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almost perfect?
17/f
I have known this boy for years and we have always liked eachother. finally after years of on and off seeing eachother there was always a connection. finally we are together. we are in love and talk to eachtoher all the time and text 24/7. the down side is we only get to see eachother twice a week. he is very insecure and emotionally weak. he trusts me but every once in a while he says he has his doubts and can't trust other people. it takes him forever to get over things which bugs me because i never worry about anything and i get over things quicker than they begin. is there anyway i can fix this?
thanks soo much :)
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Most of the time things like this are just a phase he will get over in time as the relationship goes on. And when he does it, it shows that he really cares about you and doesn't want to lose you. Just when he gets this way...let him know that you are here with him and you are not going to go anywhere and let him nkow that his insecurities are starting to ruin the relationship and you love him but you dont like the fact that he is doubting because it takes two to tango
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Your ability to get over thing and move on is a good thing. Worrying is such a waste of time isn't it? Not everyone shares our outlook on life though. I don't think there is any way you can fix this, only your boyfriend can deal with his personal issues. You can help but he has to recognise he has a problem and want to change. If things go on as they are do you think it will begin to have a detrimental effect on your relationship?, I suspect it will. Maybe you should explain this to him. Defiantly talk about this, don't just plod on and pretend all is ok. MM
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Does he have a webcam? If he does and you do also maybe you two can talk to each other more that way. If it is possible you could do weekend visits with each other. :)
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I don't think there is anything you yourself can do. I think he wants to trust you, but he may have cheated before and is worried that it can happen easily. He either trusts you or he doesn't. You are a very honest person so your jealousy level is nothing. You have to make the decision to deal with his insecurities or not.
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Sounds like what I had going on three years ago! Except I was the insecure one ):
My then boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship and it was great! Until I started having my doubts because his exgirlfriend who was still really close to him. I would always disregard what he had to say and I didn't believe him (which I should've) and I had all these doubts. Sometimes, I'm not even really sure why!
I think the only way to fix this insecurity of his is to show him that you really care about him and that he's important to you. Not only through your words, but your actions. The little things that count! But ultimately, it's going to take time and his maturity to understand and trust you.
Best of luck!
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