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I've been talking to this guy but lately he's put me on the burner saying he doesn't want to cheat on his girl. But there are times where he acts interested all over again, and there are times where he won't text or barely flirt with me. Is he just lying to himself or is he really over it? (link)
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So I think he's interested but doesn't want to cheat on his girlfriend. You wouldn't want a guy who'd cheat on his girlfriend anyways.
At this point, he's confused and giving you mixed signals so I wouldn't try to go anywhere with him unless their relationship is over.
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I am head over heels in luv with a boy in my class Problem. I want to have sex with him SOOOOOOOO bad , and he kisses me and dry humps me and luv it but I wanna go ALL the with him, but we are both 11 what should I do?
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Having sex at 11 is really not good. So many problems can happen that you are not ready for. You could get pregnant, you'd need to get on birth control and I doubt your parents will be ok with that, you could get STDs, then you'll have your emotional weight to carry.
It is tough having sex when you're an older teenager and an adult with all the emotional baggage. There is no way an 11 year old could handle it.
You shouldn't even be dry humping..you're only 11.
Just try to control yourself and not have sex till you are older.
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Theres this guy ive been talking to for a while now, and we sweet talk, he even tried to hold my hand a few times, but i just found out that he talks to his ex (he was with her for 2 years) and like gets jealous over her still ,and still argues with her.. and even when he was talking to me and he said he had to go cause of his mom, he was actually talking to her arguing about these guys she flirts with, they can never be together though, because of some particular reasons.. but i dont know like, hell want me to call him before i sleep, text him when i wake up, hes always so sweet to me and always calls me alot, and when i told him were like brother and sister he got annoyed and told me to never say that again and that were not at all, and were more than that, but he didnt say what we were.. now i dont know, should i hold on to him because he has every right to still be inlove and jealous over his ex and just give it some time?cause maybe he likes me but is still hung up on his ex and i should be understand? or should i just cut contact or distance myself from him because i dont want to gain feelings for him , when hes probably just going to hurt me? i really do need help, any answer would be appreciated .. thanks alot =) (link)
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That's tough because you don't know whether he'll get over her or not.
So if I were you, I wouldn't be extremely close to him. Maybe someday he'll get over her and then he can actually be with you. If he can't, then you can move on and find someone else you can like you and only you.
For now, just try to be friends with him and don't try to take all the sweet stuff in, because you could end up hurt.
So just watch yourself and choose what you think is best.
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Ok so I am 15/f and I have like this boy off and on for three years now. from 7th 8th and 9th grade. Well me and this boy have the same last name. Weddington. Well apparently at the beginnign of 7th he liked me, and i didnt like him and then when i started to like him, he had a girlfriend. Well 7th grade being immature and not caring what i did around him, I would constantly be like brrotther brother brother and tell everyone he was my brother. (because of our last name) and even added him as my brother on facebook. Well he gave me weird looks sometimes and would be like stalker, and crap and he would never ever even if i asked him to call me sister he wouldnt. We still talked tho. My mom even thinks he is the cutest boy at my school! Well now in 9th my grade, at the beggining of the year he gave me a little attention, then stopped for a while. Now though about two and a half weeks ago we had our Christmas dance. It went horribele for me and I was leaving and he came up to me out of the blue and said bye sister!, my heart jumped and I about fainted! after i got home, I told my mom and she was like yay. Then that next day i got in my trig class and he came up to me and said hey sissy and i said hey bubba. I got all happy again! then we had p.e. that day together and he came over and talked to me called me sister again and then this boy slapped me and he yelled at him and said DONT HURT MY SISTER! and I was like oh my gosh. eek haha. then we where both on the side lines (we where playing basketball) and he came and sat by me and we talked for a while, and I was like yay he sat by me!, He is a basketball player, and football player so he is good at sports so he did good in the game so I gave him a high five. Then we just got back from a three day break due to teacher confrences, and now he sits behind me in one of my new classes and he always calls me sister, and everytime he walks past my desks he taps it, and then had to change between three partners in my class and he chose me as one of his partners, and I freaked out! then today he of course called me sister and stuff and then when I was at my locker today packing up to go home, he came up to my locker and told me bye! So I was just wondering do you think he likes me??? because I really like him! but do you think he does from what i've wrote? thanks(: (link)
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He sounds like he could like you. He either wants to be friends with you or he likes you a little bit more than a friend. I'd keep it how it is right now and take your friendship slowly. He sounds like he'd be a good guy to keep as a friend in case things don't work out between you two.
