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rape?
Hi, I'm Hailey (17)
I have made mistakes in my life that I'm not proud of, but I've made a complete turn around. I was dating this guy who is three years older than I am. He was into drugs and he got me to do them with him. After going out a while he made a routine out of getting me high and then having sex with me (and refused to wear a condom). I didn't say no but before entering the relationship I would not have concidered having sex. Is this concidered thanks so ,much for your insight :)
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Yes druging someone then haveing sex with them is rape. It happens all the time its considered date rape you should talk to someone and look into it and see if he has done it to others and talk to them and if you have enough eveidence push it or he will do it again to someone else
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I would get screened for STDs pronto. If he is/was a hard drug user or injected them into his veins you're at a higher risk for HIV and other STDs. That would be my first concern. I'm happy that you have totally and completely changed your life.
It's a blessing as you get to be reborn in a non-religious sense and have a fresh chance and perspective on life. I hope you take this experience and help other young people with it. Good can come from so much wrong that way.
Unfortunately, when it came to taking the actual drugs nobody can force your hand. Either you decided to do them or you didn't. Unless he forced them into you all he's at fault with there is introducing them to you. You made the choice whether to do them or not. Whether you were coerced or not doesn't matter as it's always your choice to take them.
AskMen.com editors recently posted an article on whether or not it was rape if a woman was taken advantage while drunk or not. In the U.S., Canada and UK as long as the woman wasn't unconscious they view it by law as her decision to have gone through with any/all sexual activity.
But, the U.K is now the leader in changing those laws.
ASKMEN.COM PAGE QUOTES:
"Lawmakers in the UK are discussing new legislation that would make it possible to convict men for having sex with women who are drunk. The idea is that if she is very intoxicated, she is incapable of giving consent. Up until now, women have been considered capable of giving consent as long as they’re not unconscious.
"The new law could potentially open the door to thousands of new “date-rape” cases. It’s no secret that alcohol and dating often go hand in hand -- but up until now, guys were unlikely to be prosecuted for mixing the two. With this law comes a big responsibility for men to be sure that a woman is sober enough to know what’s going on.
Opponents of the proposed legislation fear it may encourage some women to allege rape when they really just regret having had sex while drunk."
END OF ASKMEN.COM QUOTES.
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Well, It all depends on how you look at it.
If you were willing to do drugs with your boyfriend of that time and you did not say no to having sex then no it is not concidered rape. Although you were high and might not have been fully aware of what was happening...You really can't say it's rape unless you were saying no. On the other hand, If he was having sex with you everytime you were high...then I would say it is wrong but I wouldn't concider it to be rape. It is sort of 50/50...because if someone were to get another person drunk and then they had sex...Oh my lord darling you have me so confused...I would say it depends. :(
-BahaiMa22
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