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Are there any singing competitions like American Idol for kids? I'm 12...and I would love to do something like American Idol to be discovered, but I'm not old enough!!!
Youtube, Bieber style.
okk..there is a guy in my life but he is my bestest friends brother....i told him about my crush on her bro but she hates me for liking him...the other thing is that he is 7 yrs older to me..am 15...but i dont mind the age...its been since 4 yrs since i have been in a serious crush wd him...
now i am talknig to him through messages on facebook but suddenly he has deactivated his acct??i duuno wht to do..
help...i love himm..!!
I agree with Michele, you are WAY too young. 7 years is a large difference when you are only 15. And it's 100% illegal too, so I'm sure he deactivated his account because he doesn't want to get in any trouble. If anything were to happen he could go to jail. It's okay to have a crush, but don't let it turn into an obsession. You're better off going after someone your own age, because to tell you the truth, I'm sure this guy isn't interested.
ok i met this guy on make out club and we were talking then he said he loved me and i said it back but i dont know if i do and a reminder we talked once but he wont ask me out because i live in ohio and he lives in tennissee what do i do about the sit?
If you guys have talked once, and he has already told you he loves you, then there's something weird about the situation. You don't know this guy, and you'll probably never see him unless one of you commits to visiting the other. Also, unless you've seen him on web-cam or have proof of his age/identity then I suggest you DON'T meet him, there are way too many weirdos out there on those type of sites. Overall I'm sure you're getting that weird feeling in your stomach like something isn't quite right, which is why you asked this question in the first place. Talking to him is fine, but please do not give out your personal information like where you live, your phone number, last name, et cetera.
Do I have to be 18 to get a bus ticket from Los Angeles to Las Vegas?
In my experience, I took a Greyhound from Boston to New York and they never asked me for my age. They do need a a debit/credit card number. I'm pretty sure you could buy the tickets in person, but then they may ask your age. If anything purchase them online, then go to the station and pick them up using your card. Let me know if you have any other questions.
Hey!
what are some good picture editing programs that you guys use? examples of pictures would be awesome. thanks!
There's a great photo editor that I sometimes use, it lets you fix blemishes, incorporate different colors into your pictures, add text, etc. It's called Picnik Photo Editor, it's an online editor so you just upload your pictures and you can take it from there. I put the link below:
www.picnik.com
I like this guy and he is 18 and im 14....he is a counselor at i camp i go to frequently so how can i get him to notice me? help please??
I doubt any of us can even endorse you going after him because he's 18, he's a legal adult and you're a minor. You're not even at the age of consent, which would be 16. There's probably no way he'd go after you, even if you did get his attention. It's illegal, and I'm sure prison isn't in his plan for the future. I think you should try to get over this crush and find someone you're own age, you're way too young. Especially if you're a camper and he's a counselor, it's probably against the rules to get involved.
My boyfriend has recently started talking to an ex girlfriend of his. I could see them talking for long periods of time when they first got in touch with eachother, but she calls him all day and texts him all hours of the morning. She's even sent pictures of herself to him. When I ask him questions about her he gets mad and tells me to get out of his face. Recently he started locking his phone. He's told me they are just friends, but he's lied about a conversation they had for over 2 hours while he was golfing. I know that this girl has feelings for him, but could he be having feelings for her too. I don't know what they talk about when I'm not there. Now when she calls he doesn't answer her calls if I'm there. Should I be concerned? We've been together for 4 years.
Okay, he locks his phone so you can't see what they've texted to each other or how long they're on the phone for. Also that makes it so you can't see WHO calls WHO, he may be calling her as well and talking to her at night/in the morning too. I think this is VERY shady, and the only reason he tells you to get out of his face is because he has something to hide and can't think of a good enough lie to tell you. If she's sending pictures of herself to his phone, and he's saving them, then this girl is an issue. He may still have feelings for her, or maybe since you guys have been together so long he's lost interest and wants something exciting. [Sorry if the last part sounds harsh, that's just how guys work sometimes]. If I were you, I'd be extremely upset and demand to see the texts. If the situation were different, I'd say that you asking to see the texts is unfair and seems like you don't trust him. But this situation is different. He's hiding things from you and getting defensive, two warning signs when a guy is either cheating, or interested in someone else. I'm sorry you're going through this, I've been through something similar and it's not fun when you have to constantly question your boyfriend's loyalty.
