K well I am Cassandra I decided to do this because in my group of friends(&all of thier friends it seems lol) I seem to always be the one everybody asks everything to. I figure well maybe if Im good at it I should if not I guess I will find out for sure huh? Then I ll just go back to writing like 50 poems and songs lol xp So ask me anything and I will try my absolute hardest to help you I promise! =)
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hey, this is awkward and i'm not sure how much you can help me but i wanna give my boyfriend a blow job for the first time but i've never done it before. i know the general idea but i'm nervous that i'm gonna do it wrong or be bad... can someone tell me how to start like how to go about doing it and any tips??? thank youuu!!!! (link)
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hmm ok well something my bf really likes..is if i kiss and lick the sides of his chest and stomach and continue doing that lower and lower until ...until you actually start doing the act.Try lots of licking and leading up to it because it'll work him up and feel WAY good! also watch out for your teeth if you are gonna do anything deep..like hold your lips into your mouth a little that way you can do that deep once in a awhile(dont try that the whole time because you are gonna need air honey lol)lick the head alot. Teasing always makes it better.Just dont do it for too long. =) Good luck!-KC
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I just started going out with this guy and it already seems like he's losing *some* interest in me. I think it's mainly because I'm not enthusiastic or flirty as he is. What are some things I can do to spice it up and show him I really do like him? (besides tickling.) (link)
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Try having deeper conversations.Showing him how there you are for him.Watch what you guys do and learn cute little things that he likes.Just make him feel wanted and that you are there for him and he will feel more close to you and want to be even closer. best of luck!-KC
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I just started going out with this guy. He knows a ton of people and is always giving like 10 girls hugs left and right everyday. And sometimes he even kisses their heads/foreheads and tells him he loves them. I'm guessing he's just really, really good friends with these girls, but a lot of girls like him and he does this with so many. Is it wrong for me to get mad at him for this? I don't see anything wrong with hugs, but it just seems like hes all over some of them..and he does this right in front of me. I'm new to relationships, so I don't exactly know if this is considered acceptable? (link)
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the kissing and telling him he loves them i dont think is ok....hugging is understandable.Some people are just that good with other people and like to hug,doesnt mean it means anything.But like i said the other 2 things i dont think are ok..just ask him about it and tell him you are uncomfortable with it.honesty is always the best approach.Wish you the best of luck-KC
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My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He was going through a depression and cut off all connections with everyone. He says he needed time alone and that he was no longer happy with anything. First he stopped talking to his best friend. Then all other friends, then he broke up with me. I tried to still be there for him and told him to call me whenever he needed me. But after a couple of weeks of roller coaster emotions and not being sure if he was going to call or not, i decided to end the whole thing. He kept telling me that he will come back one day and that I just need to be strong and move on for now. So thats what I told him that I needed to move on and not to call me anymore unless things were going to be different. he told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore. because he doesn't know how he feels about anything anymore. He said that his depression was getting worse and needed to find jesus. So we said our finally goodbyes last week and haven't talk since
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we were really in love and didn't have a bad relationship. Even planned marriage
he was in a depression when we were both in freshman year. He stopped talking to all of friends then too and then later regretted it and tried to get back in contact with them a year later when we started dating.
we are both seventeen and are in our junior year of high school. We were together 9 months but have know each other for 4 years. We liked each other freshmen year but he became very depressed because he was backstabbed by his friends and his first love cheated on him. He cut off all connections with everyone at school then to. He moved schools our 10th grade year. We didnt talk all school year but I texted him out the blue during summer and we began to have a relationship. He tried to get back in contact with the friends he cut off because he regretted doing that to them.
I REALLY MISS HIM AND IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK WE WILL EVER TALK AGAIN?
he was my best friend and i was his. We talked about everything
Please do not tell me i need to just move on. Because i am doing that. When i am ready to date again. I will do so. But I just really want him in my life again... .. or do you think it would be weird if i wait a couple of months give him his space... then call him to check on him?
