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I have fun when I am with him... but I feel like I can do better.
Okay well let me start off to say im 16 years old and I haven't had a boyfriend in two years after I broke up with a guy after a year relationship. The guy he was and usually what I go after is I guess like a jock you can say, but they always end up being a asshole. However, that's the kind of guys my dad like to see me with too. One whose out going, athletic, and all of that kind of traits. I been told that I'm really pretty not trying to sound concieted, but this goes on with my story. Anyhow there's this guy I went out with a few times. His totally not what I'm use too what so ever his more like the nerdy side I guess you can say. He met my parents today and of course I can tell my dad didn't like him so much. I have fun when I'm with him though and maybe being different is a good thing, but at the same time I feel like I can do better. I don't want to lead this kid on though thinking he has a chance which I don't even know if he might. It's kind of like the movie she's out of my league and that's what I keep telling myself. Maybe I should give him a chance, or what?
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Let me give you an insight on this.
I'm now 21. I've always dated the jocks too, mostly the hockey players. I've dated college hockey player and even been together with a few pro hockey players. The thing is, they were assholes like you said. I would always be worried if they were cheating on me and wondered if they really liked me or were in it for other reasons. But, I kept going for them because that's my type.
Well this summer, some guys that is NOT my type came along. I wouldn't say he's a nerd, but he's more of a country boy. Right away I thought, definitely not for me. How can we possibly be together when he's not my type and we don't have much in common? Well, little did I know he was the guy that every girl dreams of; everything I've ever wanted in a guy. At first, I was still hesitant but then I knew he was what I deserved. We've been together for 6 months now and I'm honestly the happiest I've ever been. You may be worried what other people think of you because you may be dating a 'nerd' but all that matters is how YOU feel. With that being said, I'd say you should give him a chance. He could be your prince charming.
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ok so ur entitled to like who ever you want and be into who ever you want. I would not let my father make my choices if im going to be unhappy. If youre unhappy you should not be leading him on because everyone has feelings and just like you would get hurt so will he. The fact that you said youre pretty and hes nerdy makes me feel like he might feel like hes a winner and might feel like he cant do better while youre feeling like you could. Think bout it but dont lead someone on to make months with them because when you finally decide youre brave enough to tell him he wont take it to well.
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Well if you think you can do better because he is on the nerdy side and isn't a football player then you shouldn't be leading him on.
I'm just saying, just cause he is a bit of a nerd doesn't mean he's not good enough. He's probably better than a lot of other guys out there.
Anyways, you can do whatever you want but if you're gonna keep thinking that, you shouldn't date him.
If you realize that he might not be too bad, then yeah, give him a chance. You might end up really liking him. If you have fun with him and he's a good guy who will treat you right and has good qualities, why not give him a chance?
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What says he's not good enough for you? Is it because he's not 'Brad Pitt'? Is it because he isn't on the varsity football team? You know those things don't create a person's worth, right? I hope you know that. It's not who a person is it's hwo the person is. He might not be your first pick but he could be the next 'Bill Gates'. As for your Dad, I don't think he cares who really date as long as you are happy and he's good to you. Parents want the best for their kids. The questions you need to ask yourself are: Am I happy? Do I like him?
And if you do then nothing or anyone will keep you from dating him or being with him.
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Nope. Don't 'give him a chance' if you keep thinking you can do better - No one wants to be a pity date.
If you think you can do better than him because he's a nerd, and you are a pretty girl who can snag a jock, then you aren't ready for him - not that he's not 'good enough' for you - you aren’t ready to leave the high school bullshit behind when choosing a romantic partner. You can't, or don't want to, make that leap yet.
And that’s okay. You are sixteen. You are allowed to still be deeply involved in the high school bullshit - you are still in high school after all. It’s not necessarily a bad thing to take your dad’s opinion to heart either.
Someday might like a ‘nerdy guy’ enough to get over the status nonsense and go for it.
But you aren’t there yet. So end the relationship. Anything else is leading him on, and pretending you are someone you aren't. It's not respectful to date someone you think is beneath you.
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