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Am I bad for tattling on some kids in my grade for drinking and smoking?
I didnt know them well personally.. but occasionally I'd check their facebooks when i was bored.. like Im sure most people do on facebook anyways. and there were some pictures of them like drinking alcohol and stuff.. also with some other people and other people smoking and stuff.. everyone underage. i told the entire guidance department using a fake email.. and im not sure whether to feel like i did a bad or good thing? cause in 1 way its like i prevented them from really ruining themselves like some teens who never had someone intervene, even their parents. but on the other hand it was snooping.. stalkerish to do.. and now they have to go through stress with the administration now about it. they are all really popular kids at my school. but at the same time its not like i reported them to police.. i definitely wouldn't do that.. i think the school would handle that sort of thing better. i am also worried on being found out. i know if they find out im fcked for life socially. and i'd lose a lot of respect and people's confidence maybe. or they'll just think im a creepy stalker. but people have albums on facebook for people to see them so its not really an invasion of privacy i think. i just do not know what to think. i just feel pretty guilty right now.. ughh whas this a mistake or the right thing to do?
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No, you DEFINETELY helped these kids.
You might've saved the rest of their lives. Drinking (not so bad) but smoking!?! TURNS YOUR LUNGS BLACK! Especially underage. IGNORE THE GUILT because you did the right thing. Most of the time in life the right thing is the hard thing to do. So, just go on with your life, avoid those things, and just be happy! You did the right thing and don't forget it!
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~Katleeo <3
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One thing you need to know is that you didn't do anything wrong sometimes kids have to hit the bottom of the barrel before realizing that they are messing up there life and sometimes they realize it and they fix it and sometimes they don't i would not worry about and let these people learn the hard way sometimes thats the best way as long and you know whats right and wrong then thats the most important thing.Hope this helped...
Thanks
Tim
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BIG mistake.
In all honesty, it wasn't your business to begin with. If those kids are drinking and smoking, what effect does it have on you? Whatever the school says, they're going to keep on doing it. You can't prevent someone from doing something by simply telling them not to.
Hopefully they don't I.P trace the e-mail to figure out who it was who sent the e-mail, because they'd be able to trace it back to your house. I doubt they'd go that far, but I doubt those kids will even get in trouble because it is an out of school matter, as long as they're not doing drugs and drinking on campus then there's really nothing the school can do about it. If you didn't send pictures along with that e-mail then they really don't have proof anyway; they may believe the e-mail to be from some random student hoping to get the kids they don't like in trouble.
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honestly, i think that it was none of your business. what you did isnt goin to stop them from what they do, its just gonna make them rebel more. trust me, i know from experience. you need to worry about yourself; unless these kids are personally hurtin you then leave it be.
the school will get the school police involved, checkin lockers and their pockets and such.
sorry, but thats how i feel.
x sweeethoney
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You may rate my answer low for what I'm about to say but I'm not here to sugar coat things or help people justify the things they've done...
Yes what you did was the noble thing to do according to a lot of people but let's be real about it..it wasn't your business and in no way was it affecting you. Listen to your gut...its a reason why you're a feeling guilty. If deep down you didn't know you were wrong, you'd be more proud than anything. It would be different if you truly did care about these people but considering you don't really know them makes me have doubts. I knew people (friends at that) who were underage --> smoked weed and drank alcohol. As a matter of fact the majority of them had very good heads on their shoulders. Just because someone drinks and/or smokes while underage doesn't necessarily mean they are on a destructive path.
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Listen, what was your motive for telling the school they were doing drugs? If you had been doing it to get them in trouble you would have gone to the police. Instead, you did what you believed to be the best for them.
Understand that. At your own risk, you did what you believed to be the best for someone else.
This is a noble thing, and it took some extrodinary courage.
Any stress they have to go though now is their own fault. Any stress they do not have to endure later is thanks to you.
I don't think there is any way anyone would know unless you tell someone else who leaks it. So be careful who you tell and you should be fine as far as your social life is concerned, but more importantly, don't feel that what you did was in any way wrong.
You did the right thing. Hold onto that.
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