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Okay i have been faithful to my boyfriend for almost a year now and he keeps saying I'm cheating when i never cheat. But i do what us to break up i can't keep putting up with him and not having a life but i want him to break up with me but i don't want to cheat i just want out that's all but i can't bring myself to break up with him
How do i make him break up with me without hurting him? (link)
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You need to break up with him. You cannot try to manipulate him into ending the relationship for you, especialy if you want to cause as little pain to him as possible. You need to be the bigger person.
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so me and my boyfriend have been together for only a month now but our relationship is undescribable. he is the most amazing guy i have ever met and we click so well.. he is the male version of me. we dont get to see each other much because he is the in the army but when we do we have the most amazing time together and when we arent together we are always talking. problem is he failed a drug test so he is getting kicked out of the army in a month and is going through punishment which is working all day everday basically. we know we prob wont be able to see each other til he is done maybe once for a little before hes kicked out.. but he got arrested last night. he couldnt show up to work and so he is in even more trouble. the army might send him to jail again and who knows when i will be able to see him again. he finds out what happens in the morning but he is still stressing out so bad. he called me and said he was sorry and told me he wants to be with me but is worried that i dont wanna be with him. i told him i cared a lot about him and that i want to be with him and that i will be there for him but i dont think he fully believes me. he is depressed and im scared he is going to break up with me to save himself from getting hurt even tho i will be there for him no matter what. i sent him a text when we got off the phone that said "im so glad youre a part of my life i hope you dont leave me cus you think i wanna leave you.." Im not sure if thats something i should have sent him but im so worried. what should i do? (link)
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Words are cheap but actions are not. Try to show your support by writing him daily letters or wearing a piece of jewelry he has given you as a kind of promise that you still love him. If he does break up with you (which I doubt he will) you can always be there for him when he gets back. You can find a way of showing him that you were waiting for him and truly do want to continue the relationship.
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My mom is into drama big time!! and is immature,she is also two-faced and is a very negative.She even talks crap about me and my brother's and think's its ok.She always twists and makes up storys about me and my brothers too tell people.You can't talk to her about anything because she runs and tells everyone what you tell her she cant keep things to herself.She called my nephew stupid and thought it was okay.you cant tell her how you feel because she doesnt care,she'll just say your crazy (link)
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It really stinks that you have to live with that. I think the best thing you can do is to be the most positive person you can be. Be everything that she is not. And try to love her anyways. She is your mom. You don't have to talk to her about everything but you should try to respect her as much as possible. If you can, find another female roll model who might be able to help you and talk to you when your mom cannot. Perhaps your aunt?
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I just had my period and I know I should tell my mom but I don't want to be embarrassed. I cannot find the right words to tell her that I've started. It wouldn't be a problem but my mom doesn't have periods right now and doesn't keep any pads or tampons in the house because of that. I can't just stuff toilet paper in my panties. My friend gave me a few pads but I can't keep asking her for them. How do I tell my mom about my period and not feel stupid? I don't want her to make this into a big deal... (link)
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I know that it can feel embarassing but it really is nothing to be ashamed of. If you don't want to tell her directly, try writing a note or dropping a hint: "Hey mom, could you stop by the store and grab some 'feminine products' for me today?" Something like that. If you have an older sister, you could ask her to tell your mom for you.
As a graduate from an all girls school, I have gotten used to people yelling down the hall for tampons ^_^ Don't worry, everyone goes through this. I know I was embarrassed when I first told my mom. Just know that she loves you and you are not alone in this.
Good luck!
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I've had a few serious relationships in my life. Each one left me completely heartbroken. I haven't had a relationship for a few years and I never let a guy close. There have been some really great guys that have tried to start a relationship with me, but I freak out and push them away. The thing is, it's not only guys. I don't like getting close to girls, or anybody for that matter. I've lost most of my friends throughout the years and any girl who tries to be my friend or tries to hang out with me, I make excuses or blow it off. I don't know why I close everyone off. My mom always tells me "If you close off the bad, you also close off all the good". Most of the time, I enjoy being alone and being independent, going to school and spending time with family. I'm just terrified of being alone forever. I'm miserable most of the time and it is definitely my own doing! How do I open up to people? I'm so scared of putting myself out there, but also scared of never having a boyfriend or a good friend to lean on. It's the worst feeling when I want to run to a boyfriend or a best friend, and there's nobody (besides family). Is there anyway I can overcome this and let people really see me and get to know me? (20/F) (link)
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I know that it can really hurt to have someone you love betray you or even just fade out of your life. When this has happened it is easy to become withdrawn simply as a defense mechanism. You don't want to be hurt. Again.
If you want to be able to open up, the first thing you need to do is understand that you will be hurt. Nobody is perfect. People will make mistakes, move away, and in the end, die. Opening your heart to someone, whether a friend or a boyfriend or even just a pet, means making yourself vulnerable.
