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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and we recently starting dating again a few months ago. Yeah he's spectacular, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student. Not exactly sure what I want to do yet but I'll figure that out eventually. Sometimes I tend to have somewhat of a crude sense of humor, but that's okay. That's just me. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out. If you ask a stupid question though, expect a stupid answer. :)

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Ok my and my fiance were making up and we begun to hump with our clothes off we're naked bt we were cautious that I would get pregnant so we did it for 5 minutes until I told him stop because I wasn't ready to be a mother but I'm still paranoid of the situation can you tell me what to think he say he didn't precum but I'm still confused if I felt it or not because I'm a virgin can you help me with ya honest opinion. Can you feel precum? It wasn't any signs of it on the bed or sheets?

I answered a question similar to this today already... I would take the morning after pill to be on the safe side. Also I would talk to your mom about getting on birth control. Even if you haven't had sex yet it sounds like things are getting pretty heated between you guys and it's better to be safe then sorry. I think the most horrible person a thing can do is to bring a child unplanned into the world. There is no reason for it, there are plenty of methods of birth control, etc.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok me and my boyfriend were getting hot and heavy on the couch in my basment and he got an erection and so i gave him a handjob and he wanted to repay me in return so he pulled down my pants, Under armor legging things, and my underwear and fingered me, so he decided to go alittle further and I put my underwear and underarmor leggings back on and he put his penis inside me alittle threw my underwear and leggings and he precummed so we stopped....Could I be pregnant? please help

You could yes. I would suggest you get the morning after pill.

xoxo,
dottie4

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how to get rid of periods in a short period of time

Get pregnant ;)

xoxo,
dottie4

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I've been in a long distance relashionship with a boy who lives about 1,000 miles from me. I know this may sound stupid but please just listen. We met on a teen chat room and i gave him my phone number (back in march) we started talking daily on the phone for hours.. We realized we were so compatiable and we decided to start dating. Mostly talks on the phone/ the occasional video chat. In August i convinced my mom to let me pay for a plane ticket for him to come here and go on vacation with us , she agreed. The day I met him at the airport was the best day of my life! We had the most amazing time ever at the beach but 4 nights and 5 days went very quick and before i knew it we were dropping him back off at the airport. Ever since he left that day things have been had. Always having that feeling of wanting something you know you can't have right now. We have been on/off for the past couple months not because of fighting or anything but because its been hard not being able to be with eachother. We have recently gotten back together . I told him that we might be moving down there in March ( which is true but i kinda think my moms just telling me what i wanna hear) If we don't move down there i told him i would pay for a plane ticket for him to come here in june and he could stay longer . I told him to not forget that in less then 3 yrs i would be eighteen and would move down there to be with him. & until that day i would keep paying for him to come here atleast once a year. We have been back on lately but last night he didnt text me or call me like he always does.. & so i knew something was up. I texted him n said "whats going on? :( ... & this morning i woke up to a 2 page message from him saying how he talked to his DAD and decided he just wanted to stay friends until i moved down there if i did. he said that he wanted to still be friends n he would still tell me he loved me because he does and always will. I cried when reading this. I'm very sad and haven't texted him back. Why can't he just wait until June then we can be together for like 2 weeks ... why cant he just wait for me? I know he's the one & he's all i think about. I'm sorry for the long story i just needed to get this out.. does anyone have any advice for me please? :/

Hun, I know you are upset but you are still very young. Don't let this get at you too bad. You deserve someone who is close to you and who wants to pay for his OWN ticket to come see you. You have your whole life ahead of you and if it's meant to be, it would be. If not, then there's someone else out there for you. You shouldn't have to give up your whole life to go down there to be with him. He should want to be with you. A relationship will never work unless it's a two way street. You should both do for each other. I guarantee you will find someone who is special to you one day. :D For now, let this one be.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I just have sex, my boyfriend did not ejaculate inside my virgina but i did not know weaher am pregrant

I would go get the morning after pill... NOW!
You are in now way ready to have a kid.
It'll wipe any chance of you being getting pregnant out of your system.

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Well I'm 17, female. Im still a virgin. I had the opportunity to loose it about 2 years ago but I wasn't ready but I am now. Since I'm a virgin an I'm single I don't want to just find a guy I'm friends with and be like "hey, wanna take my virginity?" because that seems kind of slutty. I don't really know how to go about this so I'd just like opinions.

Your virginity is something very precious that should not be given away to just anyone. You are still VERY young. You may feel like you are ready (probably peer pressure)but if your in a hurry just to get rid of it believe me, you WILL REGRET it. You need to focus on your studies, and getting into a good college. Eventually the right person person will come along. Until then, enjoy life and date, but don't worry about "losing it." That's the best advice I can give you my dear.

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17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us?

If you move out, you will not be able to college... On top of this, he's a grown man, and you my dear are still a minor. He WILL go to JAIL.
I'm twenty one years old, and fight with my parents constantly. It's a lot cheaper then trying to do it on your own, and you can save your money the more you stay there. Just keep an eye on what you spend your money on.
Stay at home and go to college. No man is worth giving up your entire life for.

xoxo,
dottie4

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what does a girl say if a boy asks you out

Say "you ask all the men out."
;)

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hey, okay so i've been in a few relationships in my life and they were not bad relationships but not great. I have also been single the past few months, and don't get me wrong I love being single but I'm kind of missing having a guy there for me and care for me. Is that wrong? I know I shouldn't go looking for a guy and use him just for that reason. I am just saying I miss having a guy around me to care for me (not just best friends).

