hey im ashley. i really like helping people and giving advice on relationships.
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My best friend insists i like her crush but i don't!!! I've told her over and over and over again i don't, because i don't. he's not cute at all or anything! I'm barely even friends with him, we're like acquaintances if anything! She doesn't even believe me though. ugh. so what do i tell her, or what do i do, to get her to believe me?! (link)
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I guess just don't act like you like him in any way and don't start conversations about him...let her do that. Tell her ways to start dating him like things she should say, and just help her out. Make her feel like you want them to be together.
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I'm so in love with him...but recently we just lost contact.He hasn't replied to any of my mails for at least two weeks.We kinda live really far away from each other,but his mom is from my country so I get to see him once a year,and we spend about 4 months hanging out and stuff.I've developed this intense feeling for him and I can't get him out of my mind,not for a second.Recently he admitted he felt the same way about me.We were both very happy about it and we kept on counting days 'till we are finally reunited.
And then,all of a sudden I just lost contact with him.I don't know how often he checks his mail,but he always replied soon after he got the mail.It has never been this long that I haven't heard from him,and I'm wondering is that it?Is he going to ditch me?I really care about him and...I don't know what I've done wrong to make him ignore me. (link)
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i know that you are probably stressing out about it, but don't. If he really loves you as much as he says he does, then he will reply back and probably have some explanation of why it took so long.Use this as a test of your relationship, if he doesn't reply back, then you know its not meant to be.
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Okay! So there is this guy in my class named Mark whose 13/m and I’m 13/f, and he is so hot and funny and cute and sensitive and MY TYPE!!!!!! It’s hard to talk to him because he's always surrounded by all hid friends (boys and girls.) He has the most BEATUIFUL eyelashes in the world. And when I was at his birthday on 12-19-09 I hugged him good-bye... from the side. If his mom wasn’t in the room watching my every move I would have hugged him from the front and possibly pecked him on his cheek..... if only. The worst part is that I’m not what you would call "slim, skinny, anorexic, Paris Hilton" I’m what you would call "fat, chubby, big" and what’s even worse is that I’m the TALLEST IN MY ENTIRE GRADE!!!!!! Please help me, cause I really like him and want to know if we could really have a chance with each other.
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If he likes you, then he likes you, no matter what you look like. Personality is important too. Show him that you are a fun person to be around and maybe give him a hint that you are interested.
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Okay, So I have a boyfriend & I've only just started dating him(a week). The other night i brought up a conversation about flirting and he told me that he flirts BUT he doesn't cheat, and that its harmless flirting. His sister told me he's never cheated either & wouldnt cheat(he tells her everyting). but i still feel uncomfortable about the flirting bit, even though his sister told me theres nothing to worry about.
My friend spoke to him and he said thats just how he is. he told me he has a lot of reallyyy close friends but they're like little sisters to him and nothing more. We have a thing in our relationship where we dont deny if something is wrong, but we dont have to talk about it.
I've met pretty much all his friends & he doesnt act weird with me when being around them & when he's at school, he acts normal(kissing me, holding me, being with me, etc) & everyone knows im his girlfriend so he's not trying to hide the fact that im his girlfriend or anything.
He's not good at showing much emotion, and i was warned about that before we dated. But I want him to open up. How do I get him to open up more? Or should I just not bother and let him be if he doesnt wanna talk about it?(he & his ex girlfriend of 4 years fought ALL the time because of the not showing emotion thing) so i dont want to be like her.
I just get confused about how he feels sometimes when he avoids telling me whats wrong.
someone helpp? (link)
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If you have a problem with him flirting with other people, then tell him about it. Tell him that you don't like him showing other girls that kind of attention and that it bothers you.
And some people just don't show very much emotion. Mention it to him and if he doesn't change and you really like him, they accept him for who he is.
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I am 14f and my boyfriend is 16m. our six month anniversary is coming up soon and i want to get him something nice because hes always getting me gifts and surprising me with them and its adorable, like a bracelet, a necklace, an ankle bracelet,earrings ...so i want to do something nice for our six month. i NEVER know what to get guys for presents. i dont want to get him clothes because i never know what kind of clothes he likes. we go to the mall together and he always surprises me...so i need something else. i want to get him a picture frame with a picture of us in it but thats kind of cliche so i want something else...what do you think i should get him?! THANKYOUU (link)
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Guys are always hard to shop for! But i think that something you make for him, or the picture of you two is a good idea. Presents like that always mean the most to people.
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have you ever been so completely fooled by a guy? so entirely PLAYED? the feelings of disappointment and anger are fired up inside me. i dont know weather i should cry or punch my pillow and scream. i feel so stupid. how could i have fallen for his bullshit?
encouraging words might be helpful? (link)
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yes, everyone has felt like that one time or another.Just look at the situation as an experience to learn from. Control the guy, don't let the guy control you.
