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i love my friends but they made/make bad choices..
I have mass friends at school, but recently I come to find out, several of them are getting pregnant, and having kids. It's not like they are twenty or something. Otherwise, I wouldn't care because they're old enough (I think). They are ranging from 14 to 17 years old.
I find it seriously ridiculous that my friends are just having sex like it's nothing, and end up getting pregnant. In fact, a few of those people are Christians, and told me so many times they would never do that and it's pathetic. Months later, they find a guy, have sex with them, and they leave my friends. Later on coming to find out they are pregnant and have the kid.
If it was like 1 or 2 people, I would understand. But it's becoming an epidemic almost at my school. Approximately 10 girls are pregnant (whom are my friends), and another 5 had their kid within the last year.
Don't criticize me of my opinion though because I really can't help it. I am a Christian, I love my friends, I still pray for them, and support them. But I just get so mad thinking about it, like they basically ruined what was going for them. A friend of mine wanted to leave her house (family problems) and become a Vet. Now she got pregnant, and she is stuck there in poverty. Can't even afford a decent meal for her and her child, since her family is stuck on welfare and social security for paying for other things. Her boyfriend like left her, so there is very little for her and her son. She is battling for the father to pay for child support.
Please don't get me wrong to whoever has been in that situation of getting pregnant at an early age. I can see the struggle in it, and the effects, but seeing my friends make bad choices just angers me because I want them to have self-respect, and do something successful. I am quite prude, so don't judge me on that, and you can't blame me at some extent. I feel guilty for basically not trying to understand the reasons why it happened, and the circumstances. It's hard to understand.
So, my question is, how can I get over this?? I've been trying for a long time to get over it, but more people getting pregnant, so my anger comes back.
Please remember I am not here to judge, criticize, or offend anyone here, so don't take it personally. I just need advice, please. Thanks!
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Ummm, why would someone blame you? Be a prude, be whatever.
Who could be blamed? First of all your friends for being stupid enough to get pregnant in the first place. Secondly, maybe the ones responsible for transmiting the information.
Anyways, people who are old enough to have sex DO know where babies come from right? But wait... they are not old enough to have sex.
In a previous question this girl was asking if its bad for her health to have sex while she still hasn t her period. FOR CRYING OUT LOUD...DONT YOU HAVE SOME KIND OF TEA PARTY WITH YOUR TEDDY BEARS TO ATTEND TO?
Of course you feel angry, its the normal thing to feel.
I know, I get that a lot. People wonder wether I m trying to offend, wether I am really laughing or faking it ...I guess my talking is weird, I should do something about it.
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Your friends have made these mistakes on their own accord. I'm sure they know the consequences of their actions before they do anything, but they choose to ignore the possibilities in the heat of the moment.
I agree, it is upsetting, but there isn't anything that you can do about it.
How can you get over this? Pat yourself on the back for being smarter than them.
Here is a link some one showed me. Maybe you have some friends who are sexually active but not pregnant you can show this to? Because this is reality when you have a child:
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Well you cant linger on the mistakes other people has done you cave to forget about it and move on. It's sad to see Christian's do such a thing its really sad to see what the world has become and how the world acts. So my advice is to just forgive and forget you need to forget what you friends did and pray for them. You need to pray for them that this epidemic will stop and that the people will thing before they do something that serious. well I hope this helped. Need anymore help leave a message in my inbox or email me at christian_grg@hotmail.com. thanks
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Hey,
GOOD FOR YOU FOR BEING LIKE THIS!!
I totally agree with you, it's disgusting.
That's how it is in my school-except there aren't many Christians.
I've learned to not let it bother me so much. They're totally screwing up their own lives, and will learn that after the birth of their child.
You'll learn to get used to it, I know-"been there, done that".
Don't fret, hang in there, everything will be OK!!
Hope this helps
-Jam
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You are no where near wrong on having your opinions. everyone has their opinion on something, thats what makes the world go round. to be honest, i agree with you. Its something that happens alot in my school, and its not because of an accident, girls actually want a baby at their age and to me its not right. to keep you from getting into situations you dont want to be, keep your opinions to yourself. but everything you said, i can relate to. ive never been kissed or had like any sexual intercourse so believe me i know what your saying. like to me, girls should have alot of respect for themselves and realize they have a whole life ahead of them to do that stuff. but some just dont get it. and i dont think nothing will change their mind. cause look they see it happened to other girls so why arent they learning ? its just one of those situations that they need to find out on their own. i know their your friends but all you can do is sit back and watch. in the end, it will make you so much stronger, i believe in that 100%. maybe try writing also, to get your thoughts out. if you can think of anything else to help, notify me too. since i feel the same exact way. good luck with everything and always remember you are your own person and you have your own thoughts.
<3brianna
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