Message me if you have any other questions or need some support
Recently, you answered a question for a person that said" I hate one of my wife's best friend. We just went out with the couple and I had a terrible time. My wife and I ended up having a huge fight over this. Any ideas on what I can do?
You advised him to get over it. What if the friend is a man that wasn't a friend before you got married?
I advised him to get over it because a man can't expect his wife to not have friends, regardless of whether that friend is a woman or a man. It doesn't matter if she met her/him AFTER they were married, it's still a friend. Girls and guys have this idea that their husband or wife should only talk/associate with them, and it's neither right nor fair. I know from experience that having your boyfriend/husband be the only person in your life never ends well. You need to have someone there to vent to or to be able to talk to when you need another opinion or simply would rather confide in someone other than your spouse. If something goes wrong in the relationship, you need someone else to be there. If you give up all your friends for your husband/wife then you end up with no one if the marriage/relationship doesn't work. Also he said it was one of his wife's "best" friends, best friends are hard to find and it's selfish to ask a woman to kick a best friend out of her life. He didn't provide enough information about the topic in order for me to give 100% good advice.
I don't know if you asked because you didn't like my response or because you're going through something similar. If you are going through something similar then I suggest the same for you. Your husband/wife can't be the only person you have in your life and it's not fair of your spouse/bf/gf to ask that of you.
hi 14f bf 16 xD
well yesterday i was talking to my bf I said I was going to change my hair. I told him I was going to make my hair wavy and where some makeup. He said "Me no like ;/ " and i asked him what did he meant and he said " I love your hair the way it is and You don't need make up." He said i don't like the girls with the make up that makes them look like clowns, i dont like the bright lipstick, a little eyeliner is fine but you don't need it. soo i like wearing makeup but what makeup should i do that he would approve of? I don't wear it often. Thanks!
You can always wear just a little bit of mascara, chap-stick instead of lip gloss (it's a lot less sticky, but can still give that semi-glossy look), and some blush if you choose. That should give you a more natural look without having to cake your face with make up. I sometimes use a little bit of cover-up or foundation because it evens out your face, but it can sometimes give you a more powdery look. I'd say the best way to go is mascara, it's a lot less noticeable than eyeliner.
Ok so i was watching the tyra show and it was gay for pay, so I looked up this guy who was on the show, his name was Kurt Wild, I watched a few videos of his, and now I find gay porn to be addicting I get orgasms by watching it, is this normal or no?
Definitely normal. Trust me, everyone is turned on by different things and a lot of heterosexual people are turned on by gay porn. Some girls can't even get turned on by a guy's body, yet are straight, but are turned on more by a girl's body. It just depends on what's appealing to you.
Do guys prefer blow jobs or sex?
I know everyone's different, so giving examples from experience, etc. will do. I'm just curious.
Well.. that all depends on the guy. Some guys like the intimacy of sex and others just want the other thing. Every guy I've ever asked prefers BJs, but obviously that only applies to teenage boys. I think the older the guy gets, the more he wants a more emotional relationship, not just physical. Sex is a lot more emotional, depending on who it is with and how it is done. BJs aren't really emotional, they're just something guys like having done to them. You're right though, everyone is different so there's really no way to say what guys prefer.
