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I Just Want To Be Friends
17/f. I recently found out that one of my really good guy friends (17/m) likes me a lot. I don't see him as anything more than a friend, though. My problem is that we have a really close group of friends (there are 6 of us who hang out all the time), and I don't want to let things get out of hand and make things awkward. He is being very, very, very obvious about this. I know that by not stopping it, I'm essentially leading him on... and the last thing I want to do is hurt him because I love him like a brother. I really screwed things up the other night... when our group of friends was doing homework on his bed, he sat super duper close to me (almost to the point of snuggling?) and I didn't do anything about it (because at the time I didn't know the extent of his feelings and thought we were just being friendly). I mean, I think snuggling is perfectly okay when it's all in good fun... I get the bad friend award, I'm totally aware. So my question is, how should I handle this situation, and what should I do if he makes any sort of move on me?
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You definitely need to address this BEFORE he makes a move. If you have to refuse him after a move he will fill like an idiot and will be angry. Tell him NOW you appreciate the attention but you don't want things to go any further. He might be disappointed, but not angry or feeling foolish.
Also - make sure of your feelings before you shut the door. My cousin had a good friend for 3 years of college and suddenly they were a couple and now they have wedding plans. She said it started with a kiss ... and her feelings shifted.
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You say he is a very good friend so you don't want to miss lead him because then neither one of you are going to be happy and you are going to find yourself trapped wanting out of a sticky situation. The best thing to do is pull him aside one day and tell him how you feel. If he is really your friend then he wont get mad and he will understand. Because thats twhat true freinds do and he might be upset at first but then he will realize you did the right thing and that it would have been worse if you had mislead and things will go back to normal. I had taken the other road once and lets just say things turned out really bad and i almost lost the best friend i ever had.
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You are not a bad friend, you didn't realize he was interested more. If he is a true friend then tell him how you feel. Let him know you love him as a friend and that means more to you than a relationship, true friendship is forever. If he can't understand that he is not a true friend. Be honest with him. It might sting him @ first but he will respect you for being honest. And that's what friendship is.
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