their wants and needs), that is love...the day another person's requests are not a challenge to your being and your actions are unconditional, that is love..the day your pride is no longer overwhelming and ego is not an issue, that is love..the day there are no longer any more fish in the sea, that is love..the day you would rather the opposing person's presence and company over anything else, that is love..the day you are in love , it will be something so rare, you will know..
sincerelly yours, a wise bystander
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i realy dont even know y i am so freaked out i have so so much to be thankful for a great family great friends an awsoem bf but none of that helpes me i always just look in the mere and hate myslef the way i look the dumbest possible things i pick out everything that is wrong mayeb even not wrong i see it from i think i am realy fat, to i am ugly, to my smile is horrible and lamest of them all my butt is shaped weird im not depressed been there doen that i used to cut myself but i opened my eyes and relized how much it was hurting the pl areound em and myself so i will never go back to that or anything like that. hateing the way i look is one of the worst feelings i know ill think i look realy hot one minute but then it shadders ill ne at the mall with my friend and look awsoem but i see a pair of realy realy hott guys and automatically no there not staring at me but at my friend no possible way that they are staring at me i never get a hot hot hot guy. i need help hwo can i possibly not look down on myself so much thanx u so much and no mean answers pleezz thanxs (link)
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I wish I had something beneficial to say, but hopefully the following words will at least let you know that you are not alone..I feel the same way, always insecure, I feel like a hippo compared to others, not good enough, unattractive... but i think, that beleive it or not society has a lot to do with it. If we weren't constantly comparing ourselves to what the public displays as beauty we wouldnt be so discontent with our own characteristics. The first step is to stop comparing yourself to others, because sorry to say this, but there will always be someone better than you, i think to myself yeah maybe others are more physically attractive, but you have no idea what problems they could be dealing with, maybe issues with their family, money,drugs, or academically challenged. The thing is that many hide their pain from others and smile with hipocracy to fool their audience into beliving they are the happiest people ever. Happiness does not exist on permanent terms only momentarily, think of the things that make you happy and do them, engage in activities to keep your mind occupied, and get to know yourself..your strengths, weaknesses you desires and dreams, and soon you will find you are a lot more complicated than what you give yourself credit for..before anyone can love you or you can love anyone else you have to love yourself. Because people come and go and in the end all you have is the lord and yourself.Do not depend on others or your environment to change the way you feel, because that is useless,Im not saying that overcoming your selfconciousness will be a simple task, but you have to try. If it does not work or you have already attempted it, seek help from god, your mother ( because there is no love more pure and true like the love of a mother for her child and she might provide comfort for you), and maybe even a therapist, you're not crazy, and many people have the misconception that psychiatrists are for crazy people. Sometimes we just need a little help to appreciate and admire our blessings.That emptiness inside of you will never be completely full, but you can come awefully close.
ps.sorry so long,& let me know what you think
sincerelly yours, a wise bystander
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My bestfriend made out with my exboyfriend and i know that he is my ex but she is my bestfriend should my ecboyfriend be off limits?? What should i do? Should i tell her that she hurt me or just let it go?
Please i will rate 5's for any decent answers. (link)
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To start off any decent friend that has any respect and consideration would know that a previous spouse is outside of her domain. In other words, regardless of whether or not you still have feelings for your EX, dating or even interacting with him beyond friend limits should not be in the picture for that female companion of yours. Boys will be boys, but who you REALLY need to observe carefully is your so called "friend".
sincerely yours,A_Wise_Bystander
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I'm getting to the point where I can't stand to be around my boyfriend. He is really frustrating me. I don't really consider myself unreasonable and I feel really guilty about all this. He's constantly analyzing every aspect of our relationship on whether it's considered "sinful" or not. He even went on about kissing and how it must be considered 'selfish' to a persons own desires. He reads all these sexual purity books and gets his morality and philosophy from them. He is really stiff and concerned about purity.. I know most girls would love a guy who isn't sex obsessed, but sometimes I think it'd be better if he was. I feel I'm not worthy when I'm around him. I always feel like shit when he preaches about morals and stuff. what should I do? is it stupid to care about this? i feel like i'm making a big deal and should just accept it and move on.
thanks (link)
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In my opinion you are far from stupid, many fail to realize that the lack of physical encounters and interaction with your partner can cause issues to arise. For instance in long distance relationships, there are the typical reasons why they don't work which are unfaithfulnes, lying you know the whole 9 yards, but truth is the main reason is the fact that the visual and physical factors are not present. You might see your spouse on a daily basis but if he can't comfort you and warm you with his company then what use does he propose? dont get me wrong i personally do not believe in premarridal sex and i am well aware that a relationship is based on much more then just intamacy. But that does not signify that it is not required,perfection does not exist, but you want to get as close as possible, dont feel guilty if he doesnt satisfy your needs and complete you as a person, then there is someone who will and still mantains morals and all other respectful aspects. First speak to him, if he is too sellfish to see your point and refuses to come to a nogotiation/compromise then inform him that there are consequences. It is not necessary to change yourself for ANYONE but to be in a relationship, that involves bending and making sacrifices from each party, everything to a limit of course There needs to be a balance.
sincerely yours, a wise bystander
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how do i get rid of negative and suicidal thoughts?? im always righting depressing poems and wanting to die.. what can i do to stop myself? (link)
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the answer that you recieved from the user iris was really me this is my sn so respond if you please.
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