Obviously, he doesn't hate you or anything so keep being his friend and see where it goes from there.
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Hello I am 13 and this other guy is 13. We are both in the same class. He said he wants to have sex with me. I love him so much but he said he would date me only to have sex with him.I would do any thing to make him happen should I do it. Maybe he would want to date me after. I don't know can you help I am only 13 and do not know a lot about boys. Please help me. I need help. (link)
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Well that's obviously not a good thing. He'd just end up using you. Even if you love him, he's probably not the right guy. Good guys don't ask girls to have sex with them and then maybe they'll go out with them. It's horrible.
Also, being 13 is really young to have sex. I mean it is your choice all the way. One, you're probably not physically ready but on top of that, I doubt you're emotionally ready. So much emotions are thrown at you once you have sex. At 13, it's hard to carry all of those emotions.
Then there are a bunch of problems that come with it.
Anyways, just don't have sex with a guy because you want to date him.
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Hello Im 13 years old and so is my boyfriend. We have been dating since March 2011 and its now January 2012. He is pretty shy around me and Im sometimes like that. Everyone asks me if we say I Love You and I have to say no because he has yet to say it. Would it be weird if i told him? And how should I? Ans so far he has hugged me. Thats it. No holding hands. And obviously no kiss. How do I hint him i want to go farther (link)
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Don't tell him I love you unless you really mean it. I've told enough guys I loved them when I only realized I liked them a lot. The only reason I'd tell them I love them was because other people would keep asking or I'd feel pressured because they say it.
So until you are sure, don't say it.
Since you guys have been together for awhile, you could probably try hinting at him that you want to hold his hand. Maybe brushing yours along his or while you guys sit next to each other mess with his hands or something.
You both are shy but eventually you guys will become comfortable around each other.
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So i have a boyfriend and im 12. I went to my friends house for a sleepover and he slept over , i went home and i lied to my mom and told her that he didnt and then she didnt belive me so i told her the truth and now shes pissed and wont even look me in the eyes, she doesnt belive a word i say and we didnt do a thing. What do I do ? (link)
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Okay well you're just gonna have to gain her trust back. Talk to her and say it will never happen again..and make sure you're telling the truth when you say that.
Like if I was a mom and my 12 year old daughter lied to me about her boyfriend spending the night at her friends, I'd be pretty mad too even if they didn't mess around at all.
You're gonna have to have trust with your mom because she is an important person to have in your life. Just talk to her and make sure not to tell her anymore lies.
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I am a 15 year old girl, and I feel that my parents don't understand ANYTHING I do, or want.
I have not been to the mall with my friends EVER. My parents do not let me go, and they say it is because they aren't going to let me be like other teens roaming all around the place. I only want to hang out with my friends and be a normal teenager. I have a crappy phone plan wich gives me 50 mintues and texts per month, so my social life has gone down the drain. They are constatntly down muy throat about everything I want to do. I need some advice please! I need to know how to let my parents see my view and just let me be a teenager... (link)
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I have friends that are in this situation. One girl has parents that won't let them have a phone at all or go anywhere at all.
I think you have done all that you can do. I mean you can't force them to let you do anything and talking was the only way and they don't want to listen to it.
I guess they're just being over protective parents that want their child to not go around the mall because they think they will get into trouble and I'm pretty sure they know about stupid things that are done through text messaging and all that.
You're probably not one of those kids who will get into all kinds of trouble with phone and going out but they're just being protective.
I guess the next best thing is to reason with them. Maybe compromise with your phone and say that they can check your messages at the end of the day or you can tell them who you are texting and which people you are allowed to text.
Then with the mall, ask if you can go for maybe like 2 hours and see how they go from there.
If they still don't listen, you're probably just gonna have to go with what they say until you're older.
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so im not skinny but i'm kinda chubby and i bought a pair of pants today and they didnt fit when i tried to put them on. So im thinking about becoming anorexic to lose weight. i just dont know what to do. (link)
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That's not going to be the solution to your problem. Sometimes I get that idea in my head but I know it just leads to more and more health problems.
