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im going to this dance with my girlfriend but i cant dance at all and im nervous, what can i do?

Just tell her the truth that u are nervous and cant really dance she will understand.

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So, I'm fifteen & female. for the first time last weekend, my boyfriend and i had oral sex both ways. LIke he gave me oral & i have him oral. After it though, i felt like reeeeeal dirty. I mean, is that slutty or anything? I'm only fifteen and it just doesn't even feel right. Or is that normal the first time haha...I don't know, let me know, thank youu.

Well in my opinion it is probablly not going to feel right at 15. Yes the first time it does feel a little dirty but it also feels right. If it didnt feel right its my advice to wait and just let him know your not ready or you are going to feel really bad about yourself.

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18/f
Freshman college student.

I hang out with 3 other girls who live down the hall from me. One of the girls has liked a sophomore guy(Drew) since the beginning of school. He helped her move in to her dorm. I always knew who he was but we never talked more than a few words in a group conversation. Well Friday night 2 of the 3 girls and some guys including Drew were hanging out. We started drinking and my friends left because they're uncomfortable with it so I stayed back with the guys. I had never really hung out with any of them much before but I wasn't ready to go to bed. We ended up hanging out until 5 in the morning.
Saturday night. The same thing happens, all the girls and the same guys are hanging out. The guys were drunk, I didn't have any but the girls were uncomfortable again and left around 11. Me and Drew had started up our own conversation, isolating ourselves from the group and didn't even notice the girls leave. At around 1:30am the guys went to bed, leaving me and Drew on the floor of the common room talking. We talked until 6:30am! About everything, relationships, jobs, family, sex, school, our major (everyone I've mentioned are all in the same major). At 6:30 people started waking up and came out and saw us still sitting on the floor so we decided it was best if we went to bed. He asked for my number, walked me to my door and then he left.
Sunday, we were all working late hours on projects in the studio and I was most likely going to pull an all nighter. Drew, who usually would visit my friend at her desk was now visiting me more frequently and my friend definitely noticed. She had stopped talking to me, gave Drew an attitude, and gave us both dirty looks. He didn't want to talk to someone who gave him an attitude for no reason so he just continued to stay at my desk and ignore my friend. I have yet to flirt with him! And he always comes to me but my friend is still mad. She has a very bubbly personality and doesn't know how to flirt, so I'm sure he's clueless that she likes him. I have been myself the whole time and he hasn't stopped talking to me since that night when we stayed up. Well my friend left the studio at 4 in the morning without a goodbye. We were supposed to walk back together so we didn't have to walk in the dark alone but instead she just left without me. So I stayed and finished my project until 6 when Drew and I decided to call it quits. He walked me to my room again and then left to go to his dorm.
Today we were texting and his response to something I said was "You are sooo awesome, how have we never talked before?"

I don't know what to do. The only reason I haven't flirted with him is because of my friend's feelings towards him but he doesn't have feelings for her at all and her bitchy behavior lowered the chances of that ever happening. She's turning the group against me for 'stealing her man' even though she never told him she liked him and I never flirted. If he likes me, I'm sorry but thats not my fault so I don't deserve an attitude. I thought college was about growing up and getting away from childish behavior and drama.

What do I do? I see them both everyday.

Honestly if she was a real friend she would not be doing what she is doing and even tho u dont admit it it sounds like you really like this kid so go for it. Better to lose one then both and if she cant understand that then shge was never really a friend to begin with.

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next weekend me, this girl and a few friends r going out smoking and seeing a movie. its basically like going out with some friends, but i kinda want to make it more than friends with this girl, what can i do?

Its from my personal experience that i tell you that its really not smart to date a friend if you really value the friendship. it ruins everything if things go bad

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my names Emma, Im 13, And I need advice?

Well,
I like this lad, and when I meen like, I meen basically Love..
Because well, sometiimes when I thiink, I just seem to think of him, and when I see him I feel different around him, and I always wanna be with him, and when he comes on msn I proper wanna say hi straiight away ?! Do I love him?
And what do I do ?

Please help
xx

It sounds like love to me. If you think you have a chance.....then go for it.

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Ok well the Raj(ex) problem still stands at the moment .BUt now also my other ex is makin me feel so pressured and depressed.He wants me back but i enjoy being ONLY this ones friend.we get along better and he keeps bein so childish and overdramatic and idk wat to do bout it.

Also my supposed "bestfriend" has been ignoring me or not even bothering to call or txt me. a message nothing! it makes me so mad because i have done alot for him.He is gay and I was the person he came out to and I helped him be comfortable with it and he is alot happier now.We have been bestfriends for two years but the past couple months he has been pullin this shit..idk what to do bout it.I feel kinda used ya know?

