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She flirts with this guy that I really like, what do I do?
There is this guy that I really like a lot. The thing is i've never met him. He lives a state over. Anyway I told my friend that I really liked him, and i'd talk about him and how great he really is. Well when I showed my friend his picture, she wanted to talk to him. So they started talking, she has nick names for him, they talk more than him and I do. I just don't get it, she flirts with him all the time, everytime they talk. She says that's just how she is with guys. Also she has a boyfriend. So i've pretty much hit rock bottom with what happened tonight. They were talking and she told me what part of what they were saying because it was funny. She said he needs to go to bed, and he said she needs to go to bed, then she said alright father, and he said i'd rather be your mother. At first she didnt get it either until she thought about it, and then she got what he was saying. He said that because the other night when they were talking he said something about being her mother and spanking her all the way to her bed or something. When she told me about that, I almost just broke down. She does that all the time. She talks to him and flirts with him and then reads me what their saying. I just can't understand any of it. She didnt want to talk to him until she saw his picture. I mean she knew that I liked him a lot and yet she still just flirts with him right in front of me or reads me their conversation. I guess what I wanted to know is, what do I do about this? Do I just forget about him, and move on? Do I...gosh I dont even know what I should do. He really is such a great guy. I just can't stand the fact that my best friend does this. She flirts with every guy she talks to whether she knows I like them or not, she even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend. And one time when we were at the movies I saw a really cute guy and I just wanted to point out that he was cute and she just says yeah he was staring at me. I just..I dont know what to do. She's my best friend really my only friend. Please just tell me what you think about all of this, and what you would do, or some things that ou could do in this situation. Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
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she sounds like she is jealous of you getting a close relationship. And shes telling you what he is saying she is just trying to hurt you, thats not nice. But think about it your saying hes a great guy but yet he knows thats your best friend. It takes two and he sounds like a bit of a player. Tell her she has a boyfriend and that she should respect him and you or she will lose both of you. Also a long distance relasionship will be difficult and is he really worth it theres plenty more fish in the sea, friends and boyfriends. x
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Think about this. She's your best friend. You told her you liked a dude and her reaction was to start talking to him. But it didn't stop there.
She PURPOSELY tells you things they flirt about. A girl who does this has a low confidence. Pretty or not. She constantly feels the need to feel pretty and she does this by trying to flaunt things boys say to her that make her feel pretty.
She wants you to envy her, but sadly, its making her look like a crappy friend. She doesn't sound like a very nice person, but you on the other hand sound like a friend I would like to have. You need to break away from that friendship. If you want help doing that, just message me! :)
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If you have really talked to your friend about how much it is bothering you and him and they both have not stopped then they really dont care about you and your feelings. and you dont need someone like that you can do so much better. Plus the odds of them really meeting is slim to none unless they make a date and then you will know about it and no the truth about what kind of people they really are so i wouldn't stress it and play by ear each day as it comes because you are a great person and have your whole life to find a great partner
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well it sounds like she is VERY insecure. The reason she flirts with all these guys is because makes her feel desirable, and wanted. in a a way it validates her. as far as this particular guy goes, your "friend" really stepped over the line. the sad part is is she doesnt even realize what her actions are doing to you. the thing is, anyway you try to talk to her about it, she's just going to get defensive and deny it. so if i were you i'd let this guy go. because even in his flirting style he has no depth. why would you want a bf who used to talk to your bff in that way?. you want a guy who gives all women respect. so let this one go.. and the next guy you like, maybe dont tell your bff ;]. i hope this helps in any way!.. good luck. if you have anymore questions feel free to ask me =]
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Woahh, i have a similer stituation. i think you need to tell her this. Be nice and just say hey, i really need you to stop flirting with guys i like its starting to bother me and you wouldn't like it if i did it to you. About the guy. Let her have him. They'll never meet, and you'll never meet him. If having one more guy makes her feel good about her self then whoppie. Find a guy that doesn't let her do that. They guy sounds like he would youse you, or her.
if you need anymore help drop me a question.
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