Just start eating right and exercising. I'm sure you are fine the way you are but if you want to lose weight, do it the right way and exercise and eat good food. You'll be fine and look good.
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Okay so, I'm like any other teenage girl: I like boys, and is or was boy crazy. I woke up yesterday not even thinking about a bot, but then again I don't see girls that way. Is it because I'm maturing, or is it just phase. (link)
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I think it's a good thing that you're not boy crazy. It makes you seem more mature that you can focus on other things and you don't have boys on your mind all the time.
I have a boyfriend and I'm not always thinking about him, talking about him, ect. I mean I love him and I do think about him but it's not obsessively like some girls are.
Anyways, nothing is wrong with you. It's a good thing that you're not really obsessed with boys.
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I started dating this guy for a month and a half, things were going great the first month..
recently i met his friend Jason, who suppousivly had been his friend for six yeas and just stated talking to him again. I only talked to him a few mins bc my boyfriend spent time with me, wanted to spend time with his friend afterwards. Im cool with that just.. I think his friend might be gay.. Im not sure but just by the way he sounds, dresses really nice like.. in a colorful way.. but anyway, He hung out with him that night, the next night on new years, and when I thought I was maybe going to see him today, he said he'll ask his dad. that was at three, its now seven. I dont think Its going to happen.. so spending time with his friend is cool, but hes not texting me much when hes with him at all. And his friend seems gay.. But i might be wrong. They were talking about his friends ex but. maybe hes bi? maybe hes straight. idk, just spending a lot of time with him. and hasent texted me.. Girls what would you think if it was your guy.. or guys am I just being paranoid? Another weird thing is my bf has talked about this kid alot. said his name in a funny way. not if its important, kinda weird though :/ (link)
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Well I wouldn't be worried about that whole being gay thing. Although who really knows?
My advice would just be to talk to him. Don't go off accusing him of being gay or bi or anything. Just try to get around the subject of trying to spend more time together. And don't sound like you're nagging him or trying to take him from his friends. I know you mean well but you don't want him to take it the wrong way. So just talk to him and see how it goes.
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There is a guy in school that I like and he used to like me but when he asked me to go to this thing with him I couldn't because I had other plans now I'm nervous that he wont like me anymore, what do I do? (link)
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Well if he was interested before, he might still feel the same now. Although if he doesn't like you anymore because you couldn't go to some thing with him, he probably wasn't worth it anyways.
Try talking to him and see if he wants to hang out with you some time. If he says yes, then he's still interested in you.
If he shows he's not interested anymore, then find someone else. You don't have to waste your time around for a guy who loses interest quickly.
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a few months ago, I became really close friends with a guy who I was in band with (he's a senior and i'm a freshman). we would text everyday and sit together on bus rides. it always seemed like he was flirting with me but nothing ever really happened until one bus ride where we held hands. i started to trust him more and i ended up telling him a big secret of mine a few weeks later. he helped me through a hard time and he asked me if i liked him...i wasn't sure but i told him yes. later he told me that i shouldn't like him. i kinda covered it up but after that, we started talking less and he started hanging out with my best friend instead of me. what hurt me the most was seeing them hold hands and talk and how he stopped talking to me. looking back on it all, i do miss him but i also realized that he is really full of himself and he's kind of a jerk. despite that, i think about him all the time and it makes me really sad. what are some ways that i can get over him and our used-to-be friendship. (link)
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I hate guys who are like that. It probably will be hard to get over him but you will eventually. It sucks because he acted like you guys were close and could possibly have more than that since you guys held hands. Try to concentrate on other things now. New friends, new boys. You will get over him or start to like him less. There will also be times when you see them together and get sad again, but it won't last long and if you try your best to forget about him, you will get over him.
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This girl I like told me that shes not interested in me, and she has done this several times. But she keeps acting like she does and says things all the time that make me think she does.
She says she loves me but shes not in love" with me. She told me that for my birthday coming up "I got you something special that your average female friend wouldn't get you if you know what I mean." and when we were talking on the phone I overheard her sister saying "you really have an obsession with him (my name) dont you?"
Then last night we stayed up talking and I told her I was upset, and she asked what I was upset about, and I said "nevermind it doesnt matter anyway" and she responded with "you do this to yourself."
