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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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Can a girl get pregnant from precum if both of you are wearing underwear and there is no penetration, and you didnt ejaculate?

More than likely not but you do risk getting STDs like HPV so I suggest being extremely careful. HPV can be spread through any skin to skin contact, even with using a condom.

There are no tests now to test men to see if they have such a disease, but there is for women. As a result men can contract the disease, not show any symptoms, and spread it around to multiple women. They can find out through an HPV test or an abnormal pap smear.

Statistics state 3 of every 4 women get the disease at some point in their life. You need to be extremely careful nowadays, even with just fooling around.

You can go here for more information on HPV
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/hpv-4272.htm

I don't mean to freak you out, but it's just the way things are. I suggest you and your partner get the vaccine (Gardasil) which protects you against two types of the main types of HPV that cause cancer and the main type that causes genital warts.

Better to be safe than sorry. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so me and my bf were on a break and i was texting my guy friend about what i should do. I still really love him and i wanted to work things out. he looked through my phone and saw that i was talking to him and some other guy but they were just friendly conversations. it wasnt flirtatios at all. My ex got upset and broke up with me. He thinks that i was talking to these guys throug out our entire relationship. i wasnt. i really want to work things out with him. and he said we can start by being friends and work up from there. my question is how do i show him that i love him and that i want to work on us.

If I were you, I'd just let it go. If he acts this jealous because you happen to have a few male friends, you're better off without him. Unless you're going on dates, or having sex with these guys there is no reason why he should be acting like this.(Or if it's an ex) However, if that isn't the case, he sounds like an extremely irrational person and it also sounds like he's a control freak.

However if you really want to work it out with him, tell him how you feel. Explain to him he's acting unreasonable, and that you don't have interest in these guys on any romantic level whatsoever. If he's not willing to admit any guilt, let him go.In other words, walk away and let him find someone else who will let him manipulate them.

Good luck!

xoxo,
dottie4

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I have been battling suicide for as long as i can remember. It started because i was being abused by my brother and i had parents who didnt help me or support me when i tried seeking help.
My only outlet was self harm and taking my friends left over valium.
Neither seem to help block it out anymore. I have no coping resources and ive always felt like i dont belong here, like im an alien. I have wanted to kill myself for a while but i always chicken out. How do i do this?

No one here is going to give you advice on how to kill yourself. You need to seek therapy. Tell an adult you trust how you feel.
1-800-273-TALK (8255) Call this too, it's the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. You can message me anytime you need too.
You may fee like nobody cares, but I guarantee you that you probably have more people that care about you than you think.
You need to get a handle on these feelings. Please don't kill yourself...

xoxo,
dottie4

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I have best friend which is a guy, he did something that upsets me. Well, he just made me look like a foolish girl. He wants me to be his BFF again but i made a condition.He will write a letter to me of how important our friendship is, He didn't wrote any but we are normal friends.

And what is it you need advice on? I'm confused...

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i like this guy he never to me everytime he sees me he stares or he just look away so

Give him a goofy face next time he stares at you and then smile, maybe wink at him after...I did that with my manfriend now and we've been dating for almost a year. :)

xoxo,
dottie4

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I am on my fourth girlfriend and all of the rest broke up with me saying they dident even like me, I am in middle school I found this girl that I really she could be the one but that's what I thought about the others what should I do?

Haha! I saw this and had to post something.It brought back memories of my youth. :) Coconutcatastrophe is right, don't worry about girls yet. If it makes you feel better I didn't even have my first boyfriend till I was a freshmen in high school. Inevitably, just like most relationships formed in highschool, we broke up. We didn't realize we were meant to be together until 6 years later. LOL! But yeah, just get involved in hobbies. If you would like to learn an instrument get in band. If you want to learn a sport do that than. You are VERY young and have your whole life ahead of you. If you see a cute girl there's nothing wrong with hanging out with her, but don't get your heartbroken if it doesn't work out. Right now you should be enjoying your life, not worrying about having a date on Friday night even though it does sound like you are VERY popular.

xoxo,
dottier

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m/26 gay,well I have a boyfriend whom I relly love with all my heart and been dating for almost three years now,but over the whole last year we've been going through a lot of hardships,a lot of arguments and problems,we are not happy anymore I reckon,I'm really sad 'coz he has tried to dump me like a hundred times,and I've always begged him not to do it.Currently, I cannot stop crying bc I have realized that he no longer cares whether I'm out of his life or not,so I'm seriously thinking about moving on with my own life and just forget everything about him but it just freaks me out the idea of being alone again and miss him too much,help?THANKS!

