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why do we fight alot?
Aright I have this friend and we get in aruments ALOT were fine by ourselfs but not around our other friends i dont know why it's so gay... and people tell us and i know its gonna get worse in our middle teens... please helpā„
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Me and my best friend well ex best friend i guess always had this problem. when we would have sleepovers with just us two, things would be fine. we would laugh, smile but nothing close to arugeing. but when it came to being in school @ lunch sitting with our other friends, we would argue, pretty much about anything and everything. mostly stupid little things though. what happened to me was eventually i couldnt take it anymore, i couldnt stand arguing and all though sometimes i do miss the times we had together, i cant stay aruging everyday of my life. and i know what you mean by it only getting worse. thats what i told myself and thats why i did what i did. i just keep distance from me and her. i mean i still talk to her because i could never have the hear to just drop her like that especially since we were such good friends, but when you look at it, you cant spend everyday aruging especially over stupid little stuff ? its just going to cause stress and eventually make one or both of you cry & someones` feelings will get hurt real bad. just try and look for someone else that you have a lot in common with. im not saying get another best friend or something like that but you can never have more then one friend!
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Hey,
This is how one of my friends were...it's becasue you're both pretty much the same, so you're going to butt heads a lot.
If you're about to get mad over something silly, ask yourself: "Am I going to care about this in 5 years from now?"
If you answered NO, then it's obviously not worth getting worked up about!
Just be careful.
:) Hope this helps.
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Whether its a screaming match or the silent treatment, a fight isn't fun for anyone. A silly misunderstanding can turn into a big blowup and make you forget why you ever became friends in the first place! But everyone argues even good friends. Understanding why you're fighting , and knowing how to fight fair, can mean difference between making up and breaking up.
Don't argue just to prove a point. Know the difference between sharing important feelings and dragging out a silly disagreement.
Sometimes people take their problems out on their friends without realizing it. Think about why your fighting: Are you really mad at each other, or could something else be bothering one of you?
Also its how people act like people who bosses their friends around and tries to control everything. Or forces a friend to choose between them or another friend. Also makes promises and then dosn't follow through. And definetly shares a friends top-secret new to impress other people. A talks about people behind their backs, points out how much better they are than everyone else, and thinks teasing their friends is funny even when it isn't.
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well me and my friend are the same way. we are so comfortable with eachother that we dont have a hard time arguing. what i think that you should do, and what i try to do with my friend, is to just be tolerant of her. be the bigger person and dont argue with everything she says that makes you angry. pretend you didnt hear it or just ignore it. i know its really hard to ignore stuff like that but if you dont argue, she wont either and it will save you from a fight. the reason that you guys fight when you with other friends is maybe because one of you relates more to that other friend and will side with her/him on anything when you have a different opinion and then they both usually gang up on you and you just have to be calm and be the better person.
good luck
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