Well for the first part your ex problem you need to tell this person you enjoy his company but in a friend sorta way not like realtionship romantic way. And just be honest and real with him because if he cares about you and is any kind of friend he will understand.
Now as for the second problem with the gay friend..have you talked to him about the way he is being?????? Maybe he is haveing problems at home or has something he is dealing with that you dont know because he doesn't want ANY one to know because he is ashamed or maybe he is scared to tell anyone. Things like that happen all the time and even the best of friends have secrets that they dont tell each other and people can hide things very well if they want to its a talent that every one has and most of the time they dont know how to deal so the distance themselves from everyone. So let him know how u are feeling but also reasure him that you are there fro him and he can talk to you nomatter what and he doesn't have to worry bout it gettin out if he doesn't want it too. And just be there for him and not give up and he will realize you are a good and true friend and things will eventuallly get better.
Dont be afriad to tell people how you feel.....

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20/M
I text back and forth with this girl that I like. What are some subtle things I can say to her when we text that lets her know I like her but not completely professing my feelings for her? Like "hey cutie" or others, I just want to be SUBTLE about it. I'm not afraid to tell her I like her (because she likes me). We live apart now but I move to her town in 3 months. And we're not together now/yet. So that's why I want to be subtle about it.

Dont say cutie say beautiful...and when you talk be like i really like talking to you and bring up her town and then be like by the way i am moving there in 3 months and i just wanted to know what its like if she asks whay and then be like maybe we can hangout some time.....and ask her how her day was all the time and whats new with her it will let her know you are interested and you dont have to come right out and say it

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What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
P.S. I rate high for good advice ;)

Well to me age is just a number its the maturity of those to people and how comfortable the people around them are. Well if you are 18 then if you want to go younger than you that i would not go any younger than 16 and older i would not go more than 4 years older.

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Hi, I'm Hailey (17)
I have made mistakes in my life that I'm not proud of, but I've made a complete turn around. I was dating this guy who is three years older than I am. He was into drugs and he got me to do them with him. After going out a while he made a routine out of getting me high and then having sex with me (and refused to wear a condom). I didn't say no but before entering the relationship I would not have concidered having sex. Is this concidered thanks so ,much for your insight :)

Yes druging someone then haveing sex with them is rape. It happens all the time its considered date rape you should talk to someone and look into it and see if he has done it to others and talk to them and if you have enough eveidence push it or he will do it again to someone else

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17/f
I have known this boy for years and we have always liked eachother. finally after years of on and off seeing eachother there was always a connection. finally we are together. we are in love and talk to eachtoher all the time and text 24/7. the down side is we only get to see eachother twice a week. he is very insecure and emotionally weak. he trusts me but every once in a while he says he has his doubts and can't trust other people. it takes him forever to get over things which bugs me because i never worry about anything and i get over things quicker than they begin. is there anyway i can fix this?

thanks soo much :)

Most of the time things like this are just a phase he will get over in time as the relationship goes on. And when he does it, it shows that he really cares about you and doesn't want to lose you. Just when he gets this way...let him know that you are here with him and you are not going to go anywhere and let him nkow that his insecurities are starting to ruin the relationship and you love him but you dont like the fact that he is doubting because it takes two to tango

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17/f. I recently found out that one of my really good guy friends (17/m) likes me a lot. I don't see him as anything more than a friend, though. My problem is that we have a really close group of friends (there are 6 of us who hang out all the time), and I don't want to let things get out of hand and make things awkward. He is being very, very, very obvious about this. I know that by not stopping it, I'm essentially leading him on... and the last thing I want to do is hurt him because I love him like a brother. I really screwed things up the other night... when our group of friends was doing homework on his bed, he sat super duper close to me (almost to the point of snuggling?) and I didn't do anything about it (because at the time I didn't know the extent of his feelings and thought we were just being friendly). I mean, I think snuggling is perfectly okay when it's all in good fun... I get the bad friend award, I'm totally aware. So my question is, how should I handle this situation, and what should I do if he makes any sort of move on me?

You say he is a very good friend so you don't want to miss lead him because then neither one of you are going to be happy and you are going to find yourself trapped wanting out of a sticky situation. The best thing to do is pull him aside one day and tell him how you feel. If he is really your friend then he wont get mad and he will understand. Because thats twhat true freinds do and he might be upset at first but then he will realize you did the right thing and that it would have been worse if you had mislead and things will go back to normal. I had taken the other road once and lets just say things turned out really bad and i almost lost the best friend i ever had.

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My friend is having her 16th birthday. Since shes sorta childish, I thought it would be fun and silly to do child games despite our age. What kind of games would you consider for us to play? There are going to be about 12 but we can always split into groups and so on. I already have Pin the Tail on the Donkey and Musical Chairs. Any other ideas?

When i was a child and even now when i play with all my little sisters my favorite games were duckk duck goose and red light green light they are both games that even adults love playing from time to time. And depending on where you have it you can also play red rover. These are all party pleasers that you can't go wrong with.

