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I have done nothing wrong!
18/f
Freshman college student.
I hang out with 3 other girls who live down the hall from me. One of the girls has liked a sophomore guy(Drew) since the beginning of school. He helped her move in to her dorm. I always knew who he was but we never talked more than a few words in a group conversation. Well Friday night 2 of the 3 girls and some guys including Drew were hanging out. We started drinking and my friends left because they're uncomfortable with it so I stayed back with the guys. I had never really hung out with any of them much before but I wasn't ready to go to bed. We ended up hanging out until 5 in the morning.
Saturday night. The same thing happens, all the girls and the same guys are hanging out. The guys were drunk, I didn't have any but the girls were uncomfortable again and left around 11. Me and Drew had started up our own conversation, isolating ourselves from the group and didn't even notice the girls leave. At around 1:30am the guys went to bed, leaving me and Drew on the floor of the common room talking. We talked until 6:30am! About everything, relationships, jobs, family, sex, school, our major (everyone I've mentioned are all in the same major). At 6:30 people started waking up and came out and saw us still sitting on the floor so we decided it was best if we went to bed. He asked for my number, walked me to my door and then he left.
Sunday, we were all working late hours on projects in the studio and I was most likely going to pull an all nighter. Drew, who usually would visit my friend at her desk was now visiting me more frequently and my friend definitely noticed. She had stopped talking to me, gave Drew an attitude, and gave us both dirty looks. He didn't want to talk to someone who gave him an attitude for no reason so he just continued to stay at my desk and ignore my friend. I have yet to flirt with him! And he always comes to me but my friend is still mad. She has a very bubbly personality and doesn't know how to flirt, so I'm sure he's clueless that she likes him. I have been myself the whole time and he hasn't stopped talking to me since that night when we stayed up. Well my friend left the studio at 4 in the morning without a goodbye. We were supposed to walk back together so we didn't have to walk in the dark alone but instead she just left without me. So I stayed and finished my project until 6 when Drew and I decided to call it quits. He walked me to my room again and then left to go to his dorm.
Today we were texting and his response to something I said was "You are sooo awesome, how have we never talked before?"
I don't know what to do. The only reason I haven't flirted with him is because of my friend's feelings towards him but he doesn't have feelings for her at all and her bitchy behavior lowered the chances of that ever happening. She's turning the group against me for 'stealing her man' even though she never told him she liked him and I never flirted. If he likes me, I'm sorry but thats not my fault so I don't deserve an attitude. I thought college was about growing up and getting away from childish behavior and drama.
What do I do? I see them both everyday.
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You really should just explain to her that your intentions were not to try and steal this drew guy. Its not your fault that Drew likes you and not your friend (but dont tell her that lol). She is just acting like she is in high school and seriously if you guy are in college she definitly needs to grow up or isnt a true friend obviousllyy! Hope I helped =)
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really if she was a true friend she wouldnt get mad at you for talkin to him and thinking you stole his man so the best part is to ignore her and keep talking to the guy dont mention anything
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Honestly if she was a real friend she would not be doing what she is doing and even tho u dont admit it it sounds like you really like this kid so go for it. Better to lose one then both and if she cant understand that then shge was never really a friend to begin with.
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Go for it flirt with him he doesn't like your friend he likes you it's her own fault for having
a attitude and acting the way she is confront your
friend and say she needs to stop acting childlish
and that she ruined her chances of ever being with him also say that he isn't her man since they aren't even dating she needs to stop turning the group aganist you he obviously likes you so go ahead and flirt take this chance because if you don't you'll most likely end up regretting it later loosing one friend isn't going to make a difference you can always make new ones i'd ignore her and just focus on Drew :)
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One thing I know for certain. Some people no matter how old they get, will always act childish.
It sounds to me as if Drew likes you. I think you like him too. There is nothing wrong with that. He was not dating your friend. They are not married. You have done nothing wrong. Even if you stopped hanging out with him tomorrow, he would probably not be dating your friend. I see no reason for 2 people to be miserable and apart, just because an immature girl wants to cause drama where there is none.
College is about growing up. Sometimes people grow up and find that some friendships weren't meant to be. You may want to tell Drew why the friend is being a bitch. Chances are he already has an idea. Either way, I think he is going to say he likes you better.
Have a talk with your friend with the attitude. Both you and Drew talk to her if you like. If the attitude continues, she isn't much of a friend. If she continues to try and turn others against you for disturbing her fantasy world...shes not much of a friend. Neither are those who go along with her.
Best of luck to you. Sounds like you have a good relationship in the works. :)
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