I dont understand. She flirts with me all the time and says she always wants to spend time with me but in the end she says shes not interested in me. Why would someone do all that if they didnt like you? Its been like this for years. (link)
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Yeah it sounds like she's teasing you. I think she just like the attention she gets from you. I just think you should move on and find someone who won't mess with your mind. Good luck!
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I just started to talk to this guy and he keep's going me hints that he likes me but i don't like him, how do i tell him i don't like him but i would like to stay friends...what should i do? (link)
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Well you can straight up tell him you don't like him like that. That's an easy way to get him to stop throwing hints at you.
Or you can talk about some other guy you're interested in. You could be like, "Yeah I'm gonna go see this guy I'm interested in soon, ect"
Then he'll see you're not into him that way.
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so my boyfriend and me have been going out for 5 months now. and we never fight its great. cause were both really chill :) .... but .... :( **iam 16 years old btw. (female)
(now i kknow this is going to sound bad please dont judge it just happen.... i feel aweful and i regret it but please dont judge with what i am about to say.)
--> so i really do love and care for him and he tells me he feels the same way. but his personality is always humor not to serious just likes to joke and have fun which i dont mind i find it amusing :p and im kinda the same so it works great. but last night i was sleeping over at his friends house with him and we were all in his friends bed. (me, my boyfriend and his friend) and were all pretty close haha but jokingly to piss off / amuse his friend as a joke me and my boyfriend started having sex. in the bed. and his friend lying right there (dont judge i know it sounds bad) but to be honest i only do this stuff cause he tells me to and i just wanna make him happy. i will admit im kinda whipped. but anyways so then as a joke he told his friend to join in. and hes always joked about 3 some. / sharing me (jokingly) and we had something like this happen before but not that bad just kiss. (same guy) as a dare. with him there. and so anyways he kept telling me to. and they both kept telling me to and to be honest i felt really pressured. and so i gave in. at first it was like jokingly i let him fuck me. :( with my boyfriend right there in the bed. and i just did it cause i felt pressured to by them. and my boyfriend just laughed at first and made little comments. then lied there and \"slept\" per say but i know he was awake but i dont know why i let his friend keep going. i honestly just didnt know what to say i wanted it to stop but i didnt have the guts to stop him. i was frozzeen. i didnt enjoy his friend at all i just wanted to be with my boyfriend. :( anyways i think this time it made him mad. cause he left the room. got up and walked out. and i was left there with his friend . and his friends like i think he cares this time... im like well then why did he tell me to? :( ugh!!! anyways i got up and left to and went to the couch away from them both and just cried all night. think im stupid and just fucked up how could i let this happen. now hes mad :/ which isnt what i wanted i really love and care for him i just wanted to make him happy. not mad. i did what he said i went along with his joke. and anyways his friend told me this ....
\"yeah he never admits to liking you and or any of his girlfriends and he wont ever admit it to us cause he just is hiding his emotions but i can tell as his bestfriend he really does care and like you cause of what he got you for christmas and the fact that what we just did effected him (it apparently never effected him in the past) but he must really like you cause he never spends money on his girlfriends and in the past hes onlydated a girl about a month or two and they fight all the time and we have been together 5 (almost 6) months and no fighting. and the fact he is moody and u effect his moods shows he cares.
(but the next morning he just walked by and left the house. he didnt say goodbye or anything to me....)
so basically im just asking. was last nights incident proof that he cares about me cause it effected him to see me with another guy? cause it never used to effect him apparently when he had a 3some in the past. and is what his friend saying true? or did i just fuck up and loose a guy i really care about :( i dont know what to do. or should i dump him cause he is treating me like a trophy and has no respect for me? :/ :( like i dont know what to think anymore. i do not want to loose him though cause all our friends are the same. i just dont know if im being treated like a trophy and used. or if he really cares and hes just starting to show it. please help :( sorry for it being so long :/ (link)
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Well, you don't want to be in a relationship where someone is pressuring you at all. You know that. And you know you feel pressured.
No guy is worth the kind of pain you're going through.
I believe that you love this guy. Sometimes we fall for the wrong guys but you should get out of this relationship. You should get over him.
He's the one who told you to have sex with his friend, he can't go around and get all moody about it.