I can definitely relate to this one... I was dating the same guy for 3.5 years, not much longer than you and this one. What ended up happening was he left for the military and we ended up breaking up. Things happen, and people move on with their lives. As you can imagine for the first 6 months I was heartbroken. I didn't want to be with anyone, see anybody, or do anything. However I knew I had to go on with my life. I got involved with volunteer work, joined clubs on my campus, and started hanging out with friends, etc. Just start doing things for yourself and don't be afraid of being alone. If you like music, start going to see live shows, just put yourself out there. You won't regret it. Hope I helped out a little.

xoxo,
dottie4

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im 13/f, im 85 pounds, and i can call myself pretty(: its okay to think your pretty and fit right? Never have i ever hugged a cute boy, dated, had my first kiss, made out, lost my virginity, humped, nothing! is that bad? im 14 in 5 months. i feel like everyone has! especially dated, hugged, or had their first kiss! i havent, is that bad? plus my parents are super awkward, and i would never talk about boys in front of them. if i dated though, it would be a secret. should i be worried?

Nothing to worry about dearie. Don't be in a hurry to grow up. Enjoy your youth while you still have it. When you hit high school I am sure you'll tons of boyfriends.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I need help my wife s getting "bored" with our sex life how can I spice it up a bit to keep her interested?

Try it while she's on her heaviest flow.. That oughta keep you from being bored. ;)

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Well i have my period and i dont want it to leak during school. What Should I Do

Plug it up!

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hi i am a good looking 58 year old man in good shape. i enjoy smelling my morning breath when i wake up in the morning.i will put off brushing my teeth for awhile. while i enjoy the smell of my morning breath.i am single i never married.did you ever hear of that.thank you.

That kind of thing will happen to folks.

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Ok well we live hour away not to bad of a drive I love her so who cares about the drive and go see her offten maybe every two weeks or week and how can you make her happy and when she's upset how to comfort her on the phone or txt I really love her she's my world I would not be able to handle the breakup if we brokeup ? Help me ideas anything ????

For one an hour is not that far away and I would not consider that a long distance relationship... I don't mean to sound harsh, but that's the way I look at it. Anyway this type of thing should not even be going through your mind (a possible break up) if your serious about this person. If she does not seem happy, I would just let her go. I would say skype with her, send her sweet text messages saying how how much you love her, and maybe even a letter every once in a while. Nothings compares to the old pen to paper. ;) You'll figure it out. Good luck.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Well hey everyone!(:

This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!

Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude!

Sweetie, don't let this guy convince you to do something you will regret later. Your too young, and you could get pregnant even if is your first time. Your first time should be with someone you really care about, not just some "friend" who your afraid to say no to. He sounds like a real jerk and you need to get rid of him ASAP. Your still very, very young and have many years ahead of you and will do many things you regret. Please, please, please, please, please don't make this one of them. Tell this guy to get lost. If you need anything else message me any time.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so i like this guy. he was in my school and passed out this year. i am a year junior to him so i'll pass out next year!
i have been talking to him for quite a while now.. and i really like him. he likes me too. he asked me out recently.(though we both are confused on what to do because.. the problem is he is going to another country :/ for his college! and yeah well he would come back to where i live cause his family is here, but still i mean i dont know what i should do?)

Choose what you want. He won't be there forever. Personally I'd go for it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok my and my fiance were making up and we begun to hump with our clothes off we're naked bt we were cautious that I would get pregnant so we did it for 5 minutes until I told him stop because I wasn't ready to be a mother but I'm still paranoid of the situation can you tell me what to think he say he didn't precum but I'm still confused if I felt it or not because I'm a virgin can you help me with ya honest opinion. Can you feel precum? It wasn't any signs of it on the bed or sheets?

