|
Overbearing Parents
I have a friend, 18 years old, who is in her second year of college. She was born in the USA, but her parents are from the middle east. Her parents are very overbearing. She is not allowed to go out alone or talk to boys at all and must always have her paren't premission to go out with friends, talk on the phone, or do pretty much anything. She must come home right after school and is not allowed to have a social life.
As a girl, her paren't feel that she must be protected and are constantly nagging her and guilt tripping her. She gets no privacy as they are constantly in her room and looking over her shoulder and critisizing her while she is doing homework. This is affecting her grades dramaticaly and drains her of joy and energy.
Because of the culture, her father would consider it offensive for her to even suggest that he is doing something wrong and her mom is constantly worrying about my friend's safety. My friend's mom also tells me that she misses her daughter when she is away and does not want her leaving for long periods at a time (like a couple of hours).
What advice can I give my friend and how can I help her break free from her controlling parents while still maintaining a relationship with them?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
living in a dorm is a wonderful thing when yu have parents like this. theres all kinds of things she can do to get more money for skool to live in a dorm. theres all kinds of minority scholarships and grants and things. tell her to look into some of those. also maybe she cud sit down an talk with her parents in a respectable manner an suggest that they lighten up. she is legally an adult now so they shudnt be treatin her like shes 5.
]
not to be mean by law she was born in the us she 18 she can come and go as she pleases she can move out.she a grown women she need to tell her parents she need to be treated like adult ya i can say ya it thier house but come on this the us things are diffent if you dont learn to get out you stay with mommy daddy for ever. i say get her a counsler and then they can talk this out cause she need to have a lige to i moved out when was 18 couldnt take the crap my self i could understand if she 16 but shr not she can get pack her things get a job her parents can vistit your a good friend help her tel lwhat she need to do help her have the cop help escort to move if you have to do what ever it takes to getr her out they might be worried about boys but she older hello.
]
More Questions: |