i will do anything to have him in my life again... even if its just as friends
& please excuse any misspelled words and my grammar I wrote this in a rush..Thank you in advanced (link)
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I understand what you are going through..I have been through multiple situations.It sounds like you guys had/have something really special. I think maybe give him a couple days to a week of space that way he can think it out.Then try giving him a call and just talk.Doesnt have to be about his depression,just talk to him,im sure he misses it badly and he ll realize it once hes been without you for just a little bit.Distance makes the heart grow fonder..From personal experiences I think this idea would work.With whatever you decide i wish you both the best of luck =)
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So this girl that I really like decided she just wanted to be friends, after talking for like 6 months and it sucks but she still wants us to be close. I have a feeling that she is eying someone else now but the other day she told me she misses me and how close we were. This really threw me off but her statuses on a social site and stuff say can't you see I really want you. and stuff like that and I honestly doubt it's about me. I gonna do something that never seems to work but I'm gonna spill my guts to her hoping this will sway her but I don't know... We've been through so much together, I lost two best friends because of her, one of them who was trying to date her first but then I kind of stole her from him but I thought it was worth it because she's changed my life and she tells me that I've changed her's and I can't see myself with anyone else but her. I can honestly say I need her but do you think she's really worth it? I'm just scared of getting turned down. (link)
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Honestly I think you should just ask her if she likes someone else...it sounds like she does but be sure.She should be honest and You ll find out if shes into someone else or if its you.Be careful though the truth can hurt so dont do make your decision without being mentally prepared for anything.Best of luck
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i have been dating this boy now for two years my parents recently informed me that they dont like him and i am no longer allowed to see him i love this boy with all my heart and if i just leave him like this because of my parents he would be tottaly devistated becuase he always talks about being together forever and things like that what should i do (link)
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Hmm well theres two options you can A.Do what your parents tell you to do and lose your love or B.Stand up for you love and stay with him. You can tell them that you arent going to leave him or sneak around but I dont suggest sneaking around because it could get you into serious trouble.well really that depends on your age.If your like 17 then you can pretty much just be like whatever I love him. Me and my ex actually went through the same thing cept worse I tried to sneak off and see him several times last year but wed be talking and get caught up then Wed get caught multiple times.They even tried to run him over.crazy eh? But he still stuck around and they dont ACTUALLY know i see him but im sure they think it and we are great friends.Just remember if you really do love him and stay with him your family will still love you.They are your family.But really its your choice. I dont want you to get into trouble but you shouldnt be unhappy either
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ok im not going to sugar coat this or anything im just gonna straight up tell you how it is. i need to get something off my chest and i want to hear what you have to say about it. im putting myself out there so, try not to be too harsh :/ i really appreciate you taking the time to read this and help me out.
16/f
been going out with my bf for 1 year and 6 months. let me just tell you for sure we definitely are in love, no questions asked. we go to different schools but only live 15 minutes away from each other and we make it work. even though i truly do love him, i have mildly [nothing horrible] cheated on him on several occasions.
okay, back last year when we were going out for about 4 or 5 months, i started to talk to this guy, G. he was blatantly flirty with me all the time and i guess sweet talked me into a situation i did not want to be in. one day in school he texted me saying to 'go to the bathroom' and meet him outside in the hall. so i did, and we were just walking around the school talking. we sorta got slower at the staircase and he turned around and kissed me. i kissed him back but it was just 2 short pecks held out for 2 seconds each id say. it felt like the WEIRDEST THING ever, i didnt like it. but it was almost like he had me brainwashed because i kept talking to the guy. over a break like the easter break or something when no one was home he snuck over to my house and i let him in... i kept him in my room because my brother was home and if he saw some guy in our house he would get me in trouble. so he almost forcefully laid me down and started kissing me. no tongue or anything, just kissing, like long pecks i suppose? so i felt sort of violated because i was very hesitant and it made me feel uncomfortable. right after i got up and didnt let him push me down anymore and told him he had to leave and i made him leave my house. i only told my boyfriend about the kiss in the hallway and i twisted the story and said that the guy kissed me but i did not kiss him back. eventually i realized talking to this kid got me nowhere but into trouble so i ended all contacts with him. so that was over. my boyfriend was upset of course but forgave me because he still doesnt even know the whole story.
next incident came in the summer, we were going out for 8 months. i went on vacation with my family to the bahamas at a resort. i made out with/kissed 3 boys within the vacation. nothing was passionate it was just regular kisses. out of curiosity i suppose? spur of the moment? the feeling of carelessness that the summer gives you? i was on vacation and i would never have to see these people again? im not sure why i did it but these reasons seem logical. right after every time i told the boys that i had a boyfriend and that i felt horrible that i did that. the first guy, B, it was his last night. we were walking on the beach at night after a teen activity that the resort had, and it was my first night there so i was naive. he said that he had never slow danced on the beach before and he asked me to. i thought it was the sweetest thing ever so i did as we listened to a song on his ipod. he kissed me 2 or 3 times that night, nothing passionate, just kisses. and he was really shy and inexperienced and would ask me if i was bad and stuff. i told him i had a bf and we both felt really bad and he understood because he had been cheated on before. the next guy was a total jerk, i was going back to the hotel room to get ready for dinner and before that i was with a group of my friends. he said he would walk me back and i thought that he was just being a gentleman, the naive person i am. little did i know he had other intentions. when we got to my door he leaned in fast and kissed me and grabbed my ass. i was insulted by this so i pulled away after a second once i realized what was happening. then i left him and went into my room. he later told my friends from the resort that he made out with me 3 times and that i let him grab my ass a lot, which was obviously a lie. the next time was with a boy, N. my group of friends was in the poolside hot tub one night. he put his hand on my leg and eventually i sat on his lap playfully because we were all friendly like that i didnt see harm in it at the time, but now i realize that is completely leading on. my friends ditched us thinking we wanted to hookup. once they left we started making out, i did think he was attractive but his personality was a jerk and he just wanted to get with girls, but anyway, after 7 seconds or so he started to go into my pants [ i was wearing full tank top and jeans bc i got pushed into the pool with my clothes on before] and i stopped him right there. i realized then that it was wrong and definetly did not want to go any farther. we met back up with my friends. later on a friend told me that he had said that 'he wanted to f*** me before i left" and that insulted me. it made me realize he wasnt a good guy. so then i went home. i told my boyfriend i didnt do anything and that one guy B tried to kiss me but didnt and lied about it and the last guy tried to get in my pants but i didnt let him. thats all i told him, basically a half lie. still bad i know.