Here is a favorite quote of mine from C.S. Lewis:
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”
So there is the choice we all must make. Love and be vulnerable or not love at all. Once you have accepted this you will be able to see your pain in a new light. It will make you a stronger, better person who will do her best not to cause that pain in the hearts of other people. Because you have experienced this pain, you can more easily connect and sympathise with others who are hurt as well. By sharing this pain with another you can both help the other to heal and start again.
So be couragous. Begin to allow other people in. Talk to someone who has tried to reach out to you. Go do something you both enjoy. Begin to build relationships a little at a time. Be compassionate, quick to laugh, and always ready to help someone who needs it. You will find yourself surrounded by people who love you and will be by your side when you are hurting. And if you ever need to talk, send me a message. Good luck with everything,
Katie
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I want to volunteer my time more to the needy. I was reading some answers here and I think it would really help me if I got out there and helped people! The problem is that I'm only 14 and I don't know of any places I can volunteer my time. How can I help others? Will any places let me volunteer even though I'm underage? HELP!!! (link)
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I congradulate you on your desire to help others! I am sure that there are many places that would love to let you help out. If you go to http://www.volunteermatch.org/ and enter your area code, it will give you a list of volunteer opportunities near you. Go ahead and search for one that looks interesting then you can call and see what their policies are on the ages of their volunteers. I am sure you will be able to find plenty of opportunities.
If not, feel free to inbox me and I would be happy to help you look.
Good luck!
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I need a new face wash but something that isn't too drying. I'm using an off-brand equate thing I got from Wal-Mart but it dries my face out too much for the winter time when I go outside into the cold, dry air. What is a good brand to look for, or, more specifically, a good product to look for? I don't mind having to order it online as long as it isn't outrageously expensive...
Please help me get rid of my acne? (link)
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I have never actualy used it, but acne.org gives a simple and fairly cheap remady for acne. It outlines the regimen which includes washing the face, applying benzoil peroxide, and a moisterizer twice daily. You can order the products online and it also gives alternatives that you can buy in the store but are also more expensive. Check it out.
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My mom always said that dirt caused acne and so you should wash your face twice a day. Well, I heard at school from a friend that things you eat (like chocolate) actually cause acne. I had a teacher once to say that hormonal fluctuations cause acne. What causes acne, specifically facial acne? (link)
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Diet, hormones, heredity, vitamine deficiancies, and stress have all been known to affect acne. There are several factors involved in acne production.
The first is oil production. Your skin naturaly produces an oil called sebum to keep your skin healthy and moistorised, but when the oil glands become over-productive (often caused by hormones) the gland opens up and becomes more easily blocked. This blocked gland becomes a pimple, black head, or white head. According to ehealthmd.com the cause of this blockage is unknown but not due to poor hygene.
Irritation and redness occures when a native bacteria in the skin becomes trapped along with the oil and produces an irritating substance that your immune system tries to get rid of.
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there is this guy who is ayear older then me who goes to my school and added me on facebook out of the blue when i have never talked to him and like a week later he is in the cafeteria and i look at him and then he sees that and he eyes went HUGE and then he continued to stare and lately all of his friends smile at me and so does he and stares constanly do ya think he likes me or is just being friendly idk thnx! (link)
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I am pretty sure he likes you. Perhaps the best thing you can do (unless you are not interested) is to go up and talk to him. I bet he would be thrilled.
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Hello im currently doing my pre-requist. courses to get into the practical nursing program. The only problem is that i have a very weak stomach anything with veins makes me sick to my stomach like im going to pass out. I took a class in high school where i got to see dialysis patients and work in different parts of the hospital but it seems like over the year my stomach has grown very weak. I've been told that you'll get over your weak stomach after a little while. Is there anything i can do right now that would help. My classes show movies about surgery, stiches, staples, etc. And i get grossed out. Any help would definitely be appreciated!
Thanks and i rate! (link)
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Well, you could try building up a resistance to it by watching movies at home. Start small and work up to the harder stuff? Perhaps it would speed up the process.
This is a little out there, but you could try making some posative connections with the things that make you queezy. For example, every time you see something that makes your stomach queezy you could think about a favorite memory or a nice compliment you have been given recently. Anything that might help your brain connect the gross scenes to something positive.
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One of my close friends turns 18 in a month and plans on moving out. He's had a lot of family drama and wants to get away. I don't blame him for wanting to live somewhere else but I am afraid he is going to ruin his relationship with his whole family by making this decision. There are pros and cons that are too deep to get into, but I guess what I really need to know is, how can I be there for him? (link)
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I have a friend who is 18 and I think she needs to move out but she does not want to for fear of ruining her relationship with her family. I have no idea what the specifics are for your friend but I think the best thing you can do right now is to express your concernes and then support him in whatever decision he decides to make. If you can help him do something that would make the transition smoother for his family (write a thank you letter, offer to give his parents some say in the matter, etc.) you could probobly help out that way. You could also try helping him by researching places to stay, looking for job openings, packing his stuff in boxes, etc. that would be a nice way of showing your support as well.