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There is this guy that I really like a lot. The thing is i've never met him. He lives a state over. Anyway I told my friend that I really liked him, and i'd talk about him and how great he really is. Well when I showed my friend his picture, she wanted to talk to him. So they started talking, she has nick names for him, they talk more than him and I do. I just don't get it, she flirts with him all the time, everytime they talk. She says that's just how she is with guys. Also she has a boyfriend. So i've pretty much hit rock bottom with what happened tonight. They were talking and she told me what part of what they were saying because it was funny. She said he needs to go to bed, and he said she needs to go to bed, then she said alright father, and he said i'd rather be your mother. At first she didnt get it either until she thought about it, and then she got what he was saying. He said that because the other night when they were talking he said something about being her mother and spanking her all the way to her bed or something. When she told me about that, I almost just broke down. She does that all the time. She talks to him and flirts with him and then reads me what their saying. I just can't understand any of it. She didnt want to talk to him until she saw his picture. I mean she knew that I liked him a lot and yet she still just flirts with him right in front of me or reads me their conversation. I guess what I wanted to know is, what do I do about this? Do I just forget about him, and move on? Do I...gosh I dont even know what I should do. He really is such a great guy. I just can't stand the fact that my best friend does this. She flirts with every guy she talks to whether she knows I like them or not, she even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend. And one time when we were at the movies I saw a really cute guy and I just wanted to point out that he was cute and she just says yeah he was staring at me. I just..I dont know what to do. She's my best friend really my only friend. Please just tell me what you think about all of this, and what you would do, or some things that ou could do in this situation. Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

If you have really talked to your friend about how much it is bothering you and him and they both have not stopped then they really dont care about you and your feelings. and you dont need someone like that you can do so much better. Plus the odds of them really meeting is slim to none unless they make a date and then you will know about it and no the truth about what kind of people they really are so i wouldn't stress it and play by ear each day as it comes because you are a great person and have your whole life to find a great partner

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Now I know that everyone has their own personal preferencese when it comes to dating. My question though is, is there something wrong with a 17 year old guy going out with a 15 year old girl? I mean do you see anything wrong with it? I know i'm going to get many different answers and that's what i'm hoping for. There's just this guy that I really like, but he said that youngest he would date is 16, and i'm 15, and he's 17. He's a really great guy. We both have a lot in common, and are a lot alike. I'm not saying that because of these things that we belong together or something I just want to know everyones ideas on this. Any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance.

Well not really because its not illegal yet. There would be if he was 18 or older and she was 15. Plus it really depends on how mature the person is and how mature their realtionship is

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so I just started highschool and theres this guy that I like. I have bio and history with him but I'm too shy to talk to him. He doesn't act like he likes me at all so I don't know what to do, but I mean we've never talked so itd be kind of hard. i'm also really shy so it's even HARDER...so if any of u have any advice on what to do please help.

Well ask around and find something that you and him might have in common and then work off of that. Small talk could create a spark but you will never know until you actually hold a conversation ....just remember looks may be decieving

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im13 and wanted to know what a 13 year old girl likes about guys and how they like them to kiss. Any help?

Thirteen year old girls are the same as anyone else and you can't really put them under a stereo type because everyone is different. Just talk to the person you like and soon you will be comfortable and the kiss will just happen and you won't even think about it....just remember first kisses are the easiest yet the hardest.

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im from INDIA...gud eveng,im 21 yrs old,i have got irregularites in my periods...to day 2 11th my periods are suppose to be start by 1st..2 months back i met wit an accident and i got some injuries,for that i took tablets for 15 day.(those are not for periods purpose)....and other thing is one year ago i huged my boy friend witout top(witout bra)(was having panty)...does it effect my periods by any means??

Well i dont see why the medications you took would have anything to do with it but i would talk to a doctor about it. As for the huging your boyfriend...if you had bottoms on then i wouldn't be worried...you cant get pregnant by huging him and haveing bottoms on. So my best advice to you is to wait it out a little bit longer and if you dont get your period soon then i would go and talk to a doctor...best choice is the main care giver and if you don't like what they have to say then go and get a second opinion.
But it could also be that sometimes women have a shift in there cycle so it could be that too.

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how do i keep the girl im with for a very longtime we really are attracted and like eachother alot its me being scared to lose her? how do i keep her for a longterm relationship

If you love her as much as you say then just enjoy the time dont worry about endings. If you worry to much you will lose her because it will only lead to arguements and you will drive her away.

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I am starting to feel sick and tired of my boyfriend. I also think he feels the same way, which he obviously denies.

We have been dating for 2 months. We semi-dated for 2 months before that. He cheated on me after a month and a half of dating. He lost his virginity to me, though, before that.

What should I do?

If he cheated on you then leave him because you dont need someone like that. you can do better!

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im 13/f

ok so theres this guy that i like in my 2nd 3rd and 4th period classes. he sitts beside me inn all of them. in 2nd, he ALWAYS talks to me instead of his like best friend. then in 3rd, he is like a complete jerk and ignores me and is always telling me to shut up in front of his other friend. then in fourth, he talks to me like nothing just happened. im so confuseed...sometimes i get the feeling that he likes me and them like 10 mins later i feel like he hates me.

HELP!! i need to know what he is thinking!!

He is thinking that he likes you but doesn't want to creep you out and he isn't sure how you will react so he does this....... but just talk to him and let him know how you are feeling.

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