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Age Limits in Dating
What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
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i think 2 1/2 years older is a good limit. Its a good idea not to date boys a lot younger than you.Boys mature at a slower rate than most girls, and dating someone a lot younger than you might cause problems with the level of maturity that they have.
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Personally I never go 4 years over my age. However, If you are 18 you might want to date someone 18 or older as it is illegal to date anyone under the age of 18 because they are still concidered to be a minor. Age is really NOT just a number, It is about maturity. If someone who was 18 dated someone who was 35 they are in completely different stages in there lives. Etc
You are now an adult, You can date whom you choose to date but remember if you choose to date a minor then you take a risk of being caught.
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To me age is just a number.
If u want to date someone younger don't go under 16.
If u want to date some1 older don't go above 21.
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Well to me age is just a number its the maturity of those to people and how comfortable the people around them are. Well if you are 18 then if you want to go younger than you that i would not go any younger than 16 and older i would not go more than 4 years older.
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Well, seeing that your 18 years old, you should probably date only guys that are either 18 or just a couple years older if they are older than you. No older than 21 ;]
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I really think it just depends, i mean if you find someone who is 30 and you really like him it could work but 30 is a little high if your just dating around ya know?? and as for how young you should go, you have to be careful because if anything ever happened they could turn you in if your 18 and they are under 18 but i would say about 16. Hope i helped =]
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Have you ever heard the Rule of Seven? It tells you how young you can go.
Take your age, and divide it by two. Then add seven. That gives a rough estimate as to how young you can date without it being icky.
So, for instance, you could go as young as 18/2 = 9 + 7 = 16.
As for older, it's a matter of comfort. If they're in your group of peers, then it doesn't really matter. I'd say to stay below 25, though.
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You'll get as many different answers as you will different people, but here’s a quick summary of my opinion.
Date someone who is legal.
Obviously, don't date outside your area's Age of Consent. The Age of Consents in the vast majority of places are really very fair and reasonable, with many 'close in age' exceptions to keep from criminalizing young people being intimate with their own peers. Once I started looking into these laws, I was actually pleasantly surprised with how liberal they were.
Date someone who is your PEER.
By that I mean date someone who you can be equal too. That doesn't necessarily mean age, or income or education, but those are also not horrible guidelines and it definitely does mean date someone where there is equality to your social exchanges, where you can both make decisions with equal strength, where you can both bring conversation and activities and where you can both exist with equal dignity and equal control of the relationship.
Date someone with a similar lifestyle.
This isn’t a hard and fast rule, but I think it makes particular sense for younger people. A seventeen year old at high school living at home and a twenty year old in college living in residence will have a MUCH harder time then two people of the same ages who both have the same lifestyle (i.e. who both live away from home and go to school). Same thing goes for a nine-teen year going to college and a twenty-five year old working fulltime. These lifestyles are wildly different and give people very different values. That makes a relationship needlessly tough. It’s not a rule. I can’t say those relationships wont work, just that the odds are against them and they aren’t always the best idea.
There really are not firm rules (besides, of course, the law), there are just good ideas and not so good ideas. You probably know which is which.
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