Girl #1 is 20 years old, sexy, smart, ambitious, wild/spontaneous and is a 'country girl' if u will. I feel a connection with her and a spark when i am around her that i havent felt in a long time. But, she is very dramatic and is constantly angry at me 4 things which are either not my fault or are just blown completely out of proportion. every week she finds something else 2 b angry with me about that i really dont deserve and then she will treat me like crap for days, making me grovel at her feet. I really am the nicest guy on the planet and would do anything 2 make her happy, yet she constantly tells me that i don't care about her and am selfish. She has many emotional issues and is now seeking help so hopefully she will begin 2 c me for who I really am. But 2 weeks ago, she called things off with me in order 2 try 2 get back with her ex boyfriend. So, being fed up, I went out and met someone else (girl #2). Girl #2 is 21 years old, and is the sweetest person on the face of the earth! She is very much like me (an engineer, smart, wacky sense of humor, very caring and loving, sensitive etc) and she is also very beautiful. I end up going on a few dates with her and hooking up with her (she was a virgin before me). Then girl 1 decides that things won’t work between her and her ex anymore so she comes back 2 me. So I tell girl 2 that I still have feelings for girl 1, and I tell girl 1 about girl 2. Girl 1 is very angry, but is willing 2 work things out. Girl 2 is upset, but still wants 2 b with me. The thing is I really like both of them and could see myself being with either one of them. My dilemma is that I don’t want to hurt girl 1 in her time of need (since she is not emotionally stable) and I don’t want 2 just up and leave girl 2 since I took her virginity. I have put a lot of effort into making girl 1 believe that I wasn’t going 2 just leave her, and now I am contemplating doing just that. Which should I choose? Booth are viable relationship options.
If you've had issues with girl #1 before, then why would you want to get back with her? Obviously she's not going to change (I don't exactly believe people change, and I'm sure after a couple weeks or so she hasn't) Do you really need the stress in your life? If girl #2 is a lot like you, your choice should be obvious. I'd want to be with someone who shares the same interests as me and doesn't need professional help to not constantly yell at me. That being said, you haven't known girl #2 very long and girls wait a few months to show their true colors (typically). Some girls get so excited that they're in a relationship that they don't care what the guy does, but eventually once she gets comfortable enough with the guy, she feels as though you are her territory and then have the right to tell you what to do (much like girl #1).
The choice is all on you, for now my vote goes to girl #2, girl #1 is too unstable and doesn't deserve someone who will treat her like a goddess. Also, if you have faith that girl #2 won't change her 'sweet girlness' then go for it, your other option could always be to sit back and relax, take a break from relationships. It's up to you, but do what you think will make you happy.
So I've been married for a year and a half now. My marriage has been soo very difficult but has gotten a lot better. I have ALWAYS had insecurities with my husband and his female friends. I know this sounds wrong but I just didnt like it when he gave them too much attention, like I didnt wanna share him. The first year of our marriage he pampered my insecurities. He just flat out stopped talking to them, I never told him to but he just decided to do it himself. So for the whole year I was obviously happy with this desicion but as assumed he wasnt cause he says I treated him like he still did. He doesnt do this anymore, he talks to them now and i told him i didnt have a problem with it. But deep down it still bothers me. I never bring it up because I dont wanna start a fight and be so immature but I cant help but to be bothered about it every day. Please dont judge me, I know this sounds ridiculous and immature especially for a married woman.
What can I do to get over this? I'm starting to think I need professional help (but I dont have that option right now, please dont suggest it) because I think I'm just dealing with it and ignoring it rather than just accepting it. Accepting it is something I have tried, Ive even tried asking him if I could get their number to talk to them (since we never see them around) and get to know them, just be friendly. But at one time he said I couldnt have anyones number, but now he says I can. When he said I couldnt the first time it really made me sad, here I am trying my hardest but it felt like he didnt care anymore. I just need to know how to get over this so we BOTH can be happy. I HaTE being so insecure about this. I wish I wasnt like this. Please help.
I think what you should do is meet them. Ask your husband if you all can get together and just hang out, see how your husband interacts with them so you can relax and realize they're nothing BUT friends. Also asking for their numbers, then calling or texting them is kind of weird unless they've met you before. If you have met them before, you can always talk to them and tell them how you're feeling, they're girls, TRUST me .. they get it. I'm sure they understand that feeling girls get when their men have friends who are girls, everyone gets jealous.