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No guys like me at my school. I guess Im pretty, all my (girl) friends always say Im sooo pretty and that they wish they had my looks and I never even ask them if Im pretty they just randomly say it. But all my friends that say that, have boyfriends or a bunch of guys like them. And all of my sisters and her boyfriends friends say Im hot behind my back. Im not popular but Im not a geek or anything either, just in the middle. Everyone knows me or knows of me, even all the popular guys! I just dont get why no one likes me. I have a very outgoing personality. Im average in body size. I mean whats going on?
Sorry if its long, and thanks for reading!
-L.o.n.e.l.y (link)
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You just haven't met the right guy. Give it time,and focus on things you like to do. Don't rush it, it will happen when it happens. Have fun with friends and don't worry about if a guy like you or not.
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16 f, Long Distance Relationship.
I dated this guy for a few months and everything seemed fine. Every few weeks he'd come into town and we'd spend time together, we'd text and IM everyday, talk to eachother on the phone etc.. until one day he decided to break it off. He never really gave me a reason but I was heartbroken. I really cared for this guy. We decided we'd try and be friends and if it was meant to be we'd end up together again.
A few weeks later he tells me he misses me and wants me back. I told him I missed him to but if he wanted to be with me he had to really make an effort now. (Traditional dates, hanging out) and he agreed to it. Then a few days after that he broke it off AGAIN. I was fed up so I didn't talk to him for a week or so.
Now hes back, and I told him if he really wants me he has to TRY and until we can be functional again, i can't be his girlfriend. For the first few days he's sweet and caring and then afterwards you can TELL he loses interest again.
I'm so over all this back and forth. I DESERVE better than that. I deserve a guy who can make up his mind and be stable with me. Im sick of being toyed around with.
How can I really and truely stop going back to him. I feel like he just doesnt care as much as he thinks he does, and everytime he loses interest i just keep getting hurt. I love him with all my heart, but I need to move on.
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yes you do deserve better than that. A guy will do what you allow him to do.If he loses interest after a few days, then he's just not that into you. Its a good idea for you to find someone that will love you no matter how far apart you are and will do everything he can to keep your love growing.
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So me and this guy have only been dating for a little while and well me and him started to make-out last night and I told him I wanted to take things slow. I don't like to just jump into things you know? Thats not who I am. But he kept pushing and pushing to have sex and I kept telling him no. Well he just started kissing me again and I thought he understood that I wasn't going to have sex but then before I knew it he was pulling my pants off and started having sex with me even though I told him no. I didn't know what to do. I pretty much just shut down.... I feel completely horrible now. After that happened last night I can't stop thinking about what happened and I don't know what to think or what to do. I feel completely used and ashamed..... I don't know what to do now. I feel like it's my fault. (link)
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im really sorry that all of that happened to you. But it is not your fault at all. He should of respected the fact that you didn't want to have sex right away. Also, forcing you to do that he might be controlling and possibly abusive. Do not let him make you feel like it is your fault though.Next time you have a boyfriend, make sure you know what kind of person he is before you agree to date him, and know what he's capable of.
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What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
P.S. I rate high for good advice ;) (link)
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i think 2 1/2 years older is a good limit. Its a good idea not to date boys a lot younger than you.Boys mature at a slower rate than most girls, and dating someone a lot younger than you might cause problems with the level of maturity that they have.
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I was just wondering; the media and society have plastered images into the minds of young females that all men want are beautiful girls with slim waists, big boobs, and a butt. I was wondering what guys ACTUALLY want; what they look for in girls they 1.DATE 2.MARRY 3. ARE ATTRACTED TO
I rate high for good answers!
THanks.
Madison
age 18
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yeah thats exactly what the media has done, but its not always true. Yes, guys are attracted to that, but personality always matters. Guys want a girl who knows what she wants out of life and a girl that he can have a good conversation with. No matter how pretty you are, if you don't have a good personality, then chances are its a turnoff. Guys want someone who is beautiful on the inside and outside.
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I unfortunately fell for someone who doesn't like me... in a relationship way.He told me were just friends... and I REALLY love him. I can't get him out of my mind!! I really need to get over him. I told him how I felt...he said he just likes me as a friend nothing more. So... I'm heart broken. I can't find anyone else... I really want someone special in my life. I can't find anyone who likes me . I don't understand why... can someone give me some tips on how to get over him? How can I find someone that likes me back?? Please... anyone give me some advice. Uh...I am 13...if that matters.
Thanks!! (link)
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i really can relate to how you feel, but you are only 13 and you will have plenty of boyfriends. It is very hard to get someone out of your mind that you love,but just find fun things that you enjoy doing to keep yourself busy.Also, focus on having fun with your friends rather than having a boyfriend, you have plenty of time for that! You just havent met the right boy yet, and theres nothing wrong with that.When you meet the right person, you will know!
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