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Q: I have a friend, 18 years old, who is in her second year of college. She was born in the USA, but her parents are from the middle east. Her parents are very overbearing. She is not allowed to go out alone or talk to boys at all and must always have her paren't premission to go out with friends, talk on the phone, or do pretty much anything. She must come home right after school and is not allowed to have a social life.
As a girl, her paren't feel that she must be protected and are constantly nagging her and guilt tripping her. She gets no privacy as they are constantly in her room and looking over her shoulder and critisizing her while she is doing homework. This is affecting her grades dramaticaly and drains her of joy and energy.
Because of the culture, her father would consider it offensive for her to even suggest that he is doing something wrong and her mom is constantly worrying about my friend's safety. My friend's mom also tells me that she misses her daughter when she is away and does not want her leaving for long periods at a time (like a couple of hours).
What advice can I give my friend and how can I help her break free from her controlling parents while still maintaining a relationship with them?

living in a dorm is a wonderful thing when yu have parents like this. theres all kinds of things she can do to get more money for skool to live in a dorm. theres all kinds of minority scholarships and grants and things. tell her to look into some of those. also maybe she cud sit down an talk with her parents in a respectable manner an suggest that they lighten up. she is legally an adult now so they shudnt be treatin her like shes 5.

Q: so me and my bff dated the same guy, she went with him the day after i did and they broke up so now its a new year and she was at my house talking to him on the phone and she wouldn't tell me what they were talking about... so i think they are getting back together and i dont want them to because he is a cheater and she gets hurt and falls too hard for him too easily and its ahppened before but now she is not taking my advice...well if they ever "youknow" i hope she makes a "mistake" and learns a lesson you kno? gets pregnant because she's the kind of girl that will happen to but how can i seriously talk her out of it a better way than i try?....
13-14 female...

being her friend yu dont need to talk her out of it...yu need to be there for her an just make sure when she gets hurt that yu are that shoulder to cry on. yall are young an your goin to get hurt...yu cant avoid it cuz its goin to happen whether yu like it or not. yu just have to know that when it happens yu can cry an be depressed about it for a lil while but then yu need to get up an move on wit your life an learn from your mistakes. yu need to look at the situation with your friend positively. hes makin her happy an puttin a smile on her face. he may be a cheater but she will find that out on her own. if yu try to talk her out of it shes goin to feel like yu arent bein much of a friend. sometimes yu just have to let ppl do wut they want to do.

Q: okay this guy likes me back he told me but he also told me he doesnt really want to date right now and he said he was sorry...
whats that supose to mean?
will we ever go out or what?
should i still hang out with him and like him?
or am i waisting ym time with him. i really like him...

i think yu shud still be friends an hang out with him. yu never knw..maybe he just needs to get to knw yu better before he makes a choice on whether to date yu or not. BUT...at the same time...i wudnt make him a priority...if theres other guys out there that yu like too them yu can also spend time wit them cuz maybe he really dont want a relationship an he just enjoys bein friends. so always keep your options open but at the same time keep your eyes open...remember actions speak louder than words...if he sees yu hangin out with other guys an he seems to get jealous then maybe yu shud start spendin more time wit him an less time wit the others.

Q: i have a friend she's my best friend but she likes this guy who is also my friend the problem is that she doesn't like the fact that he only talks to her when im there i don't think its true but everyone tells me the same thing i got her to start texting him but it turned out worser was telling her what to tell him then out of nowhere he started texting me to at the same time i told her and she got mad she wants me to do things for her like make sure hes okay when he doesn't go to school but i don't like to because then she gets mad i just don't know what to do or say to her or to him so she wont get mad

let her knw yu not tryin to stalk the kid for her. if she wants to know then she needs to ask him herself. if he txs yu more than her oh well. she needs to get over it....yall are only friends. it seems like she barely talks to him an if yu gotta sit there an tell her wut to say then she dont need to be gettin mad cuz hes bored with her. maybe if she stepped her game up she wudnt be gettin mad an he wudnt stop txtin her an start txtin yu. idk...seems like shes shy when it comes to guys an she either needs to break out her shell or shes just gonna get her feelings hurt.