I know how you feel ~ you get that weird feeling inside like you don't want him to talk to them because something bad could happen, or you think he could possibly be flirting with them, or like them, or talk to them the way he talks to you, etc. The one thing you need to know is he married you for a reason, you'll always be his number 1. You do however, have a right to know the way in which he speaks to them. If he flirts with them, then you 100% have the right to be angry and ask him not to talk to them, he's your husband.
A long time ago when I was in a relationship, I used to constantly aggravate him asking about other girls and if he flirts, even asked him not to talk to other girls too. Eventually I realized that he put up with me for a reason, because he loved me. You just need to be confident enough in yourself and realize you're the one he comes home to everyday, you're the one he asked to marry.
Like I said before, go out with them get to know them. If you want, you can even ask THEM if your husband has ever said anything inappropriate to them (if you suspect he has). Like boys, girls have a code, we tell each other when a guy is hitting on other women and cheating.
I also don't think that you need professional help. That's running away from the problem. Someone else can't tell you how to fix this issue, you need to go to the girls head on and fix it. The only thing that is going to help is getting to know them and figuring out that they pose no threat, otherwise you'll constantly be questioning in your mind what they talk about and HOW they talk (flirting, etc).
Good luck
Me and my boyfriend haven't been going out for long but I realllly like him.I don't smoke anything (no cigs,no weed,etc) and he knows that and respects it. He does smoke weed though and he asked me if it bothered me (before we started going out) and i said it didn't bother me ,because it used to not bother me.Now it seems as though he took advantage of that and smokes ALL the time,probably everyday.I don't like how he acts when he's high,he's just not the same.He acts dumb and is just not normal (obviously because thats what smoking does to you...)He used to lie to me about when he did it because it bothered me but he stopped lying about it and does it all the time.I told him he doesn't have to quit but I'd wish he would just do it less.He keeps saying he will do it less and he just doesn't.I don't wanna break up with him ,i just have talked to him several times about it but have never threatend to breakup with him over it because it's such a dumb thing,but it's gotten to be a big deal.I need help!
Same exact thing happened to me. I was dating this guy for about two years, long distance. He lied to me for those two years and told me he had quit smoking weed when he hadn't. From that experience, I've learned you can't change a person and if your boyfriend is a pothead, he can try as hard as he wants but unless HE wants to stop, he won't. He won't quit just because you want him to, even if he tries. It's just too hard. He could possibly do it less, but that's on him.
My boyfriend was IN love with me, still is, still tries to get back with me, and even he couldn't just quit for me. I know how it feels to not want your boyfriend to act like somebody different, but that's who he is. You knew from the beginning he smoked weed and now it's up to you whether you want to stay with him or not. Eventually he'll realize what he's doing is dumb and pointless but whether you want to stick around and wait for that day is all on you.
Goodluck hun, mail me if you have any more questions
Hey, so, I have this boyfriend who I've been going out with for about 3 months now. He's the sweetest guy I've ever met and a die hard Christian. I go to church with him every Wednesday night, and our friends tag along. I've been a Christian for most of my life, but there was this period during middle school where I wasn't exactly sure if it was really the right thing for me. I think I may still have a few doubts, but I go with him anyway because all our friends go to, and I figure it might change my mind eventually. However, my boyfriend keeps pressuring me to get saved and give my life to Christ, but I don't think I'm ready for it yet. I've told him multiple times that I feel like he's pushing me into it, but it doesn't seem to make a difference. Now it's gotten to the point where I either do it, or he breaks up with me. I don't think I'm ready for that kind of commitment. I love this boy, and I have no clue what to do. Any suggestions?
I agree with many of the columnists below me, are you KIDDING me? Your choice should be obvious. Do you really think it's fair that he's asking you to do something that you're not 100% sure about? Religion isn't something ANYONE should pressure someone else into. Everyone has their own beliefs and your boyfriend is being a huge ***hole for asking you to get 'saved'. Who does he think he is threatening that he'll dump you if you don't do this. You've only been with him for three months, I highly doubt you love him and that he loves you. Him asking you to do something like that should have taken place years from now, not three months into a relationship. If you're not ready for that type of commitment, then end it. He obviously doesn't want you for you, otherwise he wouldn't be asking this of you. He wants to mold and shape you into the person HE believes you should be, and that's not what a relationship is about.
