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my sister is annoying!
My younger sister is asked in my room doing something like jumping on the bed, trying on my jewelry, playing with my toys and electronics, taking things, playing with my trophies like they're dolls, out begging me to let her watch me get dressed. And everytime I invite friends over, she wants to tag along and tells my mom later,“I wanna have a play date with (friend's name) without (my name)" and acts like they're HER friends, not MINE. And when I go to my friends house without her, she throws a fit! You can hear her from across the street. And when I was watching a TV show, she ask of a sudden became a Jessie phsyco crazy mega long time fan. She always follows me, and when I went to a dance last night, she screamed and yelled and tried to steal my dress just because she can't go. And when I walk downstairs, she yells,“I WAS THERE FIRST" then cuts in front of me, and once she gets to the bottom of the stairs, she says,“I win I win I win I win" over and over again. When I'm sleeping during the day she kisses me until I wake up, and when I get dressed for a special occasion she starts walking like an elderly man who needs a cane and says that's how I'm supposed to walk, and then starts singing like a cat dying 9 times over, so loud that the people living downstairs start yelling. Any is my sister so annoying? I can never do anything without her wanting to tag along, and she never respects my privacy or items.
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When people are children, pre teen and teen age years, we grow and mature at a faster rate than can be seen once we're adults....so even 2,3 yrs difference in age from one's siblings is a great age gap. Siblings may not have even begun to master something that you are good at, like making friends for example. I was the oldest and had a sis 2 yrs younger who liked to tag along, partly as dottie4 has already said, cus the sibling looked up to and loved the older sibling. But in my case, it was also because she didn't have any friends her own age. If this is the case with your sis, it might be worth your time to work with her and help her to discover how to talk to and make friends with those she goes to school with. Think of your friends and do any of them have siblings your sisters age? Collaborate with your friends to get the younger siblings introduced to each other. My oldest had a girlfriend I'll call Alice, who came to our house alot. Alice knew there was a sister 3 yrs younger than my oldest. So one day she showed up with her younger sister who was painfully shy and quiet, so bad that when I asked her name, she wouldn't speak to me. My guess is she didn't have any friends because of that. She and my middle daughter formed a bond in the end much closer than the two older ones.
You might have a good talk with mom and let her know you plan to schedule times just alone with your sibling, but other than that, you wish for sis to not tag along and throw fits and try to compete with you or enter your room without permission. Ask for Mom's help on this. Cus if sis does not comply and times outs don't work, it might take having to purchase a doorknob with a lock and keys. I had to do that for my oldest. I couldn't always be around to monitor whether the 2 sisters sneaked into her room. It is good to teach the siblings respect but at the same time while they are in the phase of being taught and still not getting it, a locking door is great. We had one key and the oldest had her key and since it locked from the inside too, even when she was in her room, the sisters couldn't just barge in. It was a way they had to learn to announce themselves and their reason for wanting to come in.
Work some plan out with mom so that she entertains your sis and keeps her busy when you require time away with friends, and you will take sis away and keep her occupied at times so that mom has time to herself without having to look after her.
Good luck dear. Eventually this stage will pass once she's older and has come to the same maturity level and you will actually enjoy and look forward to time together and yet have your own friends.
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LOL! Little sisters and brothers are always annoying... I would know, I was one.. The reason I did it to my sister was I looked up to her and I loved her. I think it got to her and she finally broke down and told me that I couldn't act that way anymore and that she loved me very much but needed time for herself. After all, we even shared a room together.. LOL! Eventually she started making time for me. We would play school or she'd take me on bike rides just her and I. I loved that time where it was just her and I hanging out.. Now she's married with children and building her own life about 100 miles away from here... I see her & talk to her but not as much as I'd like for we are both busy! However I often think about the fun times we shared together just her and I. I know it's hard for you to comprehend this stuff right now, but eventually you miss that little annoying sister who is constantly vying for your attention, because deep down you know she just absolutely adores you and wants to just like her big sissy. One day you won't have that, you'll both be grown up and building your own families, or going to school, etc.
So my suggestion is do what my sister did with me. Tell her you love her very much but you have to have your own time. Ask her why she does this.. And then offer time where it's just you and her together doing girl stuff whether it be painting each others nails, playing school, barbies, or whatever you two decide to do together. Then explain to her that now sissy has to have her own time but remind her you love her very much and you two will spend more time together just you and her soon. I'm sure shew ill be a lot happier and you will too, and I'm confident she will not be quite as annoying... LOL notice I said quite... :) And then when you look years back at it, you will be so much happier and so will she that you had such a good relationship with your sister and love to have someone you can call up at any time just to talk or whatever your heart's desire. Hope I helped!
xoxo,
dottie4
P.S. Remember she loves you very much and just wants to be your mini me! ^__^
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