I guess what I'm asking is how do I go about finding a guy in my life who will care for me? I'm not really looking for anything serious, but just kind of a love spark i guess haha. I am not a player or anything, so don't think i'm using guys for sex or anything. thats not what I'm looking for at all.

I am a pretty social person, but lately i've been busy with school work (college) and i'm going to europe for the next 2 months, so is there any way I can meet some new people or find a spark in my love life? I've tried online dating but it doesn't really work for me especially since you have to pay. I've tried meeting people at parties and social gatherings but its always awkward because I don't know them that well. Ive tried talking to guys in classes but they either don't feel the same way about me or we have nothing in common.

Help! Please and thank you :)

19/f

There's nothing wrong with wanting to date! Your only nineteen years old, so don't think there's anything wrong with "looking." Since your in college have you tried joining clubs at your school? Or you could ask some of your friends to set you up with a friend. Since you've tried the online dating thing, it can't be any more different then that, and it's free. If you see a cutie just go up and start a conversation. Try to find some common interests (Music, Majors, Etc.) Keep your eye on the prize babe :)

xoxo,
dottie4

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I think im pregnant with a person that ive been seeing for a year. He has been married to someone else for 11 1/2 out of 12 months.. Does he have the right to know or can I just not tell him and get rid of it?

It's your decision. If you want to tell him, tell him. If not, then don't. You make your own decision. Still not completely aware of why your seeing a married man... =/

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok im 13 f and i really want a new wardrobe because ive been starting to stop wearing hollister and aeropostel and start moving on to like forever 21 wet seal etc. so i really want more clothes but my mom thinks i have enough clothes but i really want newer clothes since mostly all my shirts say hollister and aero and stuff like that. but she still will say no but i really want to have a better style and not as boring especially for winter? what are some ways i can get her to get me newer clothes and go shopping??

Why not go hit up some thrift stores? A lot of the time they still have the tags on them. Or you could trade with your friends. I'm sure they have stuff that you like. :)

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hi I'm looking for a easy healthy way to lose wieght I need good eating tips and excerises that I can do in small spaces inside (no exercise films) I'm 15f I'm 20 pounds overweight can you help me I'm willing to stopp eating so many snacks I just need good tactics can I set a goal for losing 20lbs by like October or I just need help with this

There's these magic pills you can take that will help you lose weight if you eat right and exercise. ;)

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14/f
My boyfriend gave me a necklace for my birthday a few weeks ago. I wore it to school, then took it off at the end of the day in the locker room so I could change for tennis. I thought I put it in my backpack but I looked and I can't find it anywhere. I checked all around my house too. So tomorrow we have a date and he asked me to wear the necklace. I really don't want to tell him I lost it! I don't know what to do! I feel horrible!

Buy one that looks just like it.

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how do you stop watching pornography,sexual urges etc.
if christian, feel free to add any usable bible quotes to memorise to abstain from these things

AGE: 13
GENDER: MALE

Bate. ;)

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Hi im 14/F and I am wondering if its weird to have your first kiss at a public swimming pool? is that normal?

I don't think so.. My first kiss was at Home Depot in a car when I was 15... As long as it's with someone you like that's all that matters.

xoxo,
dottie4r

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most of the times when i smoke weed i dont feel anything.
how do you smoke? do you inhale all the smoke?

You shouldn't do it. It's illegal. You could go to jail. :/

xoxo,
dottie4

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Wat is the best facial cleanser & mask for bad skin wit blemishes & blackheads? My skin isnt really that dry but its not oily either.

There is no "best" facial cleanser to clear up bad skin. This is something I've dealt with for quite a while so I'm pretty sure I know a thing or two about it. I've seen at least 3 dermatologists, and been on tons of stuff... Stuff would help for a little while, and then would stop. The best thing that has helped me with my complexion is a mild soap, and sun. Make sure you get plenty of Vitamin D and be sure to put on sunscreen. I notice just natural things like eating a healthier diet, drinking plenty of water, exercising, and spending time outside has helped out my skin tremendously. What you do that's good for the inside, it will show on the out. I can almost 100% guarantee it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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16/f/India
Okay so I am in senior year. Here 12th grade is VERY important..My admissions into a good college will be only on the basis of the marks I score in my "board examination" which is held at the end of the year. The papers are not checked by my teachers but by some other teachers who don't know me and are teaching in some other school. This is done to make the examination fair. The cutoffs for any college where i live (new delhi) are CRAZZY. I mean nothing below a 475/500 is acceptable.
I have Physics, Chemistry, Computer science, English and Maths as my subjects.
Im telling you all of this just so that you know there is a lot of pressure to perform well.. and I have to in order to get a good college.
Ive just been real distracted for a while. I don't know how to concentrate on my studies. I dont feel like sitting with my books. It is freaking me out because every day matters to me. Please help!!!!!

Hey don't stress yourself out number one. I'm in college right now and maintain a 3.8 out of a 4.0 gpa in one way or another. What I do to help me study is chill outside, when the weather is nice.. :) Either that or have a designated place set where you study and nothing else. Assuming the place where you sleep is a bed, don't study there. Or you can go to the library, even stay after school. If you have friends that have the same goal as you, it might help to study with them. Right now I'm attending community college. If you have something like that there, I don't think there's anything wrong with starting out there.. A lot of my credits will transfer to the school I want to go too. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?

As long as neither of you make a big deal of it, it won't be. You two were it seems just vulnerable. However, you might begin to develop feelings for him, and him for you. If that happens just let it happen. Sometimes friends going into relationships actually work.

xoxo,
dottie4

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can men use pamprin or midol for bloating its dumb for mne to ask but nothings helping

Take a poop.

xoxo,
dottie4

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