I answered a question similar to this today already... I would take the morning after pill to be on the safe side. Also I would talk to your mom about getting on birth control. Even if you haven't had sex yet it sounds like things are getting pretty heated between you guys and it's better to be safe then sorry. I think the most horrible person a thing can do is to bring a child unplanned into the world. There is no reason for it, there are plenty of methods of birth control, etc.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok me and my boyfriend were getting hot and heavy on the couch in my basment and he got an erection and so i gave him a handjob and he wanted to repay me in return so he pulled down my pants, Under armor legging things, and my underwear and fingered me, so he decided to go alittle further and I put my underwear and underarmor leggings back on and he put his penis inside me alittle threw my underwear and leggings and he precummed so we stopped....Could I be pregnant? please help

You could yes. I would suggest you get the morning after pill.

xoxo,
dottie4

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how to get rid of periods in a short period of time

Get pregnant ;)

xoxo,
dottie4

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I've been in a long distance relashionship with a boy who lives about 1,000 miles from me. I know this may sound stupid but please just listen. We met on a teen chat room and i gave him my phone number (back in march) we started talking daily on the phone for hours.. We realized we were so compatiable and we decided to start dating. Mostly talks on the phone/ the occasional video chat. In August i convinced my mom to let me pay for a plane ticket for him to come here and go on vacation with us , she agreed. The day I met him at the airport was the best day of my life! We had the most amazing time ever at the beach but 4 nights and 5 days went very quick and before i knew it we were dropping him back off at the airport. Ever since he left that day things have been had. Always having that feeling of wanting something you know you can't have right now. We have been on/off for the past couple months not because of fighting or anything but because its been hard not being able to be with eachother. We have recently gotten back together . I told him that we might be moving down there in March ( which is true but i kinda think my moms just telling me what i wanna hear) If we don't move down there i told him i would pay for a plane ticket for him to come here in june and he could stay longer . I told him to not forget that in less then 3 yrs i would be eighteen and would move down there to be with him. & until that day i would keep paying for him to come here atleast once a year. We have been back on lately but last night he didnt text me or call me like he always does.. & so i knew something was up. I texted him n said "whats going on? :( ... & this morning i woke up to a 2 page message from him saying how he talked to his DAD and decided he just wanted to stay friends until i moved down there if i did. he said that he wanted to still be friends n he would still tell me he loved me because he does and always will. I cried when reading this. I'm very sad and haven't texted him back. Why can't he just wait until June then we can be together for like 2 weeks ... why cant he just wait for me? I know he's the one & he's all i think about. I'm sorry for the long story i just needed to get this out.. does anyone have any advice for me please? :/

Hun, I know you are upset but you are still very young. Don't let this get at you too bad. You deserve someone who is close to you and who wants to pay for his OWN ticket to come see you. You have your whole life ahead of you and if it's meant to be, it would be. If not, then there's someone else out there for you. You shouldn't have to give up your whole life to go down there to be with him. He should want to be with you. A relationship will never work unless it's a two way street. You should both do for each other. I guarantee you will find someone who is special to you one day. :D For now, let this one be.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I just have sex, my boyfriend did not ejaculate inside my virgina but i did not know weaher am pregrant

I would go get the morning after pill... NOW!
You are in now way ready to have a kid.
It'll wipe any chance of you being getting pregnant out of your system.

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Well I'm 17, female. Im still a virgin. I had the opportunity to loose it about 2 years ago but I wasn't ready but I am now. Since I'm a virgin an I'm single I don't want to just find a guy I'm friends with and be like "hey, wanna take my virginity?" because that seems kind of slutty. I don't really know how to go about this so I'd just like opinions.

Your virginity is something very precious that should not be given away to just anyone. You are still VERY young. You may feel like you are ready (probably peer pressure)but if your in a hurry just to get rid of it believe me, you WILL REGRET it. You need to focus on your studies, and getting into a good college. Eventually the right person person will come along. Until then, enjoy life and date, but don't worry about "losing it." That's the best advice I can give you my dear.

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