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The guy I like is sending mixed messages. What do I do?
Hi! I'm 13 going on 14 and there is a guy in school that I like. He's not good looking to others (but is to me in a weird way) and all my friends turn up their noses at him. We flirted over Skype and in class for a while and he eventually asked me out.
I panicked. I was scared about what others would say and how badly this would go. I think I'm a commitment-phobe. So I made up this guy and said we were already dating. I know it's one of the worst things to do and I feel horrid.
We're still friends and we still flirt (after I said I broke up with that guy) and I thought he still liked me. A few days ago, he said over Skype that he was so alone. So I comforted him and did what anyone would do. He said all his friends were dating and I said I wasn't. It was the biggest hint I've ever given... -_-'
He didn't get it and went on to say the girl he likes won't ever like him. I'll spare you the long story but this was some complete bimbo who would never look twice at a sweet guy like him. I find that horrible.
Even though he likes this girl, he always says to me that I'm pretty on my worst days and that any guy would be lucky to have me. We still flirt all the time! I feel like he is sending me mixed messages though.
Do you have any advice to give me on any/all of this? I feel too embarrassed to tell my friends because none of them like him. Thank you in advance if you reply. Sorry about the length. I at least hope I entertained you with this. :)
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You're growing up and still learning about dating.
You shouldn't let your friends opinion effect who you date. Unless they have real concerns on why they don't like him like if he does questionable things, not a very nice person, ect.
I'm sure he's still interested in you but you already turned him down. Do you want to date him? If you do, you should tell him how you feel.
If you're too embarrassed, then you shouldn't date right now. You're young and care about what other people think but if it's a good guy, you shouldn't have anything to be ashamed of.
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You're still a baby! You need to focus on school, you don't need a boyfriend... You have your whole life to worry about that sorta thing, and don't need to worry about doing so right now. Besides if you really did like the guy that much to begin with you wouldn't let the negative comments from your friends to effect it at all. Just proves you have more growing up to do. Your probably a really sweet little girl, but honestly hon, you still have quite a bit of maturing to do. Nothing wrong with it; I was the same way at your age. You see your peers have boyfriends and you feel like you don't fit in because of the fact you don't have one. In due time you will find the right person. Just do things you enjoy right now. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up, cuz honestly it's not all it's all it's cracked up to be.
xoxo,
dottie4
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You never want to wonder what if. If you feel that you would be fine without knowing then you know your answer. If you guys talk all the time then you will figure out how to get an answer out of him.
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