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Lost my best friend
16/f
Heres my problem. i have been best friends with this guy for about a year. and as time went on we started to develop feelings for each other, more than friends. and i was very hesitant about dating because i knew i didnt want our friendship to be ruined. so i explained that to him and he agreed and said that no matter what we would always be friends even if it didnt work out between us. so stupid me, i fell for him. and after about 2 months he broke up with me and said that it didnt feel like we were going out and other people noticed we didnt act like it (he gave other stupid excuses too) . and so at first i was upset and my heart was broken so i didnt want to talk to him anymore. so i moved my things out of his locker at school and we didnt talk for a good 2 months after. then one day it hit me that i lost my best friend and that i missed him. i tried texting him here and there just to start conversation but it was never anything special. and now its been 4 and a half months since we broke up and i think about him just about every day or every other day. and i just miss my best friend and dont want him to get the wrong idea that if i ask him to hang out, he'll think i like him more than a friend again. i dont know what to do :( any advice helps, thanks.
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Hey girl, I know what it's like to lose a best friend and want them back in your life. I think your best bet is to either call or text him and let him know you want his friendship back and that it still means a lot to you. Remind him that before you guys started dating, he promised that you guys would remain friends no matter what, and I think he should stick to his word. I'm sure he was just hurt thinking you didn't like him as much as he liked you, but I think if you took that step and tried talking to him again he'd open up. I'm sure he misses you too, he just won't say, he wants you to make the first move.
I know this is a tough situation but the only way to get him back is to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't want to listen to anything you have to say, then it's his loss. Eventually he'll realize what he lost and that you were a true friend who really cared about him. If he rejects your proposal to be friends again, then just realize you did all you could and that maybe you weren't meant to stay friends forever. Or maybe after a while he'd realize that he misses you and he'll come back. You never really know in these situations.
I have a feeling he thinks you didn't want to date him, so I'm sure he's just waiting for you to make the first move. Good luck girl<3 Let me know if you have any more questions :)
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