Be smart, dump his ass please.
How do I get the boy I like to like me
That's a tough one =/. The only way to get the guy you like to like you back is to hope he likes you and make a move. Try talking to him more in school (if you're in the same classes) Definitely ACT interested, then he'll notice you're interested and possibly make a move. Guys tend to only make a move if they're SURE the girl they ask out will say yes. Just make sure he knows you'd say yes, then if he's interested he'll make a move. It's tough getting a guy you like to like you back, trust me I know.
Just be yourself. I'd hope you wouldn't want to be with this guy if he doesn't like you for you. If you have to pretend to be someone you're not in order to get his attention, then he isn't worth it.
Good luck hun, remember just try to talk to him more and get to know him better, and let him get to know you. I'm sure when he gets to know you he'll like you just as much as you like him.
Not a big buff...didn't read the book, probably not going to...just curious. Why is it that Edward can't read Bella...he says that he can like read everyone but her...is this the main reason why he likes her and if so why? Thanks.
You don't find out that answer until the last book. So *SPOILER ALERT* In the last book after Bella gets turned into a vampire, we find out she has a gift like Edward (mind reading) and Alice (sees the future). Her gift is a shield. She can shield herself, and other vampires from Edward's mind reading gift, and the gift of other vampires who are trying to harm them. The other vampires have harmful gifts, which they call curses in which they can kill someone with their mind. In the last book during the fight scene, Bella is able to shield herself and her group from their powers. When she was turned into a vampire, her shield was able to extend beyond just herself. As a human, the only person she could shield was herself.
Edward loved her despite her shield, though it drove him crazy as to why he couldn't read her thoughts; but I'm sure that's not the only reason he loved her. It did however, make her more special than other humans.
hey my junior prom is may 14th and i have about 3 months a 2 weeks till then. how early is too early to ask someone to be my date? or should i wait alittle longer and see if someone asks me? ill problably end up buying a dress before i figure out my date but ive just been thinking about it . thanks for the help xoxo
In my honest opinion, it's never too early to ask someone to the prom (within reason). Especially because someone else may ask the person you want to go with. I think you should just ask whoever it is you want to go with within the next month.
Ask this person, unless you're SURE they'll ask you eventually, in which case I'd wait a little longer. If you do wait, someone else who you don't want to go with may ask you, and you might feel guilted into going with them.
Do what you feel comfortable, but if there's someone you really want to go with I wouldn't wait too long. The good ones always get asked first.
Good luck hun, hope your prom is amazing
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Heres my problem. i have been best friends with this guy for about a year. and as time went on we started to develop feelings for each other, more than friends. and i was very hesitant about dating because i knew i didnt want our friendship to be ruined. so i explained that to him and he agreed and said that no matter what we would always be friends even if it didnt work out between us. so stupid me, i fell for him. and after about 2 months he broke up with me and said that it didnt feel like we were going out and other people noticed we didnt act like it (he gave other stupid excuses too) . and so at first i was upset and my heart was broken so i didnt want to talk to him anymore. so i moved my things out of his locker at school and we didnt talk for a good 2 months after. then one day it hit me that i lost my best friend and that i missed him. i tried texting him here and there just to start conversation but it was never anything special. and now its been 4 and a half months since we broke up and i think about him just about every day or every other day. and i just miss my best friend and dont want him to get the wrong idea that if i ask him to hang out, he'll think i like him more than a friend again. i dont know what to do :( any advice helps, thanks.
Hey girl, I know what it's like to lose a best friend and want them back in your life. I think your best bet is to either call or text him and let him know you want his friendship back and that it still means a lot to you. Remind him that before you guys started dating, he promised that you guys would remain friends no matter what, and I think he should stick to his word. I'm sure he was just hurt thinking you didn't like him as much as he liked you, but I think if you took that step and tried talking to him again he'd open up. I'm sure he misses you too, he just won't say, he wants you to make the first move.
