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Class reunion
This girl who really hated me in elementary now wants to organize a class reunion,since we had graduated 5 years ago. Most of the class has been awful to me except for my best friend but he said to ditch them. So I did,I left the Facebook conversation she started on the topic,but why would they invite a person they loathed? Trust me,they are not the type of people to have a change of heart. They did everything they could to make my life miserable and now they want to see me? It made me sick. Why are they showing interest in me all of a sudden? They made it clear in those 8 years that they hate me.
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Save yourself a lot of anxiety and don't go to the reunion. Those people are losers and if they were mean to you once, don't give them another chance to do it again. Find better people who are worthy of your friendship.
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It's nice to think they have grown, and experience regret for how they've treated you - and hey, maybe some of them do. Maybe someday one of them will even reach out and tell you as much, but if that happens, it'll happen with or without a reunion.
More likely right now, is that you just didn't make the impression on them that they made on you. Thier dislike of you, or thier poor treatment of you, just didn't make the same impression on thier memories as it did yours.
Honestly, if you have no interest in seeing any of these people, then the healthiest thing you can do is not waste any of your time worrying about it. You can be pretty confident they aren't.
Don't dwell and ask questions that can't be answered. You don't know what's going on in their heads, but you can be pretty certain they aren't thinking about the issue as much as you are. If you want to move on, just do that.
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Actually, many young people can have a change of heart because there is a lot of personal growth and maturity that occurs during the middle school, high school and college years.
Do you want to be defined today by what you did in your past, especially if you have changed for the better? Nope, I know you don't. Neither should you be making assumptions and defining all these kids. How they treated you in the past is not an absolute guarantee of how they will treat you today.
I personally think it would be a good healing experience for you, so you don't continue on your life holding grudges against people. The important part is that a good majority have changed. There will be the odd one or two who may have something wrong with them mentally or they're really slow cus they have not matured at all. there's adults in their 30s and onward, who have never ever matured and become real adults. Their are adults in body and age but not mentally and likely never will be. And thats okay. You dont have to associate with those kinds.
If you aren't convinced yet to give it a try...let me share something about the maturity or lack of the maturity of a persons brain, before it is done growing in our mid 20's.
The prefrontal cortex, is a section of the brain that weighs outcomes, forms judgments and controls impulses and emotions. This section of the brain also helps people understand one another. The prefrontal cortex section of the brain in teens is still a little immature as compared to adults; and it doesn't fully develop until your mid-20s.
So if its a little immature in teens, then its fully immature at even younger ages. I am not the same person I was when i was in school, not that I was a mean kid or anything, but I have grown personally and matured in so many ways and will likely continue to do so until I die. Our entire life should be learning experiences and opportunities for growth but one of the biggest most noticeable maturing situations is in our 20's.
So get on facebook and look up those who contacted you and apologize for leaving the conversation the other day. Tell them you'd be interested in helping organize a reunion...but only if you truly are. If you're only interested in attending, tell them to be sure to give you the particulars of where and when.
Good luck dear.
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