Good luck with everything.
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I recently got my wisdom teeth out (last friday, so about 6 days ago) and i'm really worried, because it seems that my whole upper part of my mouth has shifted FORWARD,leaving me with an overbite and space in between my top* and bottom* teeth (which i didn't have before) I'm reaaaally upset, because my teeth where in great shape before the surgery, i just got my braces off last year.I now talk with a slight lisp because of it. And now i have this ugly,horrible overbite and i'm scared that its permanent! I still have a good amount of swelling in the back of my teeth, and also have trouble stretching my jaw- so my main question is-
Is this over-bite permanent or is it just because i still have some swelling in the back of my mouth? Will it ever go back to normal?
Please help, i've looked everywhere, and i'm really upset. :/ (link)
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I would think that an overbite has more to do with jaw structure and less to do with the position of your teeth. I would suggest calling your orthodontist. He should be able to give you a better answer.
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does anyone know of any awesome Underground Artists of the indie/folk/rock persuasion ? I'm sick of mainstream and I wanna find some real good music, but I don't know where to look. So I figured I'd ask here, if you know any thanks (link)
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The Wailin' Jennys is one of my favorite folk groups. You can check out some of their music on their website: http://www.thewailinjennys.com/merchandise.aspx#discographylnk
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so there was this guy that i liked but i didnt know very well he asked me out by this huge tree and i said no because the guy that was next to him made me nervous and i wish i wouldnt have but it's too late and those are the details that wil make it easier for you to know what it means...THE DREAM:there was this place ike a jungle but like a room and there were stairs to i went up the stairs to the balcony where he was, i said hi to him and he push me off but there was a matress down there that i landed on and when i woke up from the dream i was wondering why he would push me off a balcony???? can some one explain this to me??? (link)
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According to dreammoods.com, "To dream that you are in a jungle, signifies aspects of yourself and your personality that may be inhibited."
This could be a symbol of the other guy who made you feel uncomfortable and kept you from expressing your true feelings.
"To dream that you are walking up a flight of stairs, indicates that you are achieving a higher level of understanding. You are making progress into your spiritual/emotional/material journey. It also represents material and thoughts that are coming to the surface." Perhaps you are just begining to understand that you like this guy, or perhaps this was a learning experience for you and you should learn not to let other people hinder you in the future.
"To see or dream that you are on a balcony, refers to your desire to be seen and noticed." Perhaps you want to be noticed by this guy you like.
The part where he pushed you off may reflect the time right after you said no and wanted to change your mind but it was "too late." - "To dream that you are pushed or being pushed, signifies that you are being pressured or feel coerced into doing something."
I would think that being saved by the mattress suggests hope. You can now get back up and try again. Good luck :)
(all info was from the dream moods dictionary at dreammoods.com)
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Hey, iv been sorta planning a trip to america to go see a freind. the only thing is, she's lived in america all her life and this is the first time iv ever been out the country. Im getting the passport together and all but do i need a visa of somekind? is there any thing i should be wary off as well? or things i would need? im MAle, 18 and its my first time on a plane out of england (link)
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I recently left the US for the first time to volunteer in Peru for a while. I am not sure how long you are staying or where in the US you are going so I don't know a whole lot of the specifics.
If you plan on staying for a long time and think you may get homesick, you could bring an album of pictures with you. This has helped me a lot as I have been away for several months.
Familiar music, books, movies, recipies, or anything else you might miss while you are away also helps with homesickness.
A camera is a must. I have found a deck of cards can be quite handy as well. Especialy if you know a magic trick or two.
I have never been to England so I have no idea if the outlets are compatable or not. Here in Peru you need a converter so that is something to consider if you have a labtop or cellphone you will want to charge.
Hope this helped. If you added a little bit more information you might get some better advice :)
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Ever since 7th grade ,I've had a best friend ..Carly. We're in 11th grade now ,so we've come a long way.We both have never really had serious relationships or boys that have caused us to not be close until just recently. A few months ago,she got a boyfriend .Im actually really good friends with him and he's a good guy and he's definitely the one who i'd want carly to be with. Lately,everytime i hangout with her she either talks about him or is with him ,so i can never spend any time alone with her.I used to be okay with hanging out with them together and we all got along good until the last couple of weeks ,shes been different and seems to only pay attention to him and not me..even when we are together.She still tries to talk to me and hangout,but HE'S ALWAYS THERE or shes texting him or talking about him if he's not there.As of the last couple of days,i've been acting a little different toward her and not paying as much attention to her so she can realize what shes doing. She really has been a wonderful friend and I don't want our friendship to die out because of this guy. I've also been talking to a guy too,as of the last 2 weeks so i'm gonna make sure i don't blow my friends off since it's happening to me.Any suggestions on what i should do? (link)
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I don't think you have too much to worry about. It is pretty normal for this to happen with a new bf and it will blow over eventualy. Give Carly a little time, perhaps a month or two, and she will gradualy begin to think about other things again.
Until that time, use this pause to be happy for her and build relationships with your other friends. As long as this does not become a source of bad feelings between you your relationship will endure and grow stronger.
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I didnt know them well personally.. but occasionally I'd check their facebooks when i was bored.. like Im sure most people do on facebook anyways. and there were some pictures of them like drinking alcohol and stuff.. also with some other people and other people smoking and stuff.. everyone underage. i told the entire guidance department using a fake email.. and im not sure whether to feel like i did a bad or good thing? cause in 1 way its like i prevented them from really ruining themselves like some teens who never had someone intervene, even their parents. but on the other hand it was snooping.. stalkerish to do.. and now they have to go through stress with the administration now about it. they are all really popular kids at my school. but at the same time its not like i reported them to police.. i definitely wouldn't do that.. i think the school would handle that sort of thing better. i am also worried on being found out. i know if they find out im fcked for life socially. and i'd lose a lot of respect and people's confidence maybe. or they'll just think im a creepy stalker. but people have albums on facebook for people to see them so its not really an invasion of privacy i think. i just do not know what to think. i just feel pretty guilty right now.. ughh whas this a mistake or the right thing to do? (link)
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Listen, what was your motive for telling the school they were doing drugs? If you had been doing it to get them in trouble you would have gone to the police. Instead, you did what you believed to be the best for them.
Understand that. At your own risk, you did what you believed to be the best for someone else.
This is a noble thing, and it took some extrodinary courage.
Any stress they have to go though now is their own fault. Any stress they do not have to endure later is thanks to you.
I don't think there is any way anyone would know unless you tell someone else who leaks it. So be careful who you tell and you should be fine as far as your social life is concerned, but more importantly, don't feel that what you did was in any way wrong.
You did the right thing. Hold onto that.
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Me and my best friend have been besties since 3rd grade. I'm 15/f and he's 15/m. I can trust him with my life. He's the sweetest, he makes me happy, he makes me laugh when I'm down and he's just genuine. I can be completely and totally myself around him and I know he likes me for me. He writes songs and he sent me one and it was about love and keeping the one he loves close to him instead of having this distance between them, it was amazing, it gave me chills so I was interested, I asked him who it was about and he replied "i don't write about my own life, it isn't exciting" but I showed a few of my friends and they said it was most definitely positively without a doubt about me. Then again, everyone in the entire school thinks we should date, his friend started a rumor that we love each other so now every time someone sees us together they shout "JUST DATE ALREADY!". Of course that does nothing but embarrass us. My favorite is "everybody in this whole school knows you two have crushes on each other.. except you two". Lately, I've been thinking he has some feelings beyond friendship considering he wasn't going to attend a social gathering until I told him I would really like it if he went and he came after quite a bit of convincing so of course, that started more rumors that he came to be with me and he came to make me happy. We text each other all the time, just talking about random things, life, our instruments, who has the better phone, we never run out of things to talk about. I think it would be really cute if we dated but I value our friendship so much. Just answer me this -> do you think he likes me and if so why? and if you think he does, what should I do to move things forward? Thanks so much! (link)
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I am a bit confused about why you are so ready to move things forward if he likes you?
First of all, it sounds like you are being pressured a lot by your friends and peers to date. This is not a reason to begin a relationship.
Secondly, If he likes you why should you be the one to move things forward?
Thirdly, you are both so young. Why be in a rush? If you build your friendship now it will make any future romantic relationship stronger, but if you rush into a romantic relationship that you are not ready for it could potentialy damage your friendship.
In my opinion, I think you should enjoy your friendship and not have to worry about the romantic side of it yet. Guys mature more slowly than girls so it is possible that you are ahead of him anyways.
Don't awaken love until it so desires. And do not let yourself be pressured into making the decision by your other friends.
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Hi there.
My friend and I are planning on having a picnic in an elevator.
I was wondering what I should bring to the picnic?
Like what foods are cool to have at a picnic?
Please help it's really soon.
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Cucumber sandwitches.
Potatoe salad.
Chocolate Chip Coockies (to offer to people who get on the elevator).
Elevator shaped/decorated cupcakes.
Fried chicken.
Doritos or Cheetos.
Tea or lemonaid.
Scones.
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