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Relationship question!
hiya...i have been single 4 1 month after being with my ex boyfriend 4 4 and a half years...it wasnt a perticular good relationship and it should of ended sooner..when we broke up i think i kind of craved male attention as i didnt get this from my ex and i slept with 2 or 3 people..however i met this new people when i was out in clubs and that...im just a bit worried now cos every guy i have met is just after sex? im not saying i want a relationship cos its way too soon..but im worried that these guys are all the same and i wont find anybody who i really like..and the nice guys who seem interested in gettin to know me who arent after sex im just not attracted too? i dont know if i wil ever find the right person 4 me? im 20
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Well then when you go out go with a group of friends that are more social butterflies and meet new people. Dont let it go past casual hellos the swop of number to keep in touch as friends. and what ever you do dont have sex and eventually you will find someone that you like and does like you and it will take awhile because you want to be friends for a long time and youu have to know them to even develop feelings and by then that has given you enough time to realize what you want and possibly be ready for a relationship.
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I'm sorry to hear about your break-up!
Well I would relax if I were you...you may want that attention but the guys your with might not being giving you the attention you want. I would wait and sit back and think what you really want and who would be a guy you could lean on for comfort. Maybe you have a guy friend...(you don't have to hook-up) that you can talk you or cuddle with. I have some guy friends that I flirt with and there are no strings attached. Point is, is that these guys you meet aren't doingyou any good...that attention isn't something that is going to make you feel better. You'll eventually find someone its just going to take time. My best friend just got out of a relationship for 4 years as well and she doesn't think she will ever find someone. I told her that there are so many guys out there and that you have to just relax and have fun. I believe that everyone will fun that special someone! Good luck! :)
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Dear Writer,
I understand how you feel, but know that all attention isn't good attention. Guys can spot an easy and/or naive girl out from a mile away. You can't go looking for love, let it find you. At your age, I doubt it very seriously that you'll find love in a club. All you have to do is be patient, and the right man will come along! In the meantime, be more selective about the company (men) you keep. You're still young, so enjoy your youth; all those other things will come in due time. :)
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theres still hope sweetie. the way to go about findin someone is takin it very slow. at first they are only gonna be interested in sex. DONT GIVE IT TO THEM. tell them yu just want to be their friend. get to know them on a personal level. ask them about past relationships...like their longest one...why they are single....why they are only after sex. just get to know them..show them yu are more than a piece of ass an yu are a respectable woman whos lookin for someone to spend time with an not someone to just have sex with.
it seems all men only want sex now-a-days...yu just have to take things extra slow...become their bestfriend that way that see the best in yu then work your way up from there. cuz yu do want your boyfriend to be your bestfriend. if yu cant stand him as a friend then yu damn sure aint gonna be able to stand him as a boyfriend.
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