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sex and boys
I really like this 13 year old boy, I am a 11 year old girl but he likes me too(bf, gf way) he grabs my ass and wants to kiss, he also puts my hand on his dick. Should I make out with him? Only problem is other 13 year old boy likes me too and we all live on the same street and hang out alot. What do I do?Also please don't give me any of that choose who u like and follow ur heart junk!
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This is one of the sickest things I've ever read on this site... No wonder there are so many stds, and unplanned pregnancies today! You need to talk to an adult.. like now and get all this resolved. These guys should not be touching you the way they are and you shouldn't be touching them either. I suggest you not talk to these boys anymore... This is disgusting....
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I do agree with the Razhi and luckymadon that these boys are sexually abusing you. They may or may not be aware of what they are doing is sexual abuse. If they are aware of it then they are doing so because they think you are two young to understand what they are doing and can get away with it.
Sexual abuse of another person is a crime regardless of the age of the abuser or the person being abused. Like the others you need to tell your parents what is happening. You also need to stay away from these boys. If this is happening at school you need to tell your teacher or school principal as sexual abuse of another student is not tolerated.
Let me be very straight with you when I say you have done nothing wrong here. You are a victim and these boys are victimizing you. This is though a very good example of why we parents say things like; you are to young to be dating, which you are. This boy is too old for you to be dating; which they are.
It may not seem like a 2 year age difference is that much and in many instances it may not be. In this instance those two years represents a world of difference in maturity and worldliness. The way they are sexually harassing you is proof of that.
If you were older, more mature and more knowledgeable about boys and dating. Then you would know that what they where doing was wrong. You know I'm sure it is wrong to let anyone touch you in your private places, this includes boyfriends.
At your age you are to young to be dating anyone exclusively. Instead you should be doing what I call group dating. Which is when a group of boys and girls of the same age decide to go hang out at the mall, go to the movies or do something as a group of friends.
Everything we do in life has its learning curves. This includes dating. There is a time and place for everything and a method of how you get there. Don't rush things, you can only get hurt by doing so. You have a long life ahead of you; take the time to experience what life has to offer and to learn from those experiences.
Now you really need to tell you parents about what these boys are doing to you and with you. Again you are not doing anything wrong, they are. They are breaking the law something your parents need to know about and handle.
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Honestly, you should tell your parents that this boy is assaulting you, because that is what he is doing.
Grabbing you, putting your hand on his penis - That's sexual abuse. He might not know what he is doing is wrong, even criminal, but it is.
If he is making you uncomfortable, you should get an adult involved. Don't make out with him. That might make him think the way he is treating you is okay, and it's really not okay.
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What he is doing to you is no less than child sexual abuse, except it's being done TO children, BY children. Just because he is only two yrs older than you and under 16 doesn't make it okay. One possible outcome if you consent to do this to/with him, is that he will tell his friends how 'easy' you are, and then every 13 yr old boy in the neighborhood or at school will also expect you to do it for them. Soon you will have a nasty reputation that will stay with you for most of your teenaged years and wreak havoc on your self esteem. Don't be in so much of a hurry to grow up. Savor and enjoy what you have left of your childhood innocence. There will be plenty of time to make these decisions later. If those boys truly respect you, they will be patient and wait until you are ready and know for certain who you want to be with.
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If your not going to pick the one that you like then it obviously doesn't matter who you pick. It's not a surprise that "follow your heart" doesn't make any sense to you, your 11 years old after all and in my opinion we shouldn't even be having this conversation. You should be doing what you know how to which is being a kid and having fun (the clean type), not deciding on a boyfriend from a bunch of guys you have 0 real feelings for.
I don't have to know you personally to know you probably won't take any of what im saying into consideration so go on ahead and do what he says; he is the one that kissed you, grabbed your ass, and told you to touch him.
See he's 13; the age where guys just start doing this kind of stuff because it actually feels good, and that's the only reason why he "likes you as a girlfriend"
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What do you like about the first boy you mentioned? When you think about it is he truly respecting you? If he's grabbing your bottom and trying to put your hand on private parts all the time that really isn't right.
It's unwanted touch unless it was consented to. Even if it was you NEED to talk to him about this being something he can't do.
Who you make-out with is your decision but you need to be in control and keep others in line and let them know that kind of touching isn't okay if not agreed to.
My recommendation to you is figure out who you really like first and treats you right before making-out with anyone. You won't hurt them or yourself that way later on.
It's fine to be friends with one or both boys or not the other. You have to make sure whomever you do choose is 100% who you want to be with or just be friends with or even have nothing to do with. You have some thinking to do. That's the wise thing to do mull it over and who means what to you.
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