the last incident occured around christmas time, we were going out for 1 year and 2 months. this time i didnt do anything physically, but emotionally. my bf and i were fighting a lot, had a rough patch if you will. i just felt unhappy a lot of the time so i turned to another boy. we had just met and just started talking through insignificant means, like facebook, IM, and texting. he started to tell me that he liked me and would also sweet talk me as the first guy did. it sort of persuaded me into liking him. i did find him attractive and i did like his personality. but i learned from the past mistakes and knew i would not kiss him. we wanted to hangout one time to get to know each other, as friends of course, even though we had little crushes on each other, but he respected that i had a bf and didnt want to mess it up'. i felt my bf couldnt know about it because he would feel jealous or start worrying, couldnt blame him though. so it was originally set up that we would hangout at the mall with other people. he would bring some friends and i would bring some. i was supposed to bring my friend jenny but at the last minute she couldnt go so it was just me. he had 2 of his friends with him, and we saw other friends while we were there too so it wasnt any sort of a date. my bf thought i was just at the mall with jenny though, bc that was the original plan. but thats all he knew. anyway, this guy and i never kissed or did anything innappropriate. i did later admit to my boyfriend that this kid and i were talking and that i had developed a crush on him. my bf and i had a long talk and i eventually ended contacts with this kid and stopped liking him, and things between me and my bf got better. i am completely over that guy. but i can tell my bf is still hurt that i could like another guy so easily and he probably feels insecure, which is understandable, i would too.
so there it is. he really only knows half or even 1/3 of all of that. i have a terrible conscience inside that reminds me of this stuff constantly. i was in denial with my self for a while and would refuse to think that i did any of that stuff, i just couldnt deal with it, i was so upset with myself and still am. i know i should tell him one day... sooner is probably better. but i am SO scared. he told me a few times that if i ever cheat on me he would be so devastated and heartbroken and it would show that 'i never loved him'. but that is not true at all. i KNOW i love him with all my heart, i dont know what i would do if he broke up with me, i would be so incredibly upset. i dont want to lose him but i know that what i did was very wrong and i am truly sorry for it. it was a mistake and i meant nothing by it, i never loved anyone at any point in my life but my bf. i used to be so naive and curious and just stupid and i see that now, ...i know i will never do those things again. i am just so afraid that if i tell him everything that he will just start thinking... and it will end up with us breaking up or something to that horrible effect. i really need advice on this. thanks so much for your time. (link)
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Ok well I have done things similar to that to my bf too.And I did tell him and I broke up with him because I felt so bad and never wanted to hurt him again. I Know I did love the guy at one point or felt strongly for him because we dated for about a year and 5 months. If you tell him..He will get upset and heartbroken and all of that.But it will clear your conscious and make YOU feel so much better. Really though what you did is normal.It is obvious that you love him but things do happen even if those guys didnt mean anything to you It happened. So you can keep it a secret (but please dont torture yourself hun =( ) or you can tell him and risk your relationship but truthfully I think that if you told him he should respect you more knowing that you had the courage and really did love him enough to tell him the truth.Also its good you wont do those things again be sure to stress that too him and show him that you love him if thats the course of action you choose to take. I wish you the best hun.
- Cass
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Me and my ex just started talking on saturday. we had gone out for 4 months, and he lost his virginity to me and everything. i messed up with him big time though in the past because i ended up breaking up with him to be with another guy. We have been acting towards each other completely normal, as if we had never broken up to begin with, thanks to the fact that i apologized to him and told him how horrible i felt about what i did. & honestly he is the best boyfriend i've ever had, but at school he doesnt want people to know that we're talking again because their going to start talking crap. i just wish it would be okay with him if we could AT LEAST act like we're friends, because if not i'd have to wait till after school to talk to him on the phone, and if i want to actually be with him i have to wait till the weekends. & i cant take that. how can i approach that subject with him in a way that i can convince him? & also, does it look bad that i'm getting back with him? (link)
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Ok I dont know if its a brillant answer.But your issue is similar to mine I had a few months ago.Very similar.&now me and him are good friends and get along great and might possibly be more later.Ok so heres what we did that might help you. Im sure he still feels very betrayed and hurt bout what you did even if he doesnt show it to you.Guys dont usually like to be seen as vulnerable. So the best you can do is let him get over in his own time&get it out of his system the way he needs to.It sounds like you love the guy.Which is good because love is harder to find than people think. Just be there for him,be his friend when he needs you and show him that you are a good friend and would do anything to help him,and that you can handle being "just a friend"because friendship is the basis of a good relationship.Then in time things will work out as they should and he wont mind people seeing you two talk or what they say bout it.Because you seem to be a good person and Im positive that he knows that,he is just hurt that is all,give him time to get over what happened and start fresh with you.
-Best of luck
Cass
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