For one thing, you already know you shouldn't be having sex with his friend but you were pressured and you can't take it back.
And what kind of boyfriend walks out without saying goodbye? He's mad but it's his own fault.
Then his friend said he doesn't even admit to liking you. He's just that type of guy. You don't need that.
Trust me, there are better guys than him. You made a mistake and you have to move on.
I hope it all works out for you. You can do better.
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ok so... a guy really likes me. he never said anything but i can just tell cuz he keeps wanting to talk to me online and he's being really clingy. honestly i'm not that into him. now i've got rehearsals of a guitar show and he's going to be there but a guy i really like will also be there. i was hoping i can finally talk to this guy but what should i do so he wouldn't interfere and ruin my chance? i can tell him to stop liking me cuz he probably doesn't even know that i know. any ideas please? (link)
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Ok I don't think you're leading him on like the other person said. But I think you should talk to him. You don't have to say like, "stop liking me" but you could probably just tell him something like you need some space and you kinda want to go to talk to a guy you're interested in or something. He'll probably back off a bit knowing you're interested in someone else. Good luck!
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Okay, so. I promised my bf I'd send him some of my private stuff. I only promised because he sort of forced me into promising but then I said it was no big deal. So I told him I would send it to him by the end of the day. But it turns out that things went wrong that day and I ran out of time to send it to him. I was gonna text him a sorry but then he called me a bitch for not sending it. How should I react!? (link)
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You definitely are not. He's acting more like one. Forcing you to send private stuff? He's being controlling. Then he calls you that crap. He's a horrible boyfriend. No girl needs a guy like that..
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there's this one guy that i like but he just happens to be a jerk to everyone, including my friends. i have liked him for years and he's said to other people that he only sees me as a friend. i always think that i am over him but later on i realize that i'm not. i feel really pathetic about wanting someone who doesn't want me in the same way but i can't help myself. there is something about him that i can't help but like. i almost want to tell him how i feel just so i can have him say to myself 'i don't like you that way.' i can't go to my friends because they might feel annoyed and plus they recently got mad at him and i'd feel like i'd be betraying them by liking someone that pissed them off. what should i do about this? i'm tired of being so confused :/ (link)
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I totally know what you mean. It took me forever to get over this guy that messed with my head.
You should just focus on yourself or other things. It's really hard to get over someone most of the time. It will take awhile, but just try to focus your energy and everything else on other things that aren't boys..or at least not that boy.
Good luck!
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So there's this guy, He used to go my school but then he moved. A couple of months ago he commented on my picture on facebook and told me I was cute then messaged me, we started talking and then he asked for my number so I gave it to him. At the time he had a girlfriend. He would text me everyday and say "good morning gorgeous" usually I would think that would be a cute thing to wake up to but I kind of feel like he was playing me since he had a girlfriend. So I would respond and be really short with him. I then saw about a week later his status on facebook was "went from a relationship to single" he would continue to text me and flirt with me, but I didnt flirt back with him because I didn't like him at the time. He would ask me questions about my sex life, and ask me if I had a boyfriend and all this stuff. I told him that I didnt have a boyfriend and to stop asking me questions like that and that I was willing to be his friend and thats all. He said he understood, and we continued to talk as friends. Then I realised he's really nice and cute and I want to get to know him better. but He hasn't texted me in 2 days, and when he doesnt text me it makes me really sad. but when he did text me he would creep me out and I would want him to leave me alone. What is wrong with me? I want to text him, but I feel like if I do i'll come off as annoying. Guys, when a girl texts you first do you find it annoying or do yall think its cute? What should I do?! i'm scared to make the first move? do yall think I should continue talking to him or not go down that road since he started talking to me while he had a girlfriend? (link)
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I wouldn't go for a guy like him. He started talking to you while he had a girlfriend. Who knows, maybe they were having problems or maybe he's the type of guy that plays around with girls.
Either way, if you two started dating, he would probably be doing the same thing.
You liked the attention you got from him but at the same time he would creep you out with all those text messages about sex and stuff right?
So that kinda shows that he's definitely into sex and that's probably what he's gonna want from you if you guys get involved.
Well it's all up to you in the end. I'm sure you can find a better guy but if you want to keep talking, then go ahead. But he doesn't sound like a very good guy.
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