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Need to choose between two women
Girl #1 is 20 years old, sexy, smart, ambitious, wild/spontaneous and is a 'country girl' if u will. I feel a connection with her and a spark when i am around her that i havent felt in a long time. But, she is very dramatic and is constantly angry at me 4 things which are either not my fault or are just blown completely out of proportion. every week she finds something else 2 b angry with me about that i really dont deserve and then she will treat me like crap for days, making me grovel at her feet. I really am the nicest guy on the planet and would do anything 2 make her happy, yet she constantly tells me that i don't care about her and am selfish. She has many emotional issues and is now seeking help so hopefully she will begin 2 c me for who I really am. But 2 weeks ago, she called things off with me in order 2 try 2 get back with her ex boyfriend. So, being fed up, I went out and met someone else (girl #2). Girl #2 is 21 years old, and is the sweetest person on the face of the earth! She is very much like me (an engineer, smart, wacky sense of humor, very caring and loving, sensitive etc) and she is also very beautiful. I end up going on a few dates with her and hooking up with her (she was a virgin before me). Then girl 1 decides that things won’t work between her and her ex anymore so she comes back 2 me. So I tell girl 2 that I still have feelings for girl 1, and I tell girl 1 about girl 2. Girl 1 is very angry, but is willing 2 work things out. Girl 2 is upset, but still wants 2 b with me. The thing is I really like both of them and could see myself being with either one of them. My dilemma is that I don’t want to hurt girl 1 in her time of need (since she is not emotionally stable) and I don’t want 2 just up and leave girl 2 since I took her virginity. I have put a lot of effort into making girl 1 believe that I wasn’t going 2 just leave her, and now I am contemplating doing just that. Which should I choose? Booth are viable relationship options.
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If you've had issues with girl #1 before, then why would you want to get back with her? Obviously she's not going to change (I don't exactly believe people change, and I'm sure after a couple weeks or so she hasn't) Do you really need the stress in your life? If girl #2 is a lot like you, your choice should be obvious. I'd want to be with someone who shares the same interests as me and doesn't need professional help to not constantly yell at me. That being said, you haven't known girl #2 very long and girls wait a few months to show their true colors (typically). Some girls get so excited that they're in a relationship that they don't care what the guy does, but eventually once she gets comfortable enough with the guy, she feels as though you are her territory and then have the right to tell you what to do (much like girl #1).
The choice is all on you, for now my vote goes to girl #2, girl #1 is too unstable and doesn't deserve someone who will treat her like a goddess. Also, if you have faith that girl #2 won't change her 'sweet girlness' then go for it, your other option could always be to sit back and relax, take a break from relationships. It's up to you, but do what you think will make you happy.
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If the choice isn't obvious, you probably shouldn't be with either.
The main reasons you give here are both based in guilt: Guilt because you don't want to neglect the crazy one, and guilt because you don't want to abondon the girl you just slept with.
Guilt isn't a healhy foundation for a relationship.
It sounds like you are leaning towards girl 2… Which is fine, but just stop kidding yourself: You have to choose the one you WANT to be with. Not the one you feel most obligated to be with. If you really want to be with crazy girl #1, that’s okay too. As cliched as it sounds; Follow your heart.
If you don’t really want to be with either, then you shouldn’t be with either. No girl wants a boyfriend who is with her because he feels as though he is required to be because she is crazy, or because she was a virgin when he met her two weeks ago...
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You should definitely choose girl 2!
You should of thought before you took her VIRGINITY!
but not only should you stay with her for that reason but also because you sound much more positive when you talk about her.
Girl 1 doesn't sound too pleasant, you are probably young as well and ask yourself, do you really need someone who is emotionally unstable in your life right now? maybe as a friend, but not as a girlfriend. She needs to work things out with herself before she can be with someone else.
And she went back to her ex and now is crawling back to you, doesn't that make you feel like a back-up, do you really want to be an extra in her little movie ? Girl 2 probably has her feelings invested in you now, i would say pick her but take things slower this time around, you just told her about girl 1, i think that definitely affects the relationship a bit. But go with the girl who is more suitable for your life right now. I think when it comes to picking who you want to be with, you have the right to be selfish and think about what is better for you, not them.
So who is better for you? [ btw i really wanna know who you pick, so let me know ] =]
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