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He really frustrates me
I'm getting to the point where I can't stand to be around my boyfriend. He is really frustrating me. I don't really consider myself unreasonable and I feel really guilty about all this. He's constantly analyzing every aspect of our relationship on whether it's considered "sinful" or not. He even went on about kissing and how it must be considered 'selfish' to a persons own desires. He reads all these sexual purity books and gets his morality and philosophy from them. He is really stiff and concerned about purity.. I know most girls would love a guy who isn't sex obsessed, but sometimes I think it'd be better if he was. I feel I'm not worthy when I'm around him. I always feel like shit when he preaches about morals and stuff. what should I do? is it stupid to care about this? i feel like i'm making a big deal and should just accept it and move on.
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not stupid to feel this way,
maybe start listening to what he says and challange him on some points, like kissing being selfish, what a load of crock, if you are both enjoying it its NOT selfish is it?
it is selfish to rape someone.
tell him to lighten up, a relationship should have fun too, not just preaching.
If he no budge, don't make a big deal, accept it and move on.
goodluck
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In my opinion you are far from stupid, many fail to realize that the lack of physical encounters and interaction with your partner can cause issues to arise. For instance in long distance relationships, there are the typical reasons why they don't work which are unfaithfulnes, lying you know the whole 9 yards, but truth is the main reason is the fact that the visual and physical factors are not present. You might see your spouse on a daily basis but if he can't comfort you and warm you with his company then what use does he propose? dont get me wrong i personally do not believe in premarridal sex and i am well aware that a relationship is based on much more then just intamacy. But that does not signify that it is not required,perfection does not exist, but you want to get as close as possible, dont feel guilty if he doesnt satisfy your needs and complete you as a person, then there is someone who will and still mantains morals and all other respectful aspects. First speak to him, if he is too sellfish to see your point and refuses to come to a nogotiation/compromise then inform him that there are consequences. It is not necessary to change yourself for ANYONE but to be in a relationship, that involves bending and making sacrifices from each party, everything to a limit of course There needs to be a balance.
sincerely yours, a wise bystander
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No. I don't think you are making a big deal about this at all. You two are in two different places when it comes to this stuff and he shouldn't make you feel like crap because he feels one way. In a sense, he is suggesting that he may not respect your feelings or values the way he is talking to you. I think that maybe you are maybe better suited to other people. Its going to be a new year, make it one where you are happy and not annoyed and feel the same way as the person you are dating.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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If you can't stand being around him and his purity obsession, break up with him. It won't work...you want different things. <3
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Its not you thats at fault hear, its him! so you have nothing to feel guilty about what-so-ever! unfortunataly your boy freind is one of thies bain washed, bible bashing, christian lunatics! my advice is simple darlen, get rid of him! you deserve better than to put up with his rediculous crap, you say your self he makes you feel like shit and he would do the same to any girl. people like him make my blood boil, the world would be better of without them and you would be better of with out him!
let us know what happens, remember you deserve better!
Chandler
xx
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i think you should break up with him its not stupid that you care about this just move on youll find a better guy sooner or later good luck babe ♥
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The answer is simple: if he doesn't make you happy, leave him.
Life's far too short to waste on someone who makes you feel bad. And perhaps, that way, he'll be able to find the repressed prude that he apparently wants.
There are definitely guys out there who will make you happy. Don't rush into your next relationship - you don't want a rebound situation, after all - but move on and see what the world has to offer. There's no reason that you can't be happy.
Good luck!
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Well see since you haven`t exactly talked to him about he might think you like hearing all this. Talk to him and tell him that he`s acting a little strange and that you would for him to stop. If it doesn`t work out then just give him up. I know that`s tough but it might be the best thing. Good luck
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In my own oppinion i think that you should just move on because that is not what i would call a true bf.Listen your putting yourself down because of his mistakes and thats not healthy or right.
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