I know this is a tough situation but the only way to get him back is to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't want to listen to anything you have to say, then it's his loss. Eventually he'll realize what he lost and that you were a true friend who really cared about him. If he rejects your proposal to be friends again, then just realize you did all you could and that maybe you weren't meant to stay friends forever. Or maybe after a while he'd realize that he misses you and he'll come back. You never really know in these situations.
I have a feeling he thinks you didn't want to date him, so I'm sure he's just waiting for you to make the first move. Good luck girl
Ok so I think I might be pregnant. I was supposed to start my period today, and I guess I did kind of...I woke up to a very small amount of brown-ish red blood and I put a tampon in because I don't know if this was my period or spotting. I've always been pro-choice, so I want an abortion. I am not ready for a baby, but I'm not going to say I wasn't ready for sex. I just should have been a lot smarter about it. My boyfriend and I had JUST decided to stop having unprotected sex about a week ago (before I suspected any pregnancy) because we both just realized how important it was for me not to get pregnant and how unready we were for that kind of responsibiliy, whether I had the baby or not. I haven't told any one of my suspicions yet, I am not even entirely sure myself. I know there are 2 people that I have to tell if I am pregnant; my boyfriend and my mom. My mom will probably be upset because we have had the "sex talk" numerous times before. She basically told me that she didn't think sex was bad at all, she just didn't want me to get pregnant, so she asked me to wait until I was 18 so I could get birth control. I want to tell my mom really bad. I just hate this "I might be pregnant" feeling because if anything, I just want to find out if I am and get an abortion and just never be stupid about sex again. But I don't want ANYONE else to know. Not my stepdad, not my dad, not any family or friends. I think if I tell her, it is MY secret to tell, if I want to, not hers. But I'm not sure if she will do that for me because I've never been in this situation before. And I know I'd have to tell my boyfriend, but we've discussed this before and we both feel abortion would be the best option for our situations. So the basic questions I'm asking here are;
-How do I tell my mom and how do I keep her from telling anyone?
-How do I KNOW if I am pregnant? I haven't taken a pregnancy test yet because I don't have a car to go get one.
-I'm sure I'm going to lose trust from my mom if all this is as it appears and I am pregnant, but is there anyway to lessen the blow when I tell her? I really don't want to hurt her and I don't want her to think differently of me or my boyfriend.
Thanks a lot for any advice...
PS: Please don't give me the "if you're ready to have sex, you should be ready for the consequences" anti-abortion line...I know it was stupid, I really don't need anyone telling me that...
I'm going to be completely honest. If you're 16, and were having unprotected sex, you OBVIOUSLY are not ready to be having sex. If you're not on birth control, and are having sex without a condom, you're not mature enough to handle that responsibility. You can't just go into having sex with the mindset that 'IF I get pregnant, I'll simply just abort it.' That's immature. You're probably not pregnant unless you've been nauseous and feeling things other than typical period pains/symptoms. Periods can be messed up sometimes, last summer I skipped over 3 periods and I wasn't having sex. Periods are unpredictable, so you can't just think that because you didn't get your period the day you're supposed to means your pregnant. Do the responsible thing; get a pregnancy test if you really think there's something for you to be worried about. Don't even worry about telling your mom (or HOW to tell her) that you're pregnant until you find out. You'll worry yourself to death, and you probably have nothing to worry about anyway. There's no real WAY to know if you're pregnant unless you're having morning sickness and just feel different.
I also understand that you don't want the speech 'if you're ready to have sex, you should be ready for the consequences.' WELL you've been having unprotected sex for HOW long? Up until a week ago. You should be ready for the consequences because you didn't think anything of having sex without a condom, which could ultimately lead to a child; a human life. And you simply think 'if I get pregnant, I'll just abort it,' you'd kill your own child just because you thought it would be fun to have sex without condoms.
Be smart; use a condom. Talk to your mom about going on birth control, contrary to what she believes, a 16 year old can go on birth control, you don't have to wait until you're 18.