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BFF FALLING TOO HARD FOR HER (OUR) EX
so me and my bff dated the same guy, she went with him the day after i did and they broke up so now its a new year and she was at my house talking to him on the phone and she wouldn't tell me what they were talking about... so i think they are getting back together and i dont want them to because he is a cheater and she gets hurt and falls too hard for him too easily and its ahppened before but now she is not taking my advice...well if they ever "youknow" i hope she makes a "mistake" and learns a lesson you kno? gets pregnant because she's the kind of girl that will happen to but how can i seriously talk her out of it a better way than i try?....
13-14 female...
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being her friend yu dont need to talk her out of it...yu need to be there for her an just make sure when she gets hurt that yu are that shoulder to cry on. yall are young an your goin to get hurt...yu cant avoid it cuz its goin to happen whether yu like it or not. yu just have to know that when it happens yu can cry an be depressed about it for a lil while but then yu need to get up an move on wit your life an learn from your mistakes. yu need to look at the situation with your friend positively. hes makin her happy an puttin a smile on her face. he may be a cheater but she will find that out on her own. if yu try to talk her out of it shes goin to feel like yu arent bein much of a friend. sometimes yu just have to let ppl do wut they want to do.
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She is 14? She doesn't know what love is. She should not be having sex at all. If she is not taking your advice she is obviously not willing to see the bad in this guy. You may just have to let her get hurt and learn from the experience. If you need anything message me.
XoXo Lexi XoXo
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Hi :)
Obviously, if your friend won't take your advice on him being a cheater, then she's blind. You guys are 14; It's not that you're not old enough to date, it just seems that she (and maybe you) aren't mentally mature enough to be dealing with this. You haven't mentioned the guys age, but I will assume he is your age. So that goes for him too. He's just doing what society claims is cool, which is getting with any girl you can. All in all, there is no way for you to convince her out of getting with him, simply because she's blinded by the lust she feels from this guy. Maybe he sweet talks her, does things that she hasn't experienced before... And as with any other thing in life, you only learn from your mistakes. If she's not listening to you, just make sure you warn her one last time, and then let nature take it's course. I hope I helped!
Uniq =]
P.S: Don't hope for her to make a mistake. Be careful what you wish for.
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Dear writer,
I don't recommend you talking her out of anything. If you've had no success thus far, don't waste your time. Sometimes people have to learn from their own mistakes. Since you've both dealt with him, it may not be wise to try and give advice; she may assume you're jealous, and that's why she's not taking heed. Be a friend: be there for comfort, don't give her the I told you so speech when things go wrong. She will feel bad enough about whatever may occur; if and when it does. Just be a friend! TTYL :)
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