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will my ex and I ever talk again
My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He was going through a depression and cut off all connections with everyone. He says he needed time alone and that he was no longer happy with anything. First he stopped talking to his best friend. Then all other friends, then he broke up with me. I tried to still be there for him and told him to call me whenever he needed me. But after a couple of weeks of roller coaster emotions and not being sure if he was going to call or not, i decided to end the whole thing. He kept telling me that he will come back one day and that I just need to be strong and move on for now. So thats what I told him that I needed to move on and not to call me anymore unless things were going to be different. he told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore. because he doesn't know how he feels about anything anymore. He said that his depression was getting worse and needed to find jesus. So we said our finally goodbyes last week and haven't talk since
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we were really in love and didn't have a bad relationship. Even planned marriage
he was in a depression when we were both in freshman year. He stopped talking to all of friends then too and then later regretted it and tried to get back in contact with them a year later when we started dating.
we are both seventeen and are in our junior year of high school. We were together 9 months but have know each other for 4 years. We liked each other freshmen year but he became very depressed because he was backstabbed by his friends and his first love cheated on him. He cut off all connections with everyone at school then to. He moved schools our 10th grade year. We didnt talk all school year but I texted him out the blue during summer and we began to have a relationship. He tried to get back in contact with the friends he cut off because he regretted doing that to them.
I REALLY MISS HIM AND IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK WE WILL EVER TALK AGAIN?
he was my best friend and i was his. We talked about everything
Please do not tell me i need to just move on. Because i am doing that. When i am ready to date again. I will do so. But I just really want him in my life again... .. or do you think it would be weird if i wait a couple of months give him his space... then call him to check on him?
i will do anything to have him in my life again... even if its just as friends
& please excuse any misspelled words and my grammar I wrote this in a rush..Thank you in advanced
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I really think that this guy has depression issues to take care of before you guys can get back together I mean it seems as if you really love him but for him to love you back he needs to love himself..someone should try to get him into some kind of counseling..I also dont think it would hurt to send him a text or something just saying hi and ask how he is doing nothing too pushy though you might push him away..I am sure if you have this special bond with him as it seems you do he will come around eventually it might just take some time..dont give up hope on talking to him it sounds like he could really use a friend.
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i can understand what your going through because believe or not i have been there i married my best friend and kinda the same thing happened he got to a point were there was nothing anyone could do to make him happy and he wanted nothing to do with me and it was hard because i loved him so much and we had been friends for 5years and married for almost 2years and he said a lot of hurtful thing to me about how i need to move on and get over him and just different things and i will tell you if he has a big place in your heart it will be the hardest thing you will ever do and it gonna hurt but in time you will be strong and move on as for your question if you should call or not i think your best bet is to wait he has been though this before and came back from it and am sure he will again you just need to give him sometime i would one of to thing 1) if you really want him to be in your life in the future then maybe call/text/or e-mail his one last time and say "look i no your going though a lot right now and i understand am going to give you the time you need. i just want you to no if you ever need anything am here for you" and leave it there then maybe in 4 or 5 months send him a message saying "hey i was thinking about you and wanted to say hi and see how you were doing" when you do both of theses what your doing is letting him no you care without pushing him over broad. 2) now the 2ed thing i would say is just leave everything alone for now and in 4 or 5 months send him a message saying the same thing "hey i was thinking about you and wanted to say hi and see how you were doing" and just see what happens. and the reason i say 4 or 5 month is because if give you a chance to move on a little were your not think about him all the time and it gives him the chance to get outta his funk and get back on his feet. i hope that my advce helps you out and every thing works for you
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I understand what you are going through..I have been through multiple situations.It sounds like you guys had/have something really special. I think maybe give him a couple days to a week of space that way he can think it out.Then try giving him a call and just talk.Doesnt have to be about his depression,just talk to him,im sure he misses it badly and he ll realize it once hes been without you for just a little bit.Distance makes the heart grow fonder..From personal experiences I think this idea would work.With whatever you decide i wish you both the best of luck =) <3 -KC
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I think you really have no other option but to call him because like you said your already moving on and you dont think he will call you so therefore your only option is to call him and ask him how hes doing and if he wants to maybe hang out or something im sure once he gets more comfortable with you and starts to realize he does like you maybe you guys will get back together.
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Yes! I believe he will talk to you. He is in a stage of depression which, hopefully and probably, he will grow out of. He needs someone to talk to and to trust no matter what he says. Being depressed is one thing. Being depressed and alone is worse. Try to text him, just a friendly conversation to let him know you are there for him again. Just talking to someone, especially someone he cares about (YOU!!!), will make him feel needed and loved and cared about, something he probably hasn't felt since the break-up and before. This is because when you are depressed, you second guess everything-love, friends, even life. He just needs time, but, again, try to text him. He will come around :)
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the best way to deal with this is give him some space. i know what he's going through i get into bad deppressions and i just want to be alone sometimes all it takes is space let him figure out himself for a while. The best advice is if hes going through a deppression if he needs you talk to him but done bring up the realationship because that will make him more deppressed because it will make him more confused. and right now he doesnt love himself so its making it hard for him to love you. im sorry your going throu this the best thing you can do right now is be there for him and the deppression should patch things up on its time. if you need to know anything else about deppression just let me know.
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From what I've read here, I believe, if you give it some time and space, you will be in each other's lives again. But your ex is sick right now, and he needs to get better. Good for him for recognizing that and caring enough about you to cut you loose before he really hurt you. It hurts, I know, but you're going to have to give this one some time. Just think of how much more fun it will be to be around him when he is feeling better in his mind and his spirit. But dragging this relationship out by staying in constant touch will hurt his efforts to get well by keeping one foot in the past. So, as hard as it may be, back of for a little while. Try to fill your time with other distractions. If you don't have one already, start a journal. Its a great way to express your feelings privately and it will help relieve some of the pressure. I have a good feeling about this if you do this right. Even though I don't know you I can tell this is all going to work out for the best in the end. You just have to be patient.
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I Do think you both will speak again. If he has depression there is medicine for him to take to help him. When Someone is depressed and they may need some time alone give them the time that they need. When people are depressed there is time they feel like being alone and its a medical conditon and emotinal not really have to do with anything or anyone . Depression can make them feel like they don't know what they want or make them feel like they are alone and the best thing for them is to let them have space and let them know you will always be there . If you truely love him and was talking marraige then let him know as a friend as more that you are there for him when he needs you to be strong during this. If you still want to be with him then just go your day by day basis for yourself meaning dont worry about dating another person or him just be single or unattached for a while and things will come into place . I was diovrced and Scared and when i stop wanting to be with anyone then i found my second fiance who soon to be second husband when i was least expecting it
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I do think there is some hope that you two will talk again in the future, but right now I think he does really need to focus on himself and getting over the depression. The only thing is, he might not be as willing to talk to you since you told him not to call unless things were going to be different. If you really do want to continue a friendship with him, maybe you could call or text him, and let him know that even though the relationship is over, you would still like to be friends with him when he feels like he's ready to. And I don't think it would hurt to contact him every once in a while to let him know you're thinking of him and to find out how he's doing.
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