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hateing myself
i realy dont even know y i am so freaked out i have so so much to be thankful for a great family great friends an awsoem bf but none of that helpes me i always just look in the mere and hate myslef the way i look the dumbest possible things i pick out everything that is wrong mayeb even not wrong i see it from i think i am realy fat, to i am ugly, to my smile is horrible and lamest of them all my butt is shaped weird im not depressed been there doen that i used to cut myself but i opened my eyes and relized how much it was hurting the pl areound em and myself so i will never go back to that or anything like that. hateing the way i look is one of the worst feelings i know ill think i look realy hot one minute but then it shadders ill ne at the mall with my friend and look awsoem but i see a pair of realy realy hott guys and automatically no there not staring at me but at my friend no possible way that they are staring at me i never get a hot hot hot guy. i need help hwo can i possibly not look down on myself so much thanx u so much and no mean answers pleezz thanxs
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i think you should look in the mirror and pick out the good things you like about yourself and think about all the good things peopl have said like about you you are getting your self down by picking out the things you dont like i am 18, small and so skinny people used to say to me i am anerxic and i let it get me and i used to look in the mirror and say what u do but i woke up one day and thought its me whos got to live with it not them and just remember not everyone is perfect even the popular ones the just dont show it you have gotto learn how to love your self i no it might sound big headed but no one will love you if you dont love your self hope i helped
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I wish I had something beneficial to say, but hopefully the following words will at least let you know that you are not alone..I feel the same way, always insecure, I feel like a hippo compared to others, not good enough, unattractive... but i think, that beleive it or not society has a lot to do with it. If we weren't constantly comparing ourselves to what the public displays as beauty we wouldnt be so discontent with our own characteristics. The first step is to stop comparing yourself to others, because sorry to say this, but there will always be someone better than you, i think to myself yeah maybe others are more physically attractive, but you have no idea what problems they could be dealing with, maybe issues with their family, money,drugs, or academically challenged. The thing is that many hide their pain from others and smile with hipocracy to fool their audience into beliving they are the happiest people ever. Happiness does not exist on permanent terms only momentarily, think of the things that make you happy and do them, engage in activities to keep your mind occupied, and get to know yourself..your strengths, weaknesses you desires and dreams, and soon you will find you are a lot more complicated than what you give yourself credit for..before anyone can love you or you can love anyone else you have to love yourself. Because people come and go and in the end all you have is the lord and yourself.Do not depend on others or your environment to change the way you feel, because that is useless,Im not saying that overcoming your selfconciousness will be a simple task, but you have to try. If it does not work or you have already attempted it, seek help from god, your mother ( because there is no love more pure and true like the love of a mother for her child and she might provide comfort for you), and maybe even a therapist, you're not crazy, and many people have the misconception that psychiatrists are for crazy people. Sometimes we just need a little help to appreciate and admire our blessings.That emptiness inside of you will never be completely full, but you can come awefully close.
ps.sorry so long,& let me know what you think
sincerelly yours, a wise bystander
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I always used to feel like that, I hate that feeling. You can't always think so negative about yourself, you gotta think of all the good stuff about you so your self-esteem won't go so far down that you'll be sad & cry all the time. You probably are a very pretty person, don't let anyone get you down. When your friends, family, or boyfriend compliment you, listen to them, because they will raise your self-esteem & you'll feel really good about yourself.
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aw! I know exactly how you feel. Like when you're at your house getting ready to do something with your friends and you think to yourself "Wow I look really pretty right now" but once you're with your friends you think "OMG My friends are so much prettier than me and I'm so ugly." (Not calling you ugly..I haven't even SEEEN you) If this is how you feel we have the same problem lol and I should take my own advice after writing this.
You need to stop thinking so negative about yourself and open up, don't think of how bad you look in public. (Again not saying you do)
and also what would be fun, is have one of your friends give you a makeover. I'm so doing that
okay sorry lol and good luck sorry it's not much.<333 Hope I helped
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