Q: hiya...i have been single 4 1 month after being with my ex boyfriend 4 4 and a half years...it wasnt a perticular good relationship and it should of ended sooner..when we broke up i think i kind of craved male attention as i didnt get this from my ex and i slept with 2 or 3 people..however i met this new people when i was out in clubs and that...im just a bit worried now cos every guy i have met is just after sex? im not saying i want a relationship cos its way too soon..but im worried that these guys are all the same and i wont find anybody who i really like..and the nice guys who seem interested in gettin to know me who arent after sex im just not attracted too? i dont know if i wil ever find the right person 4 me? im 20

theres still hope sweetie. the way to go about findin someone is takin it very slow. at first they are only gonna be interested in sex. DONT GIVE IT TO THEM. tell them yu just want to be their friend. get to know them on a personal level. ask them about past relationships...like their longest one...why they are single....why they are only after sex. just get to know them..show them yu are more than a piece of ass an yu are a respectable woman whos lookin for someone to spend time with an not someone to just have sex with.

it seems all men only want sex now-a-days...yu just have to take things extra slow...become their bestfriend that way that see the best in yu then work your way up from there. cuz yu do want your boyfriend to be your bestfriend. if yu cant stand him as a friend then yu damn sure aint gonna be able to stand him as a boyfriend.

Q: My boyfriend and his ex girlfriend are always fighting. They fight about their past relationship and what went wrong. They fight because one of them will bring up their current love life and the other doesn't want to hear about it. I'm pretty sure this means that they aren't over each other, but don't really know it themselves and/or won't admit it. Does anyone know if this is like...a psychology term that happens a lot? What should I do? Please, any advice will help.
Thanks.

it seems like theres still something there. honestly a guy wudnt fight wit his ex if he didnt still have feelings for her. if it bothers yu yu need to sit him down an talk about it. maybe shes really where he wants to be an thats why they always argue about there love life. just talk to him about it. dont make it an arguement tho. as his gf yu need to be vey understandin at a time like this. goin about the conversation the wrong way cud cause him to get really mad.

Q: so i was a this dudes house and i was in his room and we were just talking and stuff....so we heard a honk out side and he was like oh my gosh that my mom so he gave me some of his clothes and a hat to put on and we went down stairs to sit on the couch then she came in and was like im home then she looked at me and said who are you and in a guy voice i said chris... then she said hi chris and went away.... uh whats that mean???

im guessin it means he wasnt supposed to have anyone in the house while she wasnt home...especially a girl....thats prolly why he gave yu his clothes and a hat to disguse yu so his mom wudnt knw yu were a girl.

Q: Okay so, This boy that i am in love with, the girl thats treats him bad just broke up with him becauze they do not get along.So now i thought we would go out cuz he told me we would. But he is now like.I am only useing you for sex,& you let me. I cant help my self he is like a drug to me for 2 years now. Should i let him go? Or should i keep trying?

LET IT GO!! theres no need to stay around just to be someones fck buddy. thats not cute. theres so many other guys out there that wud be willing to be in a relationship. dont just sit around an be used like that. wut if yu end up pregnant...i guarentee yu hes not gonna want anything to do with the child or yu.

honestly i cant believe yu sat around bein someones fck buddy for 2 years. like it didnt even occur to yu that he wasnt leavin yu for her then an now that they arent together he dont want yu...think about that....wut is there for yu to keep tryin for?? its been 2 years. if he dont want to be wit yu after 2 years i dont think he ever will.

Q: my boyfriend really wants me to give him head, and i'd like to, but i've never given head before. we have sex regularly so i'm not uncomfortable with him, i just don't know how to give head, which is enabling me to do it, though i really want to. helpp?

if he knws yu dont know how im sure he will guide yu thru. just let him knw yu ar NOT an expert in that area an yu might need some quidance. one thing i can say is do NOT use your teeth...that cud possibly get yu hit. lol.

Q: So I had a miscairage 3months ago and I want to get pregnant!!! Im 15 and need tips on how to conceive. Thnx (:

wait until yu are older. your body may not be physically mature enough to carry a child right now. your are still young anyways. you need to be more focused on skool an not a child right now since yu are still a child yourself. having a child now could mess up your whole future. im in a college an if i had a child right now theres no way i wud be able to do it. havin a child makes life a lot